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Questions for subs, esp sissy subs w/female Mistress - 7/15/2006 4:17:46 PM   
Liatris


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Help me make sense of this. Please.

Had a *very* interesting conversation with my sissy this afternoon. He gets off really, really hard on the cuckold fantasy. So much so that it contributed to the dissolution of his marriage when his wife acted on the fantasy and made it reality . . . a few times. She also loaned him to a friend once. Even with all that, the cuckold fantasy is still extremely powerful for him. Sometimes, he and I will play with a few scenarios and we get down to some real nitty gritty details but I have no plans of actually enacting any of them. When we are in it, he is eager and willing and actually *wants* the fantasy to be real as the sissy part of him. If you could hear the way he talks about it, I have no doubts as to why the person in his previous relationship thought it was a line she could cross.

According to him, the public or "regular" part of him wants no parts of the reality of being cuckolded. He and I will be in the middle of some hot talk and right in the middle of everything, he'll ask, "Are you still just bullshitting or you would really do that? Is that something you would really do or are you just saying that to get me off?" Suddenly, he gets concerned. It is like I am dealing with two different people even in the midst of play.

Now, my fantasy, that I would love to become reality is to have a couple of subs that I wouldn't be sexual with in any respect to come over and mow my lawn every couple of weeks (easy task) and possibly do some repairs. He said absolutely not, especially if it were another sissy. He would leave if that happened because he would be too jealous. WTF??

He says that all those household duties, to him, are a part of our sexual life and to have another person involved, specifically another sissy, would seem too gay. Too gay? Huh?

He is fine with, even eager for me to tell other women about what he does for me or if I even demonstrate for another woman with him there how obedient he is to me that is fine. He is even fine if I have him follow another woman's instructions but not if I have anyone else under my direction, even if it is absolutely non-sexual.

He found out today that I joined a group online whose membership is predominately sissies and he didn't like that at all. Told him that, for me, it is another way for me to understand what it is all about and I have made it clear to all the members that I am in a committed relationship and am not looking for anyone else, not even another sissy. He doesn't care. Still doesn't like it. Prefers that I find a group of women and brag to them about all the things he does for me and how I control him. WTF?

So, cool to fantasize about me with another man, with or without him there, him cleaning up the leftovers, etc. Also cool to tell people about what he does for me and even provide demonstrations. Cool for him to be instructed to do whatever another woman tells him to do. NOT cool for me to have someone mow my lawn every couple of weeks with no sex or anything involved whatsoever.

Pardon me for my temporary blindness. I'm sure if I think about it long enough, I may be able to see the sense in this but right now, all I can say is WTF??

Liatris

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RE: Questions for subs, esp sissy subs w/female Mistress - 7/16/2006 1:06:38 AM   
babysburnin


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I had to read this twice...but, it seems he likes the fantasy only, and is not threatened by other women, but has issues with other men in your life?  He's plan and simple jealous and/or possessive of you, which probably involves some insecurity on his part too (if I am reading what you wrote correctly).

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RE: Questions for subs, esp sissy subs w/female Mistress - 7/16/2006 4:35:47 PM   
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He sounds very insecure with involving a 3rd person.  Perhaps it is due to a previous experience.  You mention that something happened in a previous marriage involving another person.  I would look into what triggers his insecurity and deal with that first.
 
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RE: Questions for subs, esp sissy subs w/female Mistress - 7/16/2006 5:15:48 PM   
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He sounds insecure, jealous and downright possessive. It also sounds like he is trying to control you, by telling you who you can associate with. I'd nip this in the butt real quick, after all who is the Dominant you, or him?

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