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goodsubinCO -> quick question (3/25/2015 7:17:50 PM)

Am I the only one that knows that there is NO WAY that I'm slave material... and yet despite this I get guys telling me what a wonderful slave I will be.... Like seriously?


Been PM a "master" who gets offended at a drop of a hat, when that happens he just sends me a message saying Peace... I merely asked if all of his previous women required him to tell them to call AAA when their cars wouldn't start and let everyone know who is expecting me at church that I won't be making it to church tonight... He took offense... Mind you I have told him from the start that I'm not a slave nor do I expect that to change. He's also into Gor, I'm clueless about that... and now he won't even talk to me about it.. but he wants to be my Master/Daddy... like WTF???

If he can't handle my questions thru text how would he handle me in person.. just get pissed off and say Peace out???? smh.... WTF!!!!


Sheryl



Gauge -> RE: quick question (3/25/2015 7:31:39 PM)


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ORIGINAL: goodsubinCO

Am I the only one that knows that there is NO WAY that I'm slave material... and yet despite this I get guys telling me what a wonderful slave I will be.... Like seriously?


Been PM a "master" who gets offended at a drop of a hat, when that happens he just sends me a message saying Peace... I merely asked if all of his previous women required him to tell them to call AAA when their cars wouldn't start and let everyone know who is expecting me at church that I won't be making it to church tonight... He took offense... Mind you I have told him from the start that I'm not a slave nor do I expect that to change. He's also into Gor, I'm clueless about that... and now he won't even talk to me about it.. but he wants to be my Master/Daddy... like WTF???

If he can't handle my questions thru text how would he handle me in person.. just get pissed off and say Peace out???? smh.... WTF!!!!


Sheryl


Don't forget about the relationship part of things. If you can't see yourself in a relationship with someone, there is no way a Master/Slave or Dominant/Submissive relationship will work.



WinsomeDefiance -> RE: quick question (3/25/2015 7:41:24 PM)

There have been a few men in my life that I absolutely adored and were wildly hot for but who required M/s relationships and I have learned through experience that I suck at being a slave. I just chalk it up to incompatibility and lust after them from afar. Best of luck in your search.



DarkSteven -> RE: quick question (3/25/2015 10:44:05 PM)

If someone tells you you'd make a good slave, either he has been speaking with you for weeks and understands you thoroughly, or else he's trying to push you into the mold of what he thinks he wants.

Some idiots wants a no limits slave because they figure that's easy and they'll never talk back. If someone calls himself a master but doesn't understand the heavy demands a Master must place on himself, they don't deserve consideration. Actually, someone calling himself a Master is 99% guaranteed to not deserve the title.

Gor is something else. Basically, John Norman wrote a bunch of preposterous fantasy novels about a world called Gor that basically meshed a Dungeons and Dragons game with Arthurian England. Some people derived a code of conduct from it. Like kinky Trekkies in a way. Assuming you're talking about Colorado, I don't know of any legit Goreans south of Denver.

I have no idea whether you'd be slave material or not. However, I can tell you now that, if you are one, it would take one helluva man to command that level of respect and obedience from you. You will never be a slave until/unless you find a man that you would consider worthy to be your Master. Based on the way you're referring to Mr. Gorean, he's not it.



DaddySatyr -> RE: quick question (3/25/2015 10:50:39 PM)


I think you'd make a really good brain surgeon. Of course, I don't know you, at all and I'm just saying that because I am encouraging as many people as possible to study brain disorders, purely for selfish reasons.



Michael



WinsomeDefiance -> RE: quick question (3/26/2015 2:36:25 AM)

I've found that many times a person will project what they want rather than see the individual they are looking at.



DarkSteven -> RE: quick question (3/26/2015 3:41:47 AM)


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ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

I've found that many times a person will project what they want rather than see the individual they are looking at.


"To a man with a hammer, everything looks like a nail." - Anon.

Actually, my girlfriend Winnie's post made me laugh because it reminded me that there are about a dozen women on the collarchat forums that I've referred to online as my girlfriends over the years. Fond memories. [:)]



puella -> RE: quick question (3/26/2015 5:03:03 PM)

To be fair (this is going to irk some, sorry already!) , given the right circumstances and stimuli, anyone who is naturally submissive can make a good slave. For how long, and for whom... well therein lies the rub. Being good at being a slave does not mean it is good for you. Some people can thrive in that relationship in a way that they cannot in any other. Some can be an exceptional slave for an individual (or individuals) but the cost is great to their very self.

Being self aware enough to know that you can 'go there' and go there well doesn't mean that that is where you will personally thrive. Keep that in mind.



DesFIP -> RE: quick question (3/26/2015 6:36:39 PM)

Block and delete, don't waste time responding.

I'm submissive to one. Because in all my life he's the only one who understood that he needed to prove to me his excellence at decision making, that he could be trusted with authority over my life.

The rest of them wanted things they did not deserve, did not earn, could not earn.

