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ORIGINAL: tylerWILLsubmit

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ORIGINAL: smileforme50

So tonight I've had messages from 4 different guys all asking me if I "believe in a woman's place".

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Why do they all have to talk in such generalities? I think I would probably respond a lot more favorably if they asked me if I believe in MY place to MY partner....then we might be have a conversation.

To be fair, one might point out that you just made a generalization yourself. The only reason I bring this up, is because even though I doubt that was your intention, sometimes it is hard to avoid.

However, to answer your question, I see it as a stereotype. Much like other stereotypes, I think it is wrong and absolutely despise it. It is one thing to think it, based on society and culture(because let's face, nobody is born with stereotypes), but to act upon it and not bother to oppose it is not right.

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ORIGINAL: smileforme50

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ORIGINAL: tylerWILLsubmit

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ORIGINAL: smileforme50

So tonight I've had messages from 4 different guys all asking me if I "believe in a woman's place".

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Why do they all have to talk in such generalities? I think I would probably respond a lot more favorably if they asked me if I believe in MY place to MY partner....then we might be have a conversation.

To be fair, one might point out that you just made a generalization yourself. The only reason I bring this up, is because even though I doubt that was your intention, sometimes it is hard to avoid.

However, to answer your question, I see it as a stereotype. Much like other stereotypes, I think it is wrong and absolutely despise it. It is one thing to think it, based on society and culture(because let's face, nobody is born with stereotypes), but to act upon it and not bother to oppose it is not right.

I just noticed this.....

When I said "they all" I wasn't talking about "all men".....because not all men have approached me in this way....and I know that "all men" or even "all Dominant men" feel this way.

What I meant by "they all" was all the men who even approach the concept of "place". They NEVER....and this is not a generality....they NEVER ask if I feel that being submissive is MY place. EVERY time I have had a man refer to my place in the relationship, he brings up the concept of a WOMAN'S place.

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ORIGINAL: MercTech

Harumph....
A woman's place is on planet earth or in near earth orbit and nothing you can say will change my mind.

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It also reveals something inherently disappointing in a man who would ask that question. No one woman OR man can define the place of an entire sex...unless they have degraded them in their own mind.