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AAkasha -> RE: Online assignment/punishment tips? (5/25/2015 11:51:48 AM)
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You provide assignments that arouse you. You dictate rules and provide instructions for photo or video proof that you can get off looking at. You turn your long distance partner into a personal toy for your amusement. You make him write short erotica to get you off (Note: you have to be very specific so he doesn't get too self indulgent).
Whatever directions you provide, the goal is to get off, right? So follow your fetishes. I have some obscure ones. Those that know me know that at times I've had a man get into a shower with a hockey stick and pretend to be in a penalty box that is running out of air. And I watch on Skype. Hey, it's my kind of porn. It gets dirtier later. That's foreplay. Does any sub guy have a fetish to DO THAT little scene? I DOUBT IT.
But - his motivation comes in knowing he gets me wet. Second key: You can't just dish out commands, lessons, etc. and cultivate any kind of relationship without feedback or the sub will be bored. There are hundreds of sites online with tasks and challenges they can do with a faceless partner (read: milovana.com) - why do they need you?
If you are charging someone money and this is transactional, you have to identify the fetish and monopolize on it, really hit a homerun, and demand absolute proof. You also have to give exceptional feedback, encouragement, arousal motivators, etc. In short: If you think it is an easy way to make money, it isn't. To do it right, plan to have an "hourly wage" if you were to boil it down to the time to take to write, read responses, etc., the hourly wage would be less than what you make serving up fast food. You better love it.
Because there are LOTS of women out there doing "online training" who enjoy it and don't charge or just ask that the submissive be attentive in some other way.
Also, with many subs, almost constant contact is expected. Texting, emailing, etc. Like....5 - 10 times a day. They want a tight leash. Better enjoy that kind of thing. if you do not understand the way a man's fetish-wired brain works, you will fail. If YOU do not have a fetish-wired brain, you can't relate.
I know what it is like to literally ache with a mind numbing distraction - called lust - that cannot be satisfied, as I sit watching 2-3 hours of mindless porn online looking for what I want, need, even though I have a willing and able partner at my side. What I was is unpredictable - and as comfortable as I am with my boytoy of 14 years, it's like "perfect sex" - he just delivers. Sometimes I need to see the new fear in a set of eyes I have never seen before. Even if over Skype.
Being an "online femdom" is not an easy way to make bank. Trust me. And the subs out there into this kind of thing that are less than honest are smarter and more manipulative than you can imagine, and will milk you. "Donation is in the mail!" that sort of thing.
Finally, on online training: I used to do a LOT of online training on my site in a group setting. I enjoyed the tasks, but moreso I enjoyed feeling almost like a teacher, seeing who excelled vs. who fell off the map. "Grading" homework. Having a little mini harem. But it was so, so, so much work. Not only writing and monitoring lessons, but keeping track of class. If I boiled down the hours I put into all those training classes (they lasted 3 weeks on average) I was making a quarter of what was paid by mcdonalds. Sure, it was fun, but it was still an obligation. To do constantly is financial suicide since I make a good hourly wage as a senior consultant in business.
Finally, you need credibility. There are hundreds of faceless online femdoms running around offering training via the net. Savvy subs know these ladies could be full of shit, or worse, a man. My web site was very popular and free for ten years - a decade. Men knew I was real. Ten years to make less than minimum wage on training is a seriously flawed "long con."
Think hard and fast before you get into online domination!
Akasha
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