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Have you dealt with this before - 4/28/2015 4:53:58 PM

master247ltr

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I'm thinking about classifying myself as more of a dom or normal master than a TPE master.
For 1, it's virtually impossible to find a TPE slave (I know a lot of you are going to hate me saying this).
And 2, I don't feel the need anymore to have full control over a slave. In fact, I'm actually now wanting someone that shares the power outside of sex.

Has anyone else on here experience this before?

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RE: Have you dealt with this before - 4/28/2015 5:40:42 PM

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I'm classifying myself as Batman.

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RE: Have you dealt with this before - 4/28/2015 5:42:11 PM

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I'm classifying myself as Batman.

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RE: Have you dealt with this before - 4/28/2015 7:51:42 PM

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If you go to I.S., from what I've heard you can buy a TPE-247 slave for the price of a happy meal.
But aside from that route... Have you gone to any BDSM gatherings?

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RE: Have you dealt with this before - 4/28/2015 8:21:31 PM

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But aside from that route... Have you gone to any BDSM gatherings?

Yep. There tends to be no events within a good hour to hour and half from me. Because of this, it's hard to impossible to find people who go to those that lives within a good 15 min or less from me.
There hasn't really been a get together in my area for 6 or so months now. There is some people that try to start it back up, but there is virtually no single girls that go to them. And it's hard to get more than a handful to show up. (I think it's because no one has money, and they are really just a sausage fest)

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RE: Have you dealt with this before - 4/28/2015 8:24:01 PM

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You have the cart before the horse. Nobody agrees on the first date to become a tpe slave. At least nobody with any brains.

Relationships grow into this over time, as you prove yourself to be someone who can be trusted with that much authority.

As far as sharing control goes, most tpe masters do that also. You seem to feel that in m/s relationship, the m has to be into micromanagement. That's not true.

You can delegate any area to your partner that you want to. TPE just means that the m can make any decision they want to, not that they're obligated to make all of them.

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RE: Have you dealt with this before - 4/28/2015 8:29:21 PM

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You have the cart before the horse. Nobody agrees on the first date to become a tpe slave. At least nobody with any brains.

Relationships grow into this over time, as you prove yourself to be someone who can be trusted with that much authority.

As far as sharing control goes, most tpe masters do that also. You seem to feel that in m/s relationship, the m has to be into micromanagement. That's not true.

You can delegate any area to your partner that you want to. TPE just means that the m can make any decision they want to, not that they're obligated to make all of them.

Thanks for the heads up, and that's good to know.

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RE: Have you dealt with this before - 4/28/2015 9:40:21 PM

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But aside from that route... Have you gone to any BDSM gatherings?

Yep. There tends to be no events within a good hour to hour and half from me. Because of this, it's hard to impossible to find people who go to those that lives within a good 15 min or less from me.
There hasn't really been a get together in my area for 6 or so months now. There is some people that try to start it back up, but there is virtually no single girls that go to them. And it's hard to get more than a handful to show up. (I think it's because no one has money, and they are really just a sausage fest)

Americans and Europeans... you guys seem to think an hour is a long distance... Try living in Australia.
If someone hasn't got the motivation, time or money to invest in traveling to find a TPE person, then they probably don't have the motivation, time or money to have a 247 TPE relationship anyway. Your food bill and electricity will probably double at the very least, not to mention medications, birth control, toiletries/ hygiene products.
My first piece of advice to you is to expand your radius. But in regards to your question. I think I have experienced something like what you are talking about before.

When I first came here I was very interested in finding out what labels might describe me. What categories I might fall under... almost as if I was trying to diagnose myself. I found terms and labels sure, but I eventually found these weren't really useful.
Second piece of advice. Don't classify yourself. Figure out (and be honest with yourself about) who you are and what you want, and present yourself to others in that way.

I'm not a Master because I don't have any slaves, I haven't mastered any crafts or myself for that matter.
Though I am a self-motivated and single-mindedly determined man who knows what he wants and where he's going.
That's how I look at it.

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RE: Have you dealt with this before - 5/1/2015 12:34:27 PM

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I use my username for many a reason and I have had many and they all mean many things which I am not going to explain.

Calling yourself master will get you more views as people have preconceived ideas before they join these places. There are many people like me that believe formal terms have no origin and are often misused – username does not bother me I am more inclined to look at those that make me smile with a profile that does likewise

Calling yourself 50shades of something will get you even more

By views I mean hardly any for you - as you be man and a stereotypical one at that and we are in vast abundance ratio wise any but a view is a view

I do not advocate munches and clubs as the way forward less than 1% of any sites userbase goes in their country. Factor in half to one third are women and add on the attached factor and you have about 1/100 and she is usually some damage loon weighing forty elephants (who has found her niche within a cesspool) person is single who frequent these places

It is not her weight that is an issue its her niche

Then there is me
And all of you; a bad stereotype and yes I experience these bad stereotypes to a degree greater than 99% on these places..but I am here for remnants not of your kind.

So my answer is I drown in your lot. You will not like my answer bad stereotype. I would say become more evolve but you are what thee are and there is nothing I can do for your kindred whose numbers are legion

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RE: Have you dealt with this before - 5/1/2015 12:46:03 PM

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The best thing about BDSM is figuring out what YOU want, and not what everyone else wants, or what you feel that you're supposed to want.

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RE: Have you dealt with this before - 5/1/2015 8:00:50 PM

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Yep. There tends to be no events within a good hour to hour and half from me. Because of this, it's hard to impossible to find people who go to those that lives within a good 15 min or less from me.

I agree with Aries. Where there is a will, there is a way.

I used to live where the nearest munch was 2 hours away and met on a week day night. Because I had to be up at 4 am for work, that wasn't good for me. However, I had a friend who lived close to a munch that was 6 hours away. I'd save my pennies and on a long weekend I'd get on a train on Friday evening. My friend and I would go to munch on Saturday. I'd take the train home on Sunday. By the way, I met the friend on this web site.

I met my owner at a BDSM event, a week long kinky camping trip. I traveled 2 1/2 hours to get to the event. He traveled 12 hours to get there. At the time the event took place every year so I had a whole year to save up and get my vacation time set up for that week.

As others have said, a TPE relationship happens over time. You both need time to trust each other. You both need time to find out if you are compatible. It doesn't happen overnight or by chatting online. The trust builds by going to the nephew's birthday party together. It builds when one of you is ill and needs to be cared for by the other. It builds by showing that you have your shit together, how you treat other people, your choices of friends, etc.

May I say that I found part of your profile confusing. You say she needs to have a good job or be capable of getting a good job. Yet you said there is a lack of jobs in your area. If there are no jobs, how is she going to find a good one?

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RE: Have you dealt with this before - 5/2/2015 9:11:36 AM

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Some good advice takes theirs on board

Never presume us wenches (male and female) on these sites are up for anything, up for the first offer, will kneel on all fours bracing themselves for cavity stretching of epic proportions, or to be thrashed into a parallel continuum with a toaster, from an ever growing queue

I wasted a click on your profile (benefit of the doubt) *sighs* actually fragments of it are okay but that is out with the remit of your thread and more in line with my initial answer. But some people like profiles that demand the world and outre -maybe i am not really sure truth be told

As for tpe in generally I do not believe something like that exists, can exist, or should exist in a 24/7 format - but that is just me :_)

Now, I will hark back to the days lore where if i began a conversation, or someone began one with me, there was a good chance (let’s call it 20% - and that’s way higher than today’s figure) the conversation would be free flowing and i would know after a day or 3 exactly who she was and exactly what she wanted or I could do to it

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