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DungeonDaddy67 -> It has been a while (4/29/2015 12:09:44 PM)
I've dated women on a sliding scale of submissiveness for the last 4 years. The last time I was with a woman that identified her self as submissive, and I can say was a submissive was 4 years ago. I have a beautiful sexy woman that is coming into my life. We both recognize that a relationship takes, time, trust and communication. However, I have to admit that I've gained weight since I was with my last submissive, I've had some health problems that might limit my performance. Its been a damn long time since I've swung a flogger! I have to admit, that I am a bit concerned that she is going to get together with me and I won't live up to her expectations. I think this is psychological on my side of it. I just want to give her the best Dom I can be.

JVoV -> RE: It has been a while (4/29/2015 12:47:50 PM)
Is there a question?

sexyred1 -> RE: It has been a while (4/29/2015 1:29:17 PM)
It's interesting that your profile sounds so tough, OP, when your post here sounds so insecure. Only you can find your confidence.

Miyani -> RE: It has been a while (4/29/2015 2:02:00 PM)
Time to break out the flogger and a pillow! Time to get your eating on track. And most of all, time to be totally honest with her about how you're feeling. Granted, I'm not a submissive, but if someone were honest with me about worrying whether they could live up to my expectations, I'd find it sweet, and I'd find it reassuring that they cared so much about my happiness. Much of it is likely psychological, you're right. But that doesn't make it any less unsettling. Be honest with her about what you think you can do, but try to do more. You may surprise yourself!

DungeonDaddy67 -> RE: It has been a while (4/29/2015 2:11:46 PM)
Miyani, Thank you for your response, that was I guess the answer I was looking for. This submissive is what I've been looking for in a submissive for a while. I want everything to go very well because I don't want to be the Mermaid in the Freak Show. Years ago, (When I was six) I went to a freak show, the so called "Real Live Mermaid" was nothing more than a woman in a mermaid outfit with a 20 gallon aquarium between her and I I do not want to be the "Real Live Mermaid" for this young lady.

Gauge -> RE: It has been a while (4/29/2015 6:55:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DungeonDaddy67 I've dated women on a sliding scale of submissiveness for the last 4 years. The last time I was with a woman that identified her self as submissive, and I can say was a submissive was 4 years ago. I have a beautiful sexy woman that is coming into my life. We both recognize that a relationship takes, time, trust and communication. However, I have to admit that I've gained weight since I was with my last submissive, I've had some health problems that might limit my performance. Its been a damn long time since I've swung a flogger! I have to admit, that I am a bit concerned that she is going to get together with me and I won't live up to her expectations. I think this is psychological on my side of it. I just want to give her the best Dom I can be. You have normal concerns. Change what you can, accept what you cannot change, and be yourself at all times. Be confident in your ability to overcome whatever limitations you might be facing. There are creative ways to get around physical limitations, find them. She isn't coming into your life because she doesn't know you, she is coming into your life because she does.

DesFIP -> RE: It has been a while (4/30/2015 7:01:28 PM)
If she's met you, she knows what you look like and that you aren't buff. As far as the rest of it, be honest with her. If the chemistry between you is right, she'll be fine with you slowly honing your skills. But don't try to be her perfect dom. Be yours. Be your authentic self. Be honest. You want someone who thinks you're great as you are, not that you might be okay if you lost 40 pounds, worked out six times a week, and could throw a mean flogger.

CreativeDominant -> RE: It has been a while (5/1/2015 9:18:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Gauge quote: ORIGINAL: DungeonDaddy67 I've dated women on a sliding scale of submissiveness for the last 4 years. The last time I was with a woman that identified her self as submissive, and I can say was a submissive was 4 years ago. I have a beautiful sexy woman that is coming into my life. We both recognize that a relationship takes, time, trust and communication. However, I have to admit that I've gained weight since I was with my last submissive, I've had some health problems that might limit my performance. Its been a damn long time since I've swung a flogger! I have to admit, that I am a bit concerned that she is going to get together with me and I won't live up to her expectations. I think this is psychological on my side of it. I just want to give her the best Dom I can be. You have normal concerns. Change what you can, accept what you cannot change, and be yourself at all times. Be confident in your ability to overcome whatever limitations you might be facing. There are creative ways to get around physical limitations, find them. She isn't coming into your life because she doesn't know you, she is coming into your life because she does. Damn! Gauge...I love the way you put the part I 'bolded'. Niiiiice job!

MasterDrakkula -> RE: It has been a while (5/2/2015 9:26:25 AM)
I have CFS or M.E. it has many monikers I refer to it as evil lurgy. I have, I reckon, 4 stone around my belly. I can look at that many ways; 1. There is more of me and who in this world doth not want that 2. There is more of me to cuddle 3. I will be judged by many on my illness 4. I will be judged by many for my girthsome belly 5. I have who i have always been. Granted I have to make physical adjustments for wenches now as eg I cannot pick them clear of the ground and hammer them into a wall with my mighty thrust of 1kn. Adjustments would be me on my back or her leaned against the wall. You get the drift. As for thrashing them with my hand, my hefty sandals, a flogger, a belt, a cane, a toaster into parallel continuums; i can do so at certain moments in time Tell her. I am who and what I have always been. But many people judge in a variety of manners, even contradictory...but that is who they have always been. But do not lie to her.

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