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RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You - 5/11/2015 6:04:44 PM   
CreativeDominant


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What does that say then about those women who have pictures of themselves bent over displaying a rear view, spread, showing their Tits...clamped or not, bound or not? Is it a recognition of "dick-itis", do they think it increases their chances? Why would they need to? Aren't there more dominant males than submissive females on here?


Maybe they just liked it. I liked it, when I had a picture of my tits clamped (actually I had a few). I also enjoyed the ones of the cane marks on my bent over ass. Not everything a woman does is in response to a man, sometimes it's just about that woman, happy doing her own thing, enjoying her sexuality, comfortable with her body.
But you do understand that were a Dominant male to say he preferred your pix over someone who doesn't have those pix...no matter WHAT his reason... the majority opinion is that he's doing so because of his "dick-itis"?

And there'll be some...no matter what you tell them...that will think you are aware of the "dick-itis" and are working it to your advantage.

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RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You - 5/11/2015 6:58:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		This is a silly study.

And I think "dickitis" is a silly thing to blame it on. I am betting if you reverse the sexes you wind up with the same results...

And who doesn't, seriously, put good pictures of themselves up? I mean I KNOW FAKES RIGHT????- I mean damn- it's the web- who expects everyone to be honest? I mean my pics are color corrected and some have some attractive cropping. None are altering my size, but I'm obviously going to play up my strengths by angle, color, lighting, and cropping.

And who cares? Post whatever pics you damn well please- I'm certain people Taylor their pics to results they get, so if altered pics are achieving desirable results. People are sometimes dishonest and it sometimes works out for them- what a shocker...

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RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You - 5/11/2015 7:12:28 PM   
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This is a silly study.

And I think "dickitis" is a silly thing to blame it on. I am betting if you reverse the sexes you wind up with the same results...



They studied men and women and the results were different. The men found women with the enhanced photos less trustfully. Women found men with enhanced photos more trustfully. The researchers categorized the difference as men being more realistic (knowing the women with enhanced photos probably wouldn't look as good in real life) but the women were more hopeful.

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RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You - 5/11/2015 7:21:38 PM   
shiftyw


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Status: offline 		Ah- sorry- clearly I didn't read it correctly.

And I say "dickitis" is still silly to blame it on, since clearly it effected both sexes...


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RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You - 5/11/2015 10:03:19 PM   
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I would think it depends on the level of doctoring. Like, if I photoshop a few extremely minor blemishes out of my picture to increase the overall polished affect, does that make me less trustworthy?


Presumably they would have to be able to tell the image had been doctored.

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RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You - 5/11/2015 11:35:13 PM   
Cell


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It doesn't bother me in the slightest to know I'm too fat to turn some people on. Their preferences are not my concern, provided they don't make it my problem by messaging me specifically to tell me how fat an unattractive I am.

Not saying you do it, Cell, but it's not uncommon.


Well at least you seem to have left room for the possibility that I don't do the common things you're suggesting.

Can you see that the common mentality you're referring to is just as evident here, expressed in the posts seeking to misrepresent and malign a person because they mentioned one of their preferences? I've seen a lot of blanket criticism about how pathetic males are because they feel the need harass people with their small-minded opinions. And yet countless females here have felt the need to inform me of all their assumptions and baseless conclusions about how crap a person I probably am based on my preferences.

Dickitis isn't the disease, it's diagnosis is the symptom of a person viewing another person with so much bitterness, that all one can see is one's own arrogant bias. You don't need a dick to be infected.


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RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You - 5/12/2015 2:27:28 AM   
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ORIGINAL: seekingreality
They studied men and women and the results were different. The men found women with the enhanced photos less trustfully. Women found men with enhanced photos more trustfully. The researchers categorized the difference as men being more realistic (knowing the women with enhanced photos probably wouldn't look as good in real life) but the women were more hopeful.


Wow. Nice summary. Better'n mine. You hit the nail on the head.

