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Lucylastic -> RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You (5/11/2015 8:30:38 AM)

open up an account with no nudity in your profile, and then another one with nudity, as a submissive female or dominant, it wont matter.
then check the messages, in amount and content....
you can tell the dickitis with ease




sexyred1 -> RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You (5/11/2015 8:34:33 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Cell

Haven't you ever heard the saying, "the truth hurts" sexyred1?


What truth? Oh, right, you were attempting to insult me. Ouch!

Do you actually believe that any man or women needs your opinion on their photos?and that a stranger could be "hurt" by you not finding them attractive?

How delusional. And, I addressed your comments, which have nothing to with being trustworthy.

As many other posters replied to you, you did not answer the OP, you used it as a platform to state you don't like fat chicks.

Yawn.

The only thing hurtful about you is how boring your comments are.




PeonForHer -> RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You (5/11/2015 8:49:43 AM)

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i'd like to put on record that i am not black and white in reality


I am. :-(




Lucylastic -> RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You (5/11/2015 8:54:35 AM)


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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

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i'd like to put on record that i am not black and white in reality


I am. :-(

I would love to make you black n blue:)
[:D][:D][:D][:D]
to the OP a lil meme for you from my POV

[image]local://upfiles/228382/34C439062A1A455B840066FBD551D5A6.jpg[/image]




littleladybug -> RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You (5/11/2015 9:11:54 AM)

My ultimate question is-- did someone get paid for doing this study???

The results don't surprise me in the least.





WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You (5/11/2015 10:11:39 AM)

I'm not black and white either, but I could be with the proper application of effort.




WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You (5/11/2015 10:21:55 AM)

I'm not black and white either, but I could be with the proper application of effort.




Aibo -> RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You (5/11/2015 10:47:51 AM)

@littleladybug: I bet they had a grant for the study. I've seen even worse and more moronic things done that been called 'research'. And those did not even get a nod from the IG-nobel panel. :P

Now as for my Fetlife profile I use a WARNING sign followed by a text: You are now entering a top secret lair patrolled by psychotic henchmen, rabid guard dogs, sadistic killer clowns, flesh eating zombies etc etc....

On collarspace I used to have one image of a B.S-meter. :P

My non kink profile on 'another' site I got an image of a Mickey mouse cup. [;)]

I guess that tells all about what I think bout the online world. :P





NookieNotes -> RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You (5/11/2015 10:51:07 AM)


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ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant


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ORIGINAL: dreamlady

Fast Reply
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ORIGINAL: crumpets

Apparently, according to the University of Connecticut researchers, men perceived two things when women doctored their profile photographs with Photoshop:
1. They trusted them less, yet, at the same time,
2. They still found the doctored profiles far more attractive; hence - worth the risk!

Fancy that! :)

According to Professor McGloin, for men, “attraction seems to be more important than trust.”


It's called "Thinking-With-Dick-itis," and is nothing new. . . nor is this ever going to change any time soon. [:D]

DreamLady


What does that say then about those women who have pictures of themselves bent over displaying a rear view, spread, showing their Tits...clamped or not, bound or not? Is it a recognition of "dick-itis", do they think it increases their chances? Why would they need to? Aren't there more dominant males than submissive females on here? And the FemDoms who display a great deal of skin...Or toys...who state that they have no desire to indulge the sub males' masochistic and/or sexual wants? Are they addressing "dick-itis" also?


LOL! Nailed it.

Except this part:

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Aren't there more dominant males than submissive females on here?


Nope. There are always fewer dominants than submissives, of either sex. Very few people are in actuality, dominant. Domineering... that's another story.




wittynamehere -> RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You (5/11/2015 10:53:57 AM)

Shocking. I wonder if somebody will do a study to determine whether or not the written text on a profile affects anything, too? Perhaps your username, and even the way you communicate, also have some effect?




WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You (5/11/2015 11:05:32 AM)

NookieNores wrote:
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I'm talking more about the Madonna/Whore dichotomy, and whether the lack of trust might lead to a more casual and "see what I can get" relationship, versus something of more substance.


This came to my mind as well. Seems the hookup mindset is measurably more prevalent.




littleladybug -> RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You (5/11/2015 11:08:23 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Aibo

@littleladybug: I bet they had a grant for the study. I've seen even worse and more moronic things done that been called 'research'. And those did not even get a nod from the IG-nobel panel. :P



No doubt. Getting a grant is oftentimes about salesmanship and which way the wind is blowing on that particular day.

