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Fucking proud to be his servant. - 2/24/2015 2:31:39 PM

louisboy

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I'm a gay personal servant guy. Not into the whips, chains, and pain thing. Yet I can understand them. We are both submitting to authority. There's a lot of talk about "expanding limits". But I haven't heard anyone talk about being proud to be a sub. My Master woke at 7 AM, and by 8 AM, all his bathroom activities were done, he was immaculately dressed, and ate his breakfast. I got up at 5 AM, so all of that was in a leisurely, laid back pace. At 8 AM, I was proud that he was so well served. Just as any sub feels about pleasing his Master.
Once, I forgot to shine his shoes. He noticed that, and all he said was," You didn't shine my shoes". I wished he would have beat me, hit me, or severely punished me. I couldn't be proud of the service I gave him, and that hurt me. The incident happened decades ago, yet the hurt has spanned over the decades. I'm amazed that no one talks about being proud to serve.

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RE: Fucking proud to be his servant. - 2/24/2015 2:36:24 PM

Miyani

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Where are you reading, exactly, where no one talks about being proud to serve? Countless posters here take pride in their relationships, from both sides of the kneel, and it shines through in countless posts.

If a simple mistake is eating at you years later, and I'm not saying this to be mean, but because it's something most people and couples learn from and move past, you might want to talk to someone about that. No one is perfect, expecting perfection of yourself or anyone else is setting yourself up for disappointment.

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RE: Fucking proud to be his servant. - 2/24/2015 4:20:29 PM

littleone35

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I am proud t serve him and i am even more proud to belong to him. I usually don't' say it outright because i would think it was obivious in my posts. For me it is mostl a given. As longe as he is proude of his =irl i am a happy girl.

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RE: Fucking proud to be his servant. - 2/24/2015 4:26:17 PM

louisboy

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Hi,Miyani;
Yup, you think that being proud of your service to your Master would be mentioned quite frequently, but it isn't. I read the last 39 messages. The word "proud" was used in one message, and a maybe in another.
Rich

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RE: Fucking proud to be his servant. - 2/24/2015 5:24:59 PM

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Having pride in your relationship is one thing, but it's something that doesn't need to be droned on about every third message. Every now and again, like in a thread such as this, sure. But do you see many "Proud to be ____" posts on the board? There's no need.

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RE: Fucking proud to be his servant. - 2/24/2015 7:17:10 PM

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I talk about how proud I am to be his often enough, its just it's to him, and not random strangers. What matters more, to me anyway, is the pride he has in owning me and how I can maintain that.

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RE: Fucking proud to be his servant. - 2/24/2015 7:29:41 PM

InHisHeart

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We're proud of our relationship, are proud of each other, we cherish each other, cherish our relationship and everything we are to each other. I can't say I'm proud to be his personal servant because I'm so much more than a servant to him and he sees me as much more than a servant. I don't see a need to mention it when I talk about our relationship. We know how we feel about each other and that's what is important.

I agree with Miyani, if not shinning his shoes decades ago is still causing you hurt, you might want to consider talking to someone about it.

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RE: Fucking proud to be his servant. - 2/24/2015 8:26:23 PM

shiftyw

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I wouldn't say no one talks about it...
I just wouldn't say everyone is in a service relationship.
I think if you check out the positive experiences you'll see people gushing about their siginificant others.

I think my pride shines through in my actions and postings. What mostly matters though, is that he knows it, not everyone here.

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RE: Fucking proud to be his servant. - 2/24/2015 9:35:20 PM

Kaliko

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Oh, I wouldn't be so quick to judge others for not crowing about how much pleasure they take in meeting the needs of their better half. I think humility in service is a more desirable trait in a submissive than pride. Serving him isn't an achievement. It's my place.

If I were religious (which I'm not, even though I know I often sound like I am), I would not be prideful that I've obeyed the laws of my church. It wouldn't be my place to have pride in myself as a servant of God. It would be only by His will that I would have the opportunity to embrace the guidance of the church in the first place. I would be thankful, not prideful.

Now, I think Awareness is a great guy but no, of course, I'm not likening him to God. But I am likening my service to devotion. It's not my place to decide if my service is worthy of pride. I shouldn't have that much concern for my own ego.

Ever a work in progress, though.

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RE: Fucking proud to be his servant. - 2/24/2015 9:47:53 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kaliko

... Serving him isn't an achievement...

No false modesty; some of us remember that man's standards.

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RE: Fucking proud to be his servant. - 2/24/2015 9:57:56 PM

Gauge

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quote:

ORIGINAL: louisboy

I'm a gay personal servant guy. Not into the whips, chains, and pain thing. Yet I can understand them. We are both submitting to authority. There's a lot of talk about "expanding limits". But I haven't heard anyone talk about being proud to be a sub. My Master woke at 7 AM, and by 8 AM, all his bathroom activities were done, he was immaculately dressed, and ate his breakfast. I got up at 5 AM, so all of that was in a leisurely, laid back pace. At 8 AM, I was proud that he was so well served. Just as any sub feels about pleasing his Master.
I'm amazed that no one talks about being proud to serve.

If everyone talked all the time about how proud they were to serve their significant other, this forum would need insulin... and frankly, so would I.