BTW, someone said "silly research"; but that someone clearly misunderstood that almost *all* research into human behavior may seem silly to them when taken in the microcosm.
Anyone who has written or read a scientific paper knows that all scientific knowledge posited is the sum total of a myriad of seemingly picayune and often disjointed observations.

Your beautiful summary outlines just one detail necessary to understand when attempting to ascertain how and why the two sexes employ hugely different dating behaviors.

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RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You - 5/12/2015 2:35:31 AM   
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Can you see that the common mentality you're referring to is just as evident here, expressed in the posts seeking to misrepresent and malign a person because they mentioned one of their preferences? I've seen a lot of blanket criticism about how pathetic males are because they feel the need harass people with their small-minded opinions. And yet countless females here have felt the need to inform me of all their assumptions and baseless conclusions about how crap a person I probably am based on my preferences.


You knew before you posted your preference that it would upset some people (as is evidenced by your language in your post regarding being hurt). Therefore, it seems to me you posted it from one of the following positions:

1. Let's stir up some fun, and watch the people I have offended swarm.

2. I enjoy playing the victim card, and will, when the people I have offended react.

*shrugs*

I find it fascinating how people post things like that, then act surprised that they have offended someone, or that others go on the attack from their place of hurt. And not just men do it (the posting).

That's another thing that I would note as an incompatible trait for me in a relationship. People who don't take 100% responsibility for their communication.

*smiles*

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Dickitis isn't the disease, it's diagnosis is the symptom of a person viewing another person with so much bitterness, that all one can see is one's own arrogant bias. You don't need a dick to be infected.


Dickitis as they are using it here is not about "being a dick," but about thinking with a dick... in other words, still wanting to hit something that he doesn't trust because it's hot.

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RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You - 5/12/2015 4:37:46 AM   
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ORIGINAL: crumpets

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ORIGINAL: seekingreality
They studied men and women and the results were different. The men found women with the enhanced photos less trustfully. Women found men with enhanced photos more trustfully. The researchers categorized the difference as men being more realistic (knowing the women with enhanced photos probably wouldn't look as good in real life) but the women were more hopeful.


Wow. Nice summary. Better'n mine. You hit the nail on the head.

BTW, someone said "silly research"; but that someone clearly misunderstood that almost *all* research into human behavior may seem silly to them when taken in the microcosm.
Anyone who has written or read a scientific paper knows that all scientific knowledge posited is the sum total of a myriad of seemingly picayune and often disjointed observations.

Your beautiful summary outlines just one detail necessary to understand when attempting to ascertain how and why the two sexes employ hugely different dating behaviors.



I feel like this study is saying "people like attractive people! Even when they lie about!"
To which I say- no kidding- You think Kim Kardashian really hasn't had any work done? Or is she still famous because people don't care that she pretends she hasn't had any work done?

There is the entire advertising industry who exploit this human fault of judgement everyday for profit. This study's results are hardly groundbreaking- at least in my opinion.


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RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You - 5/12/2015 6:53:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		I agree. This study is silly and assumes that adults need a study to validate their responses.

Hopefully, no money was diverted from funding, oh I don't know...say cancer research for this important study.

Because, you know, I really needed that study to tell me that people are stupid.

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RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You - 5/12/2015 8:33:18 AM   
MiaCastle


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Status: offline 		I think people need to get out more and figure it out for themselves. Perhaps this isn't a popular notion in getting to know people, but it has worked for me.

I can't see myself deciding which picture to use on my profile based on what other people will think or their faulty psychology. I don't lead with my appearance and considering how we look is important in attraction eventually; I first want them interested in me as a person. Depending on a test, survey or research that could be as faulty as the people seeking what it might find because they are lacking in some way is a red flag to me. I want men that can think outside themselves, think for themselves and who want to know what I think. Attracting them and making more out of a picture than it should be is taking short cuts to assumptions that actually knowing a person could dispel. Trusting someone based on a picture wouldn't be smart. Take a look at some mass murderers and tell me they looked like a mass murderer. Better yet, prove it.