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ORIGINAL: Aibo
My non kink profile on 'another' site I got an image of a Mickey mouse cup. [;)]

I guess that tells all about what I think bout the online world. :P




I have yet to use a personal pic of myself in my profile on any site.

But, when I do send one to a prospective partner, damned straight it's gonna be one that I like. I see the same thing with photoshopping. Yup, gonna do what I can (within reason) to put my best self forward.




Cell -> RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You (5/11/2015 11:53:47 AM)

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

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ORIGINAL: Cell

Haven't you ever heard the saying, "the truth hurts" sexyred1?


What truth? Oh, right, you were attempting to insult me. Ouch!

Do you actually believe that any man or women needs your opinion on their photos?and that a stranger could be "hurt" by you not finding them attractive?

How delusional. And, I addressed your comments, which have nothing to with being trustworthy.

As many other posters replied to you, you did not answer the OP, you used it as a platform to state you don't like fat chicks.

Yawn.

The only thing hurtful about you is how boring your comments are.

Red... There's no dig in what I said. I haven't even thought of looking at your photos. You were saying that honesty doesn't hurt people. I mentioned the saying to show it was common enough to be a saying.

What I said in my first post was my opinion of the study, Its inadequacies and why I thought it was a waste of time. It was a hypothetical example of my opinion really, since I'm not even looking at profiles for a relationship at the moment. Having specific tastes in women isn't any different than having a personal taste in music or literature.

I hope all the stuff my post seemed to spawn doesn't continue to derail the thread any further.




sweetieDA -> RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You (5/11/2015 12:16:29 PM)

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ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant
What does that say then about those women who have pictures of themselves bent over displaying a rear view, spread, showing their Tits...clamped or not, bound or not? Is it a recognition of "dick-itis", do they think it increases their chances? Why would they need to? Aren't there more dominant males than submissive females on here?


Maybe they just liked it. I liked it, when I had a picture of my tits clamped (actually I had a few). I also enjoyed the ones of the cane marks on my bent over ass. Not everything a woman does is in response to a man, sometimes it's just about that woman, happy doing her own thing, enjoying her sexuality, comfortable with her body.




crumpets -> RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You (5/11/2015 1:21:36 PM)

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ORIGINAL: NookieNotes
*smiles* I have overall physical preferences, too.


What I find very interesting about physical preferences, is, for example, that I have none - but - wait!

She must be female (yes, from the beginning of time); and, she must be mature enough (age doesn't matter as much as maturity); plus, she must be sensual, at least to me (where the measurement is highly subjective); and, it's often best if she's shorter than I, based on a look at the profile (not because I care - I don't - but many women do - so why waste my time); she must be local (we're talking about profiles, so, this is all stuff you try to figure out before wasting time contacting a person's profile), etc.

The more I think about it, the more "preferences" seem to arise - but most of those ancillary preferences wouldn't be found in a profile itself but only after a few meetings.

For example, she should be healthy (duh). It would be nice if she can converse intelligently. She should probably smell like a woman does (it's one of the measures of femininity, like it or not) and she should likely dress as a woman does (within the norms of culture, of course); she could even sound like a woman (I love the click of heels, for example); and the list seems to go on ...

Then there are the things that we don't prefer...

For example, I don't prefer tattoos; I don't prefer druggies or smokers; I don't prefer women who speak with poor grammar; etc., and I'm sure the not-prefer list exists, in some shape or form, in all our preferences.

But, most of that information won't be in most profiles.
In most profiles, you get the bare basics, one of which is a profile photo.


I guess a strange outcome, from the standpoint of the research, was that the women in the study tended to put more faith (perhaps too much) in the profile photos, than the men did.


EDIT: Here's a summary of the research from the Smithsonian's article:
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In a recent study of about 300 heterosexual volunteers, researchers found that men and women place very different levels of trust in an attractive profile picture.

Men shown images of “beautified” women—with enhanced lighting, hair and makeup—rated them to be hotter but less trustworthy than regular pictures of the same people.

However, women shown enhanced pictures of men said they seemed both more attractive and more trustworthy than their unenhanced counterparts.
“It seems that the women were placing faith in the attractiveness of the males.