Look man, I am not going to sit here and announce my pride in my slut, no one else needs to know that but her... I am not in a relationship with the forums. Anyone that has heard me talking about my slut knows exactly how I feel about her and what she means to me... I might have used the word pride once, but what does it matter what words I use?

You want to take pride in your service, have at it, but it is a mistake to assume that others are not proud merely because they are not saying it.

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Once, I forgot to shine his shoes. He noticed that, and all he said was," You didn't shine my shoes". I wished he would have beat me, hit me, or severely punished me. I couldn't be proud of the service I gave him, and that hurt me. The incident happened decades ago, yet the hurt has spanned over the decades.

If the hurt has lasted for decades, either the one you serve is a moron for never letting you forget it, or you are not very kind to yourself. As others have suggested, you might want to figure out why that has lasted for decades. You forgot to do something, no biggie.... did you forget ever again? Bet you didn't. So, you learned from your mistake. To put such pressure on yourself to be perfect in every single detail and if you overlook something, you become self-pugilistic for years afterward, that is a problem.

Relax a little and stop living in fear of making a mistake. If you want to live in fear, live in fear of making the same mistake again.

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RE: Fucking proud to be his servant. - 2/24/2015 10:58:35 PM

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If he didn't think that one oversight was unforgiveable, then who are you to tell him that he's wrong? Because if you really were proud to serve him, as opposed to being proud of yourself, then you would have accepted his view of it.

It isn't my place to decide when he should be angry at me or disappointed with me, it's his. If I was the one telling him that I made a mistake and needed to be beaten or whatever, then I would be the one calling the shots, not him.

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RE: Fucking proud to be his servant. - 2/25/2015 4:55:59 AM

sexyred1

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People who constantly crow about how great their relationship is seem to be trying to get validation outside the relationship, rather than their partner or they have a need for attention.

Normally you hear about issues in relationships. My friends and always try to help each other through those issues, but we don't go on and on about how amazing things are when we are in happy relationships.

Why? Because your friends and you know if you are happy and it's disingenuous to brag, other than on the positive experiences section of a website. Now, I dont mind when established couples share what works for them in the context of the questions on the boards.

And, as Gauge said, I don't need insulin shock.

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RE: Fucking proud to be his servant. - 3/2/2015 10:27:28 AM

louisboy

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If you're not proud of your service, what are you? Are you nothing more than a sack of potatoes that anybody can do with whatever they want? If you can't differentiate yourself from a bunch of russets, you got problems. BDSM implies a relationship between two people-not a guy and a vegetable. If he wants an air head, he gets a blow up doll. Somehow I just can find all those boring posts about subs being "proud" of their service, they must be on some other website then. Pseudo-psychologically speaking, a sub's pride is the difference between "expanding limits" and a Restraining Order. And it doesn't take a sack of potatoes to figure that out.

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RE: Fucking proud to be his servant. - 3/2/2015 10:30:16 AM

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Oh boy...

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RE: Fucking proud to be his servant. - 3/2/2015 10:43:40 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: louisboy

If you're not proud of your service, what are you? Are you nothing more than a sack of potatoes that anybody can do with whatever they want? If you can't differentiate yourself from a bunch of russets, you got problems. BDSM implies a relationship between two people-not a guy and a vegetable. If he wants an air head, he gets a blow up doll. Somehow I just can find all those boring posts about subs being "proud" of their service, they must be on some other website then. Pseudo-psychologically speaking, a sub's pride is the difference between "expanding limits" and a Restraining Order. And it doesn't take a sack of potatoes to figure that out.

I see.

So, you are into PDSM? Do you practice Safe Sane and Consacktual?

Good thing that we are talking about human beings. Kinky potatoes sound boring.

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RE: Fucking proud to be his servant. - 3/2/2015 10:44:02 AM

oldspankster

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If you are not proud of the service you provide your 'D' .... you should be doing something else, with someone else, as in finding another
'D' you can be proud serving.

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RE: Fucking proud to be his servant. - 3/2/2015 10:51:40 AM

littleladybug

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quote:

ORIGINAL: louisboy

If you're not proud of your service, what are you?

Ummm...me?

I don't choose to make posts about it because, well, what is the point of it? Getting feedback from people on the internet doesn't enhance my relationship in any way.

I speak about my man on here, sure. I speak about the good, bad and ugly about what we go through. But, for me to even consider saying in every post, "OMG, I just LOVE serving my man, he's the bestest Dom ever" just doesn't compute. What purpose would that even serve?

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RE: Fucking proud to be his servant. - 3/2/2015 10:57:18 AM

ExiledTyrant

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quote:

ORIGINAL: louisboy

If you're not proud of your service, what are you? Are you nothing more than a sack of potatoes that anybody can do with whatever they want? If you can't differentiate yourself from a bunch of russets, you got problems. BDSM implies a relationship between two people-not a guy and a vegetable. If he wants an air head, he gets a blow up doll. Somehow I just can find all those boring posts about subs being "proud" of their service, they must be on some other website then. Pseudo-psychologically speaking, a sub's pride is the difference between "expanding limits" and a Restraining Order. And it doesn't take a sack of potatoes to figure that out.

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RE: Fucking proud to be his servant. - 3/2/2015 2:17:03 PM

louisboy

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Dear Gauge;
GROAN!

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