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wannapleez -> taking a (female) sub to a strip club (4/19/2015 12:16:45 AM)
Yes, I self-identify as a sub. I am a Dom to exactly one woman (long story how we got there) and have no interest in doing so with any other woman. Hence, I do not self-identify as a switch. So if you're wondering, "What's he doing here?", now you know. I am taking my (female) sub to a (female dancer) strip club next weekend. She is quite bi-curious, but "curious" is as far as anything has gotten from a R/L perspective. Per my instruction, she is wearing a sleeveless, strapless summer dress (with nothing underneath). Any other thoughts (either in preparation or while at the club) to enhance her or my experience? FWIW, I really enjoy watching girl-on-girl action (even mild stuff like kissing and the occasional wandering hand).

MasterDrakkula -> RE: taking a (female) sub to a strip club (4/19/2015 10:02:46 AM)
There are no absolutes in life * I could follow that up with a theorem about how we know nothing at all* but I am rationing words this eve* But what you stated is perfectly normal and yet I rarely see people talk of such things - but the absolute thingy[:(] Never been to strip club and I have no idea why you are taking her You would be better of getting a bottle of wine and asking a true bi/gay friend over if you have one - i used to, you know, so that’s what I did, and they got along great a few years ago and ravishing malarkey was had by all…as it should be. Prep – her mind and soul, people: we are inherently who we will always be, so no conditioning, and buy her shoes as I read on the internet if you buy women shoes they become instantly wet and up for absolutely anything.

RockaRolla -> RE: taking a (female) sub to a strip club (4/19/2015 10:06:01 AM)
I'd avoid making the assumption that she'll be able to get it on with one of the dancers.

DesFIP -> RE: taking a (female) sub to a strip club (4/19/2015 3:57:24 PM)
Does she enjoy being kissed and/or groped by strange women? Because that's of more importance than you finding it hot. If she doesn't, if she finds this to be a hard limit, you may find yourself subless shortly after forcing this on her.

peppermint -> RE: taking a (female) sub to a strip club (4/19/2015 10:23:06 PM)
I went to a strip club once. It wasn't a busy night. Some guy finally paid one of the girls to give him a personal dance. He sat on a couch away from the other customers and she rubbed up against him, straddled his lap. The customer was not permitted to touch at all. No one told me what that cost the guy. Basically we got to watch a girl dance on a stage and people could give her tips. If you want something more than just watching, you pay for it.

wannapleez -> RE: taking a (female) sub to a strip club (4/20/2015 12:14:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RockaRolla I'd avoid making the assumption that she'll be able to get it on with one of the dancers. I'm assuming nothing. My request was how to enhance, not how to guarantee anything.

wannapleez -> RE: taking a (female) sub to a strip club (4/20/2015 12:16:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP Does she enjoy being kissed and/or groped by strange women? Because that's of more importance than you finding it hot. If she doesn't, if she finds this to be a hard limit, you may find yourself subless shortly after forcing this on her. This was her idea, so I think I'm safe. And who said "force"?

wannapleez -> RE: taking a (female) sub to a strip club (4/20/2015 12:19:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterDrakkula You would be better of getting a bottle of wine and asking a true bi/gay friend over if you have one I don't want "better" -- I want to know how to enhance what it is my control.

MariaB -> RE: taking a (female) sub to a strip club (4/20/2015 2:53:20 AM)
Take your girl to a strip club in a pretty summer dress and sandals and she's going to be getting a lot more attention from the men than she is from the woman. I would say, go to a reputable joint that has decent security and 'no touch' rules. Girls who work in strip clubs see it as work and anything that is offered up, has a price tag attached. If you want a lesbian type experience you will probably have to dip in your wallet. Why not buy her a personal dancer? Just make sure you understand club rules and don't expect either of them can get feely touchy with one another. Seedy back street joints are hot but can be dangerous places to take females to. I once took an ex sub along to a well known dark and seedy joint. She's a trans-girl with a bit of a slutty side. What actually happened was, as we smooched closely on the dance floor all manner of hands started to touch me up. I was harsh and told them to back off but two of the guys, who were clearly drunk, got aggressive and continued regardless. I'm suddenly circled by men and my trans-girl (who was a big tough bloke) is being held back. The sudden realization that I was in serious danger of a rape situation was really scary. Fortunately for us the security guards saw what was happening and stepped in. Even then though there was an all out fight and my trans girl took a real beating and I ended up with glass embedded in my hand. Do not take your girl to such a club because you won't be able to protect her if things go horribly wrong.

noob4friends -> RE: taking a (female) sub to a strip club (4/20/2015 3:24:57 AM)
Enhance the experience how? She can't kiss the strippers. At best, it is going to be a dance where she might be allowed to touch them in some places. Aside from that, it is just watching.

