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gypsyssoul -> RE: happens over and over (7/16/2006 7:33:45 AM)

i was wondering why its up to you .. also and not
your Master to decide ... ?
and may i ask have you pointed this out to him ?
sorry if i missed if you said or not ...
 
 
:: sits quietly to listen ...




LadyHugs -> RE: happens over and over (7/16/2006 7:51:16 AM)

Dear Mystic666, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
I'll agree with LaTigresse's posting.
 
As a dominant, I would inform my slaves as to what I am seeing in other slaves.  Being aware that I am aware, at least gives my slaves an understanding that I am on top of things.  Of course, the slaves see things dominants don't see and should feel free to advise me.
 
I dislike liars and such.  How the person returned and now the third time, sounds like the old thinking of 'third try is the charm.'
 
That said, perhaps unknown to the slaves, which is causing all the upset, is why the dominant may be putting effort into a liar and drama.  Only that dominant will know what his/her intentions are.  Perhaps what is being witnessed is an effort to change the pattern of lying or having to lie of one girl.  Lying can be seen as a habit, as to mask behind as the truth is unwelcomed in vanilla settings or such and just wanting to be accepted.
Habitual liars find it comfortable to lie.  If they can see it isn't necessary to lie anymore it is a freedom they find scary; as it has been a part of them for so very long.  I hope this is the dominant's intention but, again his/her slaves should know him/her best.
 
Perhaps he doesn't see and sees only potential jealousy, envy of two women and sees this third as fresh observation into his/her household.
 
Communication is the key and a 'round table' discussion might be the ideal ticket to put the whole matter onto the table and let everybody speak.
Being able to voice concerns, facts and such; gives more weight than assumptions and judgment without knowing where everybody stands on the matter or the intention of the dominant.  If indeed the dominant is not doing their job in keeping the slaves in his household happy--then he is to be informed, given an opportunity to give a remedy to this situation and grow from it.
 
What is difficult for dominants is to know the behind the scenes of slave to slave interactions.  The slave 'grape-vine' is very powerful.  What we cannot see during slave on slave times, is if it is a power struggle, envy, falsehoods, jealous behavior, personality conflicts, attitude/behavior issues by the original two vs. the one or vice-versa.
 
Perhaps this one lass won't be a good fit in one poly household but, a good fit in another.  That needs to be mentioned.   A happy home really is finding the right recipe for who creates the desire to have a happy home.
The last one into the home really has a hard time fitting in at first.  But, lies shouldn't be tolerated by slaves no matter if first in or last in.
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs




deltadawn -> RE: happens over and over (7/16/2006 9:57:35 AM)

I know, the CM newby speaks...

I would leave it up to the Man in charge......your Master.

Of-course I would ask to give him input but all in all.....it is his call correct?

dawn





littleone35 -> RE: happens over and over (7/16/2006 12:08:52 PM)

I would talk to my Master because the decision is his and tell him Respectfully  about the disruption that this girl causes(if he does not know already) and then leave it up to him th make a choice on what to do.

Matt's littleone




windchymes -> RE: happens over and over (7/16/2006 1:41:25 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Sinergy

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ORIGINAL: windchymes

There's an old saying, if she burns you once, shame on her, but if she burns you twice shame on YOU.



I cannot help but think that submissives into fire play would disagree.

I imagine they would go "she burned me twice, she's a keeper!"

(Apologies for jacking the thread...)

But as usual, this is just me and I could be wrong.

Sinergy


Aw, quit finding holes in all my wise old adages!  [:D]

Here's one for you....."Toasted subs are great....but only at Quizno's!"




mystic666 -> RE: happens over and over (7/17/2006 11:37:27 AM)

I have not had a real heart to heart with Master about this but i did bring up a conversation that he and i had the last time this woman was around. He knows i trust her as far as i can pick her up and throw her.
  Now i think the best advice i have been given here is to now leave this all up to Master to decide if this person can again come into the house and under what capacity.  Have faith and trust in his judgement.  Which is not always easy for us subs and slaves to do when we *think* we can see more than our Masters. ( Then we find out they see more than sometimes we want them to)
  Thank you everyone.




akisha -> RE: happens over and over (7/17/2006 11:57:36 AM)

People rarely if ever change their basic personality. If this girl has done it more then once chances are she'll always do it.

One thing that always made me laff was when the secretary that was banging the boss and ended up marrying him was supprised to find out he was banging the new secretary. [:D]




mystic666 -> RE: happens over and over (7/24/2006 6:07:51 AM)

I think I should post to let the ones who wrote know how things are going.  I have stood back and let Master handle this situation. Predictably this woman again has said "We are all only friends" and then goes back to her old ways. So I am just smiling keeping my mouth shut and waiting , (and being amused) to see how this chapter ends.

   One thing I wonder though. Why can't this house ever just be peaceful, it seems when one drama ends another begins. Oh to move to a cabin way out in the middle of nowhere lol

    Take care all and thanks again




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