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Gauge -> RE: Submissives Lack Self-Discipline (2/25/2015 11:08:54 AM)
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ORIGINAL: ChrisDomLA
I should say most people, in general, lack self-discipline. I met a female submissive through Craigslist a while ago and we have been talking about her moving in with me. So we tried a "trial period." She starts whining that reading one paragraph from the Lord's word is too much for her. It's too hard. Can you believe that?
Self-discipline creates magic in our lives. All our dreams can come true if we practice self-discipline.
When one opens one's mouth with the specific intent to ram one's foot down one's gullet like an endoscope and one does it with surprising consistency... one should begin to examine whether or not to open one's mouth at all.
Kid, you have so much to learn about life in general, let alone BDSM. I read your profile and I have to admit, I laughed out loud at the fact that you underwent "One Day of Intensive Training" with some random dude you met at your local BDSM scene... and you thought this was enough. In fact, if he thought that would be enough... that is all you really need to know about that guy. That is kind of like thinking that attending one day of flight school makes you a fighter pilot.
Forcing someone to memorize scripture if they do not share your belief system is ridiculously disrespectful. You aren't going to convert people by forcing your God down their throats... see recorded history for examples. If you really want to convert people, live what you believe.
Speaking in sweeping generalizations is pretty much a bad idea in most cases. If your submissive lacks self-discipline, that says more about you than it does about them. If you are this uber-dominant from your one day crash course, you should know that if your sub lacks self-discipline, that you can help them with that. Those kinds of personality flaws can be corrected over time but it takes patience, love, and understanding, all of which you are in short supply of having. You also have to have someone willing to change that lack of self-discipline before you even try.
You are 18 years old, contrary to what you may believe, you do not have life all figured out... of that I assure you. Because you don't have life all figured out, I can pretty much say that you don't have the BDSM lifestyle all figured out either. So, if I may offer some advice... slow the fuck down. A good dominant is a good listener. You need self-discipline to be a good dominant, you appear to lack patience... never a good sign. Before you try to move a submissive in with you, find out whether or not you are compatible with them... unless, of course, you like to rush into things and make big mistakes... then go for it.
In the General BDSM section there is a book list at the top of the posts... I would normally post a link for you but I am not going to do that... because you should find it on your own. Being a dominant is not an add water and stir kind of thing, you need to learn about what to do and what not to do and in the process, you get to discover a great deal about yourself. Life is a marathon, not a sprint, and it is best that you learn that now... rather than later.
I am sure you have all the good intentions in the world, but all the good intentions in the world are not going to help you if you have no idea what it means to be a dominant.
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