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Bigbywolf87 -> finding a mistress as a mate (2/25/2015 6:29:20 AM)
How does one go about finding a mistress as a mate? All the profiles I read look like they all deal with more then one person which is cool, but to find one to love...how does that work?

ExiledTyrant -> RE: finding a mistress as a mate (2/25/2015 6:31:53 AM)
Usually you put the horse in front of the cart. Find someone you are compatible with on a vanilla level then check your kinky compatibility.

DarkSteven -> RE: finding a mistress as a mate (2/25/2015 5:21:17 PM)
I'm sorry, but I'd advise against that right now. Your profile indicates that you're a Dom leaning switch. Try some things and see whether you're Dom, sub, or switch before committing to an LTR.

SeekingTrinity -> RE: finding a mistress as a mate (2/25/2015 6:33:10 PM)
~FRing it~ Sweetie, you posted another thread looking for advice on how to find a submissive female for a mate. Best advice I can give you is to figure out you and what you are looking for first...and then begin your search.

tylerWILLsubmit -> RE: finding a mistress as a mate (2/25/2015 11:19:39 PM)
Patience, and understanding that females get lots of messages, so be polite, be interesting, read their profile, and more patience.

Bigbywolf87 -> RE: finding a mistress as a mate (2/27/2015 8:03:44 AM)
I keep getting different defintions of dom. Some are saying the are looking for for slaves which is not me. But I like the Idea of being tied up and beaten and being left at her mercy. But that is only in privacy, I have an outside life. What im seeing on here at least is doms try to control every aspect of life Or they want multiple slaves.

ExiledTyrant -> RE: finding a mistress as a mate (2/27/2015 8:05:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Bigbywolf87 I keep getting different defintions of dom. Some are saying the are looking for for slaves which is not me. But I like the Idea of being tied up and beaten and being left at her mercy. But that is only in privacy, I have an outside life. What im seeing on here at least is doms try to control every aspect of life Or they want multiple slaves. Dom Domme Dominant They Dominate.

GoddessManko -> RE: finding a mistress as a mate (2/27/2015 8:08:42 AM)
Definitely all of the above. Patience, understanding and finding someone who is mentally and emotionally compatible. It is the same as vanilla dating where you get to know someone first before proceeding. Could be one date, weeks. months or years. Whatever pace you both are comfortable. Expectations and limits should also be discussed though if you are into kink play and not submission you are a kinky bottom.. Some people can bottom for anyone as long as they fulfill their kink wish list. But you sound like you want one on the premise of love and affection so proceed as such. Good luck!

LookieNoNookie -> RE: finding a mistress as a mate (2/27/2015 5:11:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Bigbywolf87 How does one go about finding a mistress as a mate? All the profiles I read look like they all deal with more then one person which is cool, but to find one to love...how does that work? Haven't read the follow ons but...I think you're asking a valid question. The answer is....be honest. Be real. Don't go for the obvious (you are a male after all). Just be you....I've found WONDERFUL (fabulous) women herein by simply being.....me. Some that I'll never be able to be anything other than, in love with. Some that will never have the emotional capacity to love. (Some don't have it...some will never have it). Sometimes you get a 17 and the dealer gets a 21. Can't win 'em all but....you can play honestly and...in the end.....get something fabulous out of the hand played.

NookieNotes -> RE: finding a mistress as a mate (2/28/2015 2:00:33 AM)
That's lovely, Lookie.

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