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MissAmanda11 -> Seeking some tips. (3/4/2015 5:30:35 PM)

Looking for some doms to give me some tips as a new Dom. My slave is more experienced and luckily does well explaining but I want a girls perspective!



Baroana -> RE: Seeking some tips. (3/4/2015 5:59:00 PM)

Aside from the books you can read, the articles you can read, and the professionals you can hire for sessions, I don't think there's much help to be found. Each relationship is unique, and you've got to figure it out for yourself.

Also, you did not even ask a specific question.



Gauge -> RE: Seeking some tips. (3/4/2015 7:15:14 PM)


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ORIGINAL: MissAmanda11

Looking for some doms to give me some tips as a new Dom. My slave is more experienced and luckily does well explaining but I want a girls perspective!


Not certain why you would need only a girls perspective, but the best advice I can give you is educate yourself as much as you possibly can. Here is a book list you might find helpful: http://www.collarchat.com/m_1726118/tm.htm



MistressFiera -> RE: Seeking some tips. (3/5/2015 12:57:36 PM)

My advice would be to get into real life and go to the munches. Many of those do demos and are heavy on education. Then you will have experience, friends that are in your area and in the scene and you will get to go to the play parties and one day do your own scene! If you do not know how to do this or what is in your area message me and I will find you something specific!



MissAmanda11 -> RE: Seeking some tips. (3/5/2015 7:52:45 PM)

Haha I have so much to learn there's just no one simple question. I have done a great deal of reading online but am at the point where I am more interested in hearing others experiences and how they approach situations. Knowledge is power.



GoddessManko -> RE: Seeking some tips. (3/5/2015 8:02:43 PM)

I would agree with those and take the advice about munches to sort of fast track learning primarily about kinks and aftercare if and when necessary. Get educated about different kinks and what you'd like to try by looking far and wide on the internet, find a playmate and put it into practice. Figure out what kind of submissive you'd like to own, service only, D/s relationship, Master/slave etc. Also workshops with experienced Dommes of various dispositions.



NookieNotes -> RE: Seeking some tips. (3/6/2015 9:05:10 AM)

~FR~

Every situation is different; Most people here are willing to help, but you'll need to put in the effort.

Give us a scenario. Tell us your thoughts. Give us free reign to play with it and tell you what we might do.

Just asking for tips won't work.

Here's a tip: develop your own style. See? That's what you're getting. Because your request is too broad and frankly, comes across as lazy, whether you are lazy or not.



Gauge -> RE: Seeking some tips. (3/6/2015 2:41:06 PM)


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ORIGINAL: MissAmanda11

Haha I have so much to learn there's just no one simple question. I have done a great deal of reading online but am at the point where I am more interested in hearing others experiences and how they approach situations. Knowledge is power.


Oh, well then, that's easy.[8|]

Your first sentence says it all, there is no, one simple question. If you are interested in how others approach things, get involved in your local scene, watch others. As far as different situations go, your question is far to broad to answer. Have any situations that leap to mind or shall we just give you every possible scenario we can think of and hope it applies to you?



RemoteUser -> RE: Seeking some tips. (3/8/2015 10:41:02 PM)

See, now, I read the title of this and what did I think of? A bris, natch.



thishereboi -> RE: Seeking some tips. (3/9/2015 5:55:37 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: MissAmanda11

Haha I have so much to learn there's just no one simple question. I have done a great deal of reading online but am at the point where I am more interested in hearing others experiences and how they approach situations. Knowledge is power.


Sure find out all you can about how to do this by reading and going to events and talking to people and then AFTER you have a clue about what you are going to do, collar a slave and have fun.



DesFIP -> RE: Seeking some tips. (3/12/2015 5:47:24 PM)

You are in Boston, a place with a thriving community. When the snow melts and the T starts running properly, join it. Take workshops, watch others play and ask them specific questions.

But there's nothing specifically female about using a flogger or tying someone. Or telling them to put down their book and go wash the dishes for that matter.



DommeShilo -> RE: Seeking some tips. (6/4/2015 9:43:10 PM)

Join a munch group. Period



Snitch -> RE: Seeking some tips. (6/6/2015 4:50:03 PM)

Munch, FTW



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