It's almost hopeful, as opposed to the fellas who may have taken a more kind of realistic approach,” says co-author Rory McGloin of the University of Connecticut. McGloin and colleagues Amanda Denes and Olivia Kamisher will present their findings this month at the 65th Annual Conference of the International Communication Association in San Juan, Puerto Rico.




ResidentSadist -> RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You (5/11/2015 3:03:26 PM)


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ORIGINAL: wittynamehere

Shocking. I wonder if somebody will do a study to determine whether or not the written text on a profile affects anything, too? Perhaps your username, and even the way you communicate, also have some effect?

That would require the numb-nuts to actually read your profile. I don't think happens much. As far as the screen name goes, I can tell you having sadist in your name gains random email invites presuming I will do a scene with total strangers . . . doing insane and damaging things like flaying the skin off their tits or hanging them by meat hooks. Hell of a first date invite ya think?




MAINEiacMISTRESS -> RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You (5/11/2015 3:49:55 PM)

Confession: I don't look like a map in real life...yet males still say they are drawn to Me.

Since I'm not looking to DATE anyone, I don't give a DAMN what anyone thinks of My picture.




DesFIP -> RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You (5/11/2015 4:08:56 PM)

Looking at someone's photo and thinking "they're too fat to turn me on" is having a preference.
Writing someone and saying that is just deliberately hurtful.

People who boast about being 'radically honest' are usually people who are seeking a way to hurt others without being called on account for it. In other words, they're mean cowards.




RockaRolla -> RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You (5/11/2015 4:59:11 PM)

It doesn't bother me in the slightest to know I'm too fat to turn some people on. Their preferences are not my concern, provided they don't make it my problem by messaging me specifically to tell me how fat an unattractive I am.

Not saying you do it, Cell, but it's not uncommon.




dreamlady -> RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You (5/11/2015 5:59:03 PM)


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ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant

What does that say then about those women who have pictures of themselves bent over displaying a rear view, spread, showing their Tits...clamped or not, bound or not? Is it a recognition of "dick-itis", do they think it increases their chances? Why would they need to? Aren't there more dominant males than submissive females on here? And the FemDoms who display a great deal of skin...Or toys...who state that they have no desire to indulge the sub males' masochistic and/or sexual wants? Are they addressing "dick-itis" also?

Perhaps in both cases it's a matter of exhibitionistic behavior or a devil-may-care attitude. Not being above the low range of either voyeurism or exhibitionism, as in barely registering on those scales, I couldn't say what motivates others to overexpose themselves aside from wanting to seek attention and be seen as sexually desirable even when they aren't, depending on who the viewer is and whether he finds this distasteful.

What I have noticed is that women tend to dress (or undress?) for the sake of other women, either in seeking to be fashionable or as a way to compete with other women. Another subtle or not so subtle difference is that when women pose to get a man's attention, it isn't to attract every single man there is out there, but more of a select few. They want to catch the eye of their Prince Charming or of a couple of Knights in Shining Armor who will joust for their affections. Some may want a bevy of admirers, but even a hypersexual/nympho girlfriend of mine tones it down and doesn't expose much skin.

If you're asking whether these gals are catering to men's lusts, I'm sure that's part of their motivation. I just don't personally relate to the approach of appealing to a man's baser instincts. All I know is that if I were a man, I would not be attracted to a woman who felt compelled to flaunt her stuff publicly; I don't when it comes to men who do this either. Then there's this:


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ORIGINAL: sweetieDA

Not everything a woman does is in response to a man, sometimes it's just about that woman, happy doing her own thing, enjoying her sexuality, comfortable with her body.

Sometimes a cigar is. . . just a cigar. [:)]

As for FemDoms displaying their "assets," other than half of a swinging D/D couple maybe once with nudists, I've only seen the young and/or inexperienced ones showing much skin, usually those who want to attract sub clients (which is a whole 'nother ball of wax). YMMV. Going back a few centuries, it wasn't considered to be unladylike to show ample cleavage in mixed company. This doesn't mean that a woman is trying to tempt every single male around regardless of his social class or desirability to her, although a male may perceive it as being more than a generic disarmament tactic. (And if it works, then what does that say about him?)

DreamLady





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