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Ariluna -> Dark fantasies (3/24/2015 5:23:24 PM)
How do I know if I can trust a dominant from here, with my darkest fantasies? What guarantees trust with a sadist?

shiftyw -> RE: Dark fantasies (3/24/2015 5:30:21 PM)
What guarantees trust with anyone? I don't get what you're really asking? Do you want to or NOT want to act on those fantasies? Are you afraid they'll tell everyone and out you? Or afraid they'll break limits because they thought you wanted it?

RockaRolla -> RE: Dark fantasies (3/24/2015 5:41:29 PM)
The same way you know to trust anyone. You take the time and get to know them as people.

JVoV -> RE: Dark fantasies (3/24/2015 5:58:55 PM)
Go slowly, build a sense of trust, be honest about your fantasies and limits. Depending on just how dark your fantasies are, it may take a while to be comfortable enough with anyone for you to really let go.

ResidentSadist -> RE: Dark fantasies (3/24/2015 7:14:11 PM)
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GoddessManko -> RE: Dark fantasies (3/24/2015 7:50:07 PM)
LOL limits are your friend. And I too recommend RS. [:D]

JVoV -> RE: Dark fantasies (3/24/2015 8:16:44 PM)
A live video feed, so that we can all be witnesses might help.

UnholyBear -> RE: Dark fantasies (3/24/2015 8:42:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Ariluna How do I know if I can trust a dominant from here, with my darkest fantasies? What guarantees trust with a sadist? It depends on how dark you perceive these fantasies. makes sense to me that you need to develop trust with a person to be able to reveal fantasies you consider dark. Though always keep in mind that some fantasies especially the extreme dark types are best kept a fantasy.

UnholyBear -> RE: Dark fantasies (3/24/2015 8:43:53 PM)
~FR~ I can verify RS does give good thread.

Gauge -> RE: Dark fantasies (3/24/2015 8:45:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Ariluna How do I know if I can trust a dominant from here, with my darkest fantasies? You don't. quote: What guarantees trust with a sadist? Nothing. Perhaps elaboration of what you mean is in order otherwise, I stand by my answers.

DesFIP -> RE: Dark fantasies (3/24/2015 8:46:59 PM)
Same way you know if you can trust anyone. Or do you habitually choose people who lie to you, cheat on you, seek to harm you? Date. Spend lots of time talking. About everything, not just kink. Become friends first. Beyond that, there's no way to know if the dominant in question shares your interests. He could have your chief desire as his hard limit. Just because he's dominant doesn't mean he's a sociopath. Just because someone is a sadist doesn't mean they go around kicking puppies.

Awareness -> RE: Dark fantasies (3/25/2015 12:19:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Ariluna How do I know if I can trust a dominant from here, with my darkest fantasies? What guarantees trust with a sadist? Consistent demonstration of behaviour over time. It will take months, if not years. I think casual play is unwise anyway, but private casual play is brain-dead. You're putting yourself in a power exchange situation with someone who could be a psychopath. The smart thing to do is build connections (with multiple people, if need be) over time so you can assess people's trustworthiness before you trust them. If you're not willing to put in the effort, you'll just end up taking risks. Not smart.

Kana -> RE: Dark fantasies (3/25/2015 2:21:06 PM)
Trust Me. Whisper the darkest desires you have to me and then I'll tell you whether you should share them with someone else But don't be trusting any of these crazy fuckers (points above). They're all 100% predators [sm=excuseme.gif] quote: ORIGINAL: JVoV A live video feed, so that we can all be witnesses might help. And this

GoddessManko -> RE: Dark fantasies (3/25/2015 2:43:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kana Trust Me. Whisper the darkest desires you have to me and then I'll tell you whether you should share them with someone else But don't be trusting any of these crazy fuckers (points above). They're all 100% predators [sm=excuseme.gif] quote: ORIGINAL: JVoV A live video feed, so that we can all be witnesses might help. And this LOL this. And for the first time I disagree with Awareness. The exception to this rule is if you have decent depth perception. Honestly my best encounters included risk (not even knowing what my face looks like, dark alley, that sort of thing) but risk is higher for a female than male so I would not advise. There were no rules, no prediscussed conditions and no expectations. I think we did discuss limits, no idea. I only did it to 1-keep them on their toes. 2- to amuse myself. It was just a bit of casual play and they were obviously in frenzy. Pretty good encounters not to be repeated ever. I have/had a "one time only" rule for casual players. I refuse to casually play now. Someone just offered me $500 bucks. Pointed him thataway.

Kana -> RE: Dark fantasies (3/25/2015 2:51:32 PM)
quote: Someone just offered me $500 bucks. Pointed him thataway. I swear. If I'd been born a woman, I'd have retired a millionaire by 22. I need to go into fin dom

ResidentSadist -> RE: Dark fantasies (3/25/2015 9:57:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GoddessManko LOL limits are your friend. And I too recommend RS. [:D] quote: ORIGINAL: UnholyBear ~FR~ I can verify RS does give good thread. I can feel the love... I love and respect you both. As far as the Op goes, on a serious note, you gotta' trust your gut. When it comes to trusting "a dominant from here", you are talking about an online community which means you should dissolve their online anonymity before you extend trust. Verify who they are before you expose yourself.

DarkSteven -> RE: Dark fantasies (3/25/2015 10:34:03 PM)
I recommend getting into the local community. Go to munches and meet people. Speak with other fem subs - who are good people, and who do they not recommend? Go to play parties. Observe people playing, and see what good technique looks like. Watch couples. See how healthy couples interact.

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Dark fantasies (3/26/2015 2:49:07 AM)
Keep in mind that fantasy doesn't always translate well into reality. Dark fantasies even less so, generally speaking. If someone shows you who they are. Believe them. Don't let your desire for the fantasy blind you to the reality of the person. Leave no evidence of your dark deeds, and if necessary eliminate any witnesses 😜

DerangedUnit -> RE: Dark fantasies (3/26/2015 2:53:27 AM)
Plan for the worst, hope for the best.

Missokyst -> RE: Dark fantasies (3/26/2015 8:30:21 AM)
Online is a great place to dip into fantasies, even the darkest of them. Why? Because if you have sense you give out no personal data, address, phone number, chat about your life, your job, or your family accomplishments. Feeling like you need to shove your head in a kangaroo pouch while Crocodile Dundee pierces your clit with this knife... go for it! It is online, it is fantasy. Now, if you want to know if you can trust someone you meet here not to exploit your fantasy in person, you don't. Best advice is get to know someone well before you over share

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