ExiledTyrant -> RE: taking a (female) sub to a strip club (4/20/2015 3:53:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: noob4friends Enhance the experience how? She can't kiss the strippers. At best, it is going to be a dance where she might be allowed to touch them in some places. Aside from that, it is just watching. The strippers can, and most likely will, kiss her.

Kaliko -> RE: taking a (female) sub to a strip club (4/20/2015 5:14:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wannapleez Yes, I self-identify as a sub. I am a Dom to exactly one woman (long story how we got there) and have no interest in doing so with any other woman. Hence, I do not self-identify as a switch. So if you're wondering, "What's he doing here?", now you know. I am taking my (female) sub to a (female dancer) strip club next weekend. She is quite bi-curious, but "curious" is as far as anything has gotten from a R/L perspective. Per my instruction, she is wearing a sleeveless, strapless summer dress (with nothing underneath). Any other thoughts (either in preparation or while at the club) to enhance her or my experience? FWIW, I really enjoy watching girl-on-girl action (even mild stuff like kissing and the occasional wandering hand). Has she been to a strip club before? I'll answer on the assumption she hasn't. I've never been to a strip club, either, so I can answer from that frame of mind. If it were me, I think what would enhance my experience would be, first of all, feeling comfortable about myself in this new environment. If she feels good in a sleeveless, strapless summer dress, then good. If that's your choice and not hers, then I think I might allow her the decision as to what to wear. If it were me, I might be a little self conscious and would appreciate being in something that makes me feel good - not necessarily physically, but emotionally. You know how we all that have favorite dress or shirt that we feel great in? Something like that. Because I get a little out of sorts in a new environment like that if it's loud or crowded or too bar-like. And, perhaps she might feel self-conscious being among attractive strippers. Of course, if the purpose is to specifically put her in a spot of discomfort, then disregard. I would be worried if I was asked to not wear anything under my dress. I guess maybe it depends on how short the dress is, but...not knowing how seedy the place is, personally, I'd be more comfortable with wearing something underneath. I might be a little bit of a prude that way. :) But, feeling concerned like that would detract from my experience, for sure. If it were me, I think that I most would enjoy appreciating the women and their form. Seeing as we can pretty fairly assume you're not taking any strippers home with you that night, then I think I would like to sit and take in exactly what they're there for. Maybe being asked to pay attention to what outfits I found most appealing, or which women I found most attractive to me and then talking it all over later would be fun. If she appreciates objectification, maybe go there with the intention of you or her picking out which woman she will dress herself up as so you can fuck "the stripper" instead of your sub. Maybe some orgasm denial for a few weeks prior to the event? Then edging the day or so before?

Kaliko -> RE: taking a (female) sub to a strip club (4/20/2015 5:22:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant quote: ORIGINAL: noob4friends Enhance the experience how? She can't kiss the strippers. At best, it is going to be a dance where she might be allowed to touch them in some places. Aside from that, it is just watching. The strippers can, and most likely will, kiss her. Ugh. Really? That just ruined any interest I might have had to go to a strip club. I don't mind the thought of kissing a woman. But kissing a mouth - any mouth, man or woman - that has kissed God knows how many other customers that night? Never mind.

ExiledTyrant -> RE: taking a (female) sub to a strip club (4/20/2015 5:25:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kaliko quote: ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant quote: ORIGINAL: noob4friends Enhance the experience how? She can't kiss the strippers. At best, it is going to be a dance where she might be allowed to touch them in some places. Aside from that, it is just watching. The strippers can, and most likely will, kiss her. Ugh. Really? That just ruined any interest I might have had to go to a strip club. I don't mind the thought of kissing a woman. But kissing a mouth - any mouth, man or woman - that has kissed God knows how many other customers that night? Never mind. Odd... you're in an LDR with Awareness, right?

Kaliko -> RE: taking a (female) sub to a strip club (4/20/2015 5:33:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant quote: ORIGINAL: Kaliko quote: ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant quote: ORIGINAL: noob4friends Enhance the experience how? She can't kiss the strippers. At best, it is going to be a dance where she might be allowed to touch them in some places. Aside from that, it is just watching. The strippers can, and most likely will, kiss her. Ugh. Really? That just ruined any interest I might have had to go to a strip club. I don't mind the thought of kissing a woman. But kissing a mouth - any mouth, man or woman - that has kissed God knows how many other customers that night? Never mind. Odd... you're in an LDR with Awareness, right? Yes.

DarkSteven -> RE: taking a (female) sub to a strip club (4/20/2015 6:42:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RockaRolla I'd avoid making the assumption that she'll be able to get it on with one of the dancers. I'll go further. The dancers are there to do their job, and then get out safely, without getting hassled by the male customers. So, you'll have a club full of horny guys, and your sub dressed provocatively. Expect her to get hit on by every guy there.

