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hi can eney one help me - 4/11/2015 12:35:00 PM

blw123

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I got my hart broke by a mistress that i have been seeing for a long time she ceep on putting me off saying she was besey to come back later. After that she retired. I cryed for a long time still do when i think about it. It has been years now and i woold like to get back in to it agan . But have not found eney one. What am i doing rong can you help me....

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RE: hi can eney one help me - 4/11/2015 12:48:19 PM

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As politely as possible, the Internet is a medium where spelling and writing go a long way. I'd recommend confining your search to in-person events like munches. Your writing is not strong.

Then think of what a WOMAN would want. She doesn't want to hear about how another woman broke your heart years ago and you're still getting over it. She wants to know that you're available, and what she could do with you. Will you take her out for dinner, or pack a lunch for a park? Will you go for walks with her, or take her fishing? Pretend that the play times will only be a couple of hours a week - what else will you want to do with her? Look forward to a life with her, not backward.

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RE: hi can eney one help me - 4/11/2015 5:00:00 PM

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Steven you're ruining a good, badly written, whine with logic.
You should know better. lol

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RE: hi can eney one help me - 4/11/2015 5:37:29 PM

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Yes i see now

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RE: hi can eney one help me - 4/11/2015 7:08:06 PM

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From what I've witnessed from male subs on this site, often when they complain they can't find anyone or run into all the fakes it boils down to one underlying issue: lack of patience.

I can see this in your writing style. You're trying to take shortcuts as much as possible, probably because you want your message seen NOW and don't care how it looks. Are you using the same approach when meeting people? Think about that for a moment.

Slow down, stop messaging every female whose picture strikes your fancy, and look for compatibility instead. It might sound exciting to find someone just to play, but you clearly have a tendency to get emotionally attached. It'll go much easier for you if you save that devotion for a woman who's worth it.

I second DS's recommendation to meet people in the real world. Not only can you present yourself better, many women prefer this approach for reasons of safety. The key is to present yourself as a real human with needs and capabilities, not a horny profile desperate to play.

Good luck.

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RE: hi can eney one help me - 4/11/2015 7:26:56 PM

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Thanks that helps a lot i will slow down

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RE: hi can eney one help me - 4/14/2015 11:34:23 AM

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This reeks of desperation, an instant turn-off for most women. The kind of predatory people attracted to desperation are the kind of people you want to avoid, especially in the emotional state you're in.
Roxie gave you good advice about slowing down. It would be in your best interest to take a step back, take a breath, and honestly evaluate how you got into this situation.
From the words "busy" and "retired" it sounds like you fell in love with a professional domina. She did the right thing by trying to distance herself from you, both to retain her professional status and to not lead you on. While a pro agrees to take on responsibility for your well-being, that is not the same thing as agreeing to love someone.
As a general rule you should never fall in love with a pro. You would essentially be setting yourself up for heartbreak.
If I were you I would also stop to consider what kind of a relationship I wanted and what I would want to get out of it. Are you looking for a relationship where your domme loves you? If so, you might consider finding a partner who will meet those needs instead of seeing a pro. As the saying goes: "Can't buy love."
You might be more successful in your endeavors if you take the time to get over your former mistress. Steven is right, most woman do not want a man whose mind and heart clearly still belong to another person.

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RE: hi can eney one help me - 4/14/2015 7:52:09 PM

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However, if you are truly still grieving, then I would suggest grief therapy is in order. Sometimes we get stuck and need help moving on. And there's no shame in doing so.

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RE: hi can eney one help me - 4/24/2015 2:52:44 PM

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I am a man of science my words are what they are and I type how i see fit and English is a curious language..although i do not understand text spake. Your thread i understand and typos (tuts and hmm - his words were worth more than that, were they not)

Your thread said unto I:
I am alone and many of us real uns exist in this state in perpetuity are truly alone, and yet most, not all(never I) hark back to sometime, long, long ago where they remember only the good times, never the bad - which oft outweigh those times

Frankenstein said that, you know it it one of the most beautiful clips I post the vidoe on here? anyone? on the other site can do here not sure?

The Monster: Alone: bad. Friend: good! you need to see the clip to truly understand it as the olde man is blind.

That aside
You are alone why do you wish someone that does not want thee

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RE: hi can eney one help me - 4/30/2015 7:57:53 AM

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Hmm i always forget my name on here although these forums are dying a death - reflects the site does it not and its usebase - I wonder why that is (rolls eyeballs)and what is being done about it.

belated link

Alone bad friend good

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RE: hi can eney one help me - 5/2/2015 10:59:24 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: blw123

Yes i see now

Is English your first language?

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