Unfortunately a lot of guys with neither communication skills or relationship skills believe that being a dominant or master negates the necessity to learn those skills. That they can order their partner to get them a beer and ignore them the rest of the time, and that anyone who calls themselves a sub will be fine with that.

And that's why they still are without a gf, like this idiot will continue to be alone. Because he doesn't understand what's required to make a relationship work, vanilla or kinky. And he's too lazy to do the work required to be someone who can get a healthy relationship and maintain it.



orgasmdenial12 -> RE: quick question (3/27/2015 12:38:02 AM)

So you got talking with a clueless wannabe and now you're surprised that he's a clueless wannabe?

If you and a Master are not compatible, then why keep on talking? You're bound to offend each other at some point. Just polite extricate yourself and move on to someone who is compatible with you.



BitaTruble -> RE: quick question (3/27/2015 8:43:59 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: goodsubinCO

Am I the only one that knows that there is NO WAY that I'm slave material... and yet despite this I get guys telling me what a wonderful slave I will be.... Like seriously?


Been PM a "master" who gets offended at a drop of a hat, when that happens he just sends me a message saying Peace... I merely asked if all of his previous women required him to tell them to call AAA when their cars wouldn't start and let everyone know who is expecting me at church that I won't be making it to church tonight... He took offense... Mind you I have told him from the start that I'm not a slave nor do I expect that to change. He's also into Gor, I'm clueless about that... and now he won't even talk to me about it.. but he wants to be my Master/Daddy... like WTF???

If he can't handle my questions thru text how would he handle me in person.. just get pissed off and say Peace out???? smh.... WTF!!!!


Sheryl


Meh, don't sweat it. Just start with the label of Sheryl.. all the other stuff comes after that anyway and getting on the same page
with definitions is part of the process and half the fun if you allow it. Doms, Dicks and Hairy's are a dime a dozen.. so do yourself
a favor and go for the guy first and 'his' label second. Whether he calls you babe or slave on your 20th anniversary is irrelevant..

.. do his kisses still make your knees buckle, does his power still make you bend that knee? That's what going to matter.



goodsubinCO -> RE: quick question (3/27/2015 4:02:09 PM)

I want to thank each of you for your replies. It's helped me figure some things out that I couldn't wrap my head around. We haven't met IRL at this point I see more problems than fun. And to be totally honest he makes me feel like I'm dealing with a toddler most of the time, if he doesn't get what he wants he just says Peace out and is gone... What the heck happened to communication??? He claims to have had a slave once before, and she's with a new master, so I requested that he speak to the other master and ask if I could talk to the slave... That was months ago... about three weeks ago I asked how that was going... He said he had no intention of doing that.

What irks me is he won't even consider taking me as a submissive first to see if we are compatible. But by his actions, I can see that I seriously doubt I would even try to meet for a coffee or anything else...

I'd write more but I have a migraine headache and the light from the screen is making my head hurt all that much worse.. When I get over this headache I will return and re-read everything and post more... Again THANK YOU ALL!

Sheryl



Bhruic -> RE: quick question (3/28/2015 5:38:23 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven


quote:

ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

I've found that many times a person will project what they want rather than see the individual they are looking at.


"To a man with a hammer, everything looks like a nail." - Anon.

Actually, my girlfriend Winnie's post made me laugh because it reminded me that there are about a dozen women on the collarchat forums that I've referred to online as my girlfriends over the years. Fond memories. [:)]



... And to a man with a John Norman book in his hand, everything looks like a slave hehe.



goodsubinCO -> RE: quick question (3/28/2015 1:59:36 PM)

Again, thank you all.... I have read all of your posts... I'm going to continue my search and just chalk this up to yet another learning experience.

Sincerely,

Sheryl



wannapleez -> RE: quick question (4/11/2015 4:16:53 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
Like kinky Trekkies in a way.


I saw The Kinky Trekkies playing a local club back in '87. Great show!



markyugen -> RE: quick question (4/27/2015 2:42:27 PM)

Kinky trekkies? Mr Sulu in leather chaps going down on Spock at the local Power Exchange is an image I do NOT need in my head right now!



BitaTruble -> RE: quick question (4/27/2015 4:00:09 PM)


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ORIGINAL: markyugen

Kinky trekkies? Mr Sulu in leather chaps going down on Spock at the local Power Exchange is an image I do NOT need in my head right now!


So when would be a good time to put that image in your head? ;)



sexyred1 -> RE: quick question (4/28/2015 7:32:06 AM)

If a guy responded to my questions with "peace out", I would tell him the 70's called and they need him back.

I could never take that seriously.



mnottertail -> RE: quick question (4/28/2015 7:34:01 AM)

right on.



Kana -> RE: quick question (4/28/2015 7:53:03 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyred1

If a guy responded to my questions with "peace out", I would tell him the 70's called and they need him back.

I could never take that seriously.

Fuck Red. Peace out already, eh



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