Bhruic -> RE: taking a (female) sub to a strip club (4/20/2015 7:55:29 AM)
You mentioned looking for enhancements? What about a wirelessly controlled vibrating egg in her pussy during the visit? You might enjoy picking the moments to turn it on and off and observing the result.

wannapleez -> RE: taking a (female) sub to a strip club (4/20/2015 11:23:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant quote: ORIGINAL: noob4friends Enhance the experience how? She can't kiss the strippers. At best, it is going to be a dance where she might be allowed to touch them in some places. Aside from that, it is just watching. The strippers can, and most likely will, kiss her. It varies here in Atlanta. They're not supposed to, but 2 or 3 have kissed me. And one gave me a hickey that lasted 11 days. I think she was part vampire -- and this was pre-Twilight. ;-) Plus what is allowed between women is far greater than between a male customer and a stripper. Or at least, more blind eyes are turned.

wannapleez -> RE: taking a (female) sub to a strip club (4/20/2015 11:24:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MariaB Take your girl to a strip club in a pretty summer dress and sandals and she's going to be getting a lot more attention from the men than she is from the woman. I would say, go to a reputable joint that has decent security and 'no touch' rules. Girls who work in strip clubs see it as work and anything that is offered up, has a price tag attached. If you want a lesbian type experience you will probably have to dip in your wallet. Why not buy her a personal dancer? Just make sure you understand club rules and don't expect either of them can get feely touchy with one another. Seedy back street joints are hot but can be dangerous places to take females to. I once took an ex sub along to a well known dark and seedy joint. She's a trans-girl with a bit of a slutty side. What actually happened was, as we smooched closely on the dance floor all manner of hands started to touch me up. I was harsh and told them to back off but two of the guys, who were clearly drunk, got aggressive and continued regardless. I'm suddenly circled by men and my trans-girl (who was a big tough bloke) is being held back. The sudden realization that I was in serious danger of a rape situation was really scary. Fortunately for us the security guards saw what was happening and stepped in. Even then though there was an all out fight and my trans girl took a real beating and I ended up with glass embedded in my hand. Do not take your girl to such a club because you won't be able to protect her if things go horribly wrong. Yeah, the place I have in mind isn't seedy. But thanks for the tips.

wannapleez -> RE: taking a (female) sub to a strip club (4/20/2015 11:27:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kaliko quote: ORIGINAL: wannapleez Yes, I self-identify as a sub. I am a Dom to exactly one woman (long story how we got there) and have no interest in doing so with any other woman. Hence, I do not self-identify as a switch. So if you're wondering, "What's he doing here?", now you know. I am taking my (female) sub to a (female dancer) strip club next weekend. She is quite bi-curious, but "curious" is as far as anything has gotten from a R/L perspective. Per my instruction, she is wearing a sleeveless, strapless summer dress (with nothing underneath). Any other thoughts (either in preparation or while at the club) to enhance her or my experience? FWIW, I really enjoy watching girl-on-girl action (even mild stuff like kissing and the occasional wandering hand). Has she been to a strip club before? I'll answer on the assumption she hasn't. I've never been to a strip club, either, so I can answer from that frame of mind. If it were me, I think what would enhance my experience would be, first of all, feeling comfortable about myself in this new environment. If she feels good in a sleeveless, strapless summer dress, then good. If that's your choice and not hers, then I think I might allow her the decision as to what to wear. If it were me, I might be a little self conscious and would appreciate being in something that makes me feel good - not necessarily physically, but emotionally. You know how we all that have favorite dress or shirt that we feel great in? Something like that. Because I get a little out of sorts in a new environment like that if it's loud or crowded or too bar-like. And, perhaps she might feel self-conscious being among attractive strippers. Of course, if the purpose is to specifically put her in a spot of discomfort, then disregard. I would be worried if I was asked to not wear anything under my dress. I guess maybe it depends on how short the dress is, but...not knowing how seedy the place is, personally, I'd be more comfortable with wearing something underneath. I might be a little bit of a prude that way. :) But, feeling concerned like that would detract from my experience, for sure. If it were me, I think that I most would enjoy appreciating the women and their form. Seeing as we can pretty fairly assume you're not taking any strippers home with you that night, then I think I would like to sit and take in exactly what they're there for. Maybe being asked to pay attention to what outfits I found most appealing, or which women I found most attractive to me and then talking it all over later would be fun. If she appreciates objectification, maybe go there with the intention of you or her picking out which woman she will dress herself up as so you can fuck "the stripper" instead of your sub. Maybe some orgasm denial for a few weeks prior to the event? Then edging the day or so before? Good thoughts. Specific to the first issue, provocative dress makes her feel really good and confident. Lucky for me.

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