Gauge
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I am of the opinion that slut shaming is not going to go away, just as other forms of bullying are not going to go away, and people need to learn the skills necessary to deal with it. But unless we actively fight against bullying, it will do more than just exist, it will take over.
No more than it took over before all this "awareness" stuff.
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Different people fight in different ways.
Agreed.
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I posted this because I thought it would be interesting, considering the slut shaming thread that is going on.
Some of the comments on that thread disturbed me, but people are set in their opinions and weren't going to change their minds, so I haven't bothered to get invested in it.
Not sure which thread that is, but I am not questioning your motives, or your post for that matter. My response was an editorial on the video.
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I am the type of person that has tried very hard not to let this affect me. I have been slut shamed, but I dealt with it. I am the type of person who, once someone starts to go down that road with me, will stand up and own whatever I did that prompted their behavior, then dare them to finish what they started. I have had to do that, on more than one occasion. And as a result, I have been called far worse than just slut.
A year or so into my sobriety someone questioned whether or not I had actually stopped drinking. Now, I was going to 3 meetings a day and working fucking hard as hell to maintain my sobriety. That I was questioned really pissed me off until I came to the realization of two things. The first was that people are going to think what they want about me and there isn't a thing I can do about it. The second was that I knew the truth and whether or not they believed me didn't matter. My point is that we can't control other people, the best we can do is learn to handle ourselves.
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But there are reasons that I am that way, just as there are reasons that you are the way you are. Not everyone had the same experiences growing up as either one of us.
This is true, however humans historically have been shitty to other humans ever since someone wanted something that someone else had. While my parents tried their best with what they were able to teach me, I still had to figure out a way to deal with things. Crowing about being bullied was never one of the ways I learned to cope, that is my point. Finding my way through all of that taught me important lessons which lasted a lifetime thus far. I cannot help but feel that the more we coddle people that are bullied, the less they will be able to deal with it. I will give the caveat that I grew up without the Internet so the world, for bullies, got way bigger than ever before possible.
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Something in this documentary could be just the thing that inspires someone to do exactly what you are saying.
It is apparent in the other thread that some people on here take this very personally, and have reason to do so. It seems to me that some of them might find this interesting as well. And I had no desire to derail that thread by posting this there.
I totally respect your motives and reasoning. 
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There are points in the video that I agree with, and disagree with. There are things that I cannot relate to. But my experiences are not everyone's experiences.
If everyone shared the same experiences, life would be dull.
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