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RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You - 5/12/2015 1:19:48 PM   
Cell


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ORIGINAL: Cell
Dickitis isn't the disease, it's diagnosis is the symptom of a person viewing another person with so much bitterness, that all one can see is one's own arrogant bias. You don't need a dick to be infected.
Dickitis as they are using it here is not about "being a dick," but about thinking with a dick... in other words, still wanting to hit something that he doesn't trust because it's hot.

I was saying that viewing someone in a dismissive way, says more about the viewer's prejudice than the subject. It applies to your interpretation... I wasn't saying anything about people being dicks, but that dismissing someone as thinking with their dick was the issue. But you decided to see it the way you wanted and assumed I didn't understand something... and by doing so, you didn't see what I was saying. You demonstrated the point... by being an example of it. =/

I might have been able to accept responsibility for someone taking something the wrong way, I can't be responsible for someone taking everything in the worst ways. It obviously goes beyond an issue of clarity and into a game of looking for and imagining faults.

At the very least you can accept that your misinterpretations are as much about your own preconceptions, as anything I've actually written. In reality, It's pretty much been par for the course so far.

I think you're right about one thing... All this is because people were offended. They misunderstood my post and believed I was talking myself up or talking down to fat people or whatever else could be read into it and then tried to justify their offence with a whole mess of things. I must be shallow. And I must be a coward. I must be judgmental. And then to justify the insults, I must be deliberately trying to provoke insults... With what? I made no offence in the first place. And many of you have just been making asses of yourselves...


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RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You - 5/12/2015 1:34:21 PM   
NookieNotes


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No nookie... I didn't... It's just more of your negative assumptions...


Really? Ok, so this isn't written by you (bold and color mine):

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ORIGINAL: Cell
This study seems like a waste of time. (But still interesting)
If I told you that the first question I use to dismiss a woman's profile is "is she fat?" Would that make me more trustworthy or less? I've been brutally honest, and yet what exactly is someone trusting in when they "trust". I'd say, it's probably a question of the likelihood of being hurt. In that case my honesty would seem to say being hurt by me is highly likely...


So, you didn't know that talking about your first refusal of obesity would hurt people?

Or you didn't know that people react poorly to being hurt?

I'm surprised. You seem relatively bright. I guess I read that wrong.

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ORIGINAL: Cell
Dickitis isn't the disease, it's diagnosis is the symptom of a person viewing another person with so much bitterness, that all one can see is one's own arrogant bias. You don't need a dick to be infected.
Dickitis as they are using it here is not about "being a dick," but about thinking with a dick... in other words, still wanting to hit something that he doesn't trust because it's hot.

I was saying that viewing someone in a dismissive way, says more about the viewer's prejudice than the subject. It applies to your interpretation... I wasn't saying anything about people being dicks, but that dismissing someone as thinking with their dick was the issue. But you decided to see it the way you wanted and assumed I didn't understand something... and by doing so, you didn't see what I was saying. You demonstrated the point... by being an example of it. =/


I did misunderstand your point. I'll take 100% responsibility for that. Mea culpa.

Thanks for that. *smiles*

See? You are smart enough. Maybe I wasn't so wrong.

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I might have been able to accept responsibility for someone taking something the wrong way, I can't be responsible for someone taking everything in the worst ways. It obviously goes beyond an issue of clarity and into a game of looking for and imagining faults.


Sure you can. Because it's YOUR words. If you can't figure out how to communicate with them, how is that their fault, no matter how broken they may be?

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At the very least you can accept that your misinterpretations are as much about your own preconceptions, as anything I've actually written. In reality, It's pretty much been par for the course so far.


You have called me out on one. I took responsibility.

I have yet to see you taking responsibility for your own pieces... but that's cool. I'm not the judge and jury of you.

I just enjoy the discussion.

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I think you're right about one thing... All this is because people were offended. They misunderstood my post and believed I was talking myself up or talking down to fat people or whatever else could be read into it and then tried to justify their offence with a whole mess of things. I must be shallow. And I must be a coward. I must be judgmental. And then to justify the insults, I must be deliberately trying to provoke insults... With what? I made no offence in the first place. And many of you have just been making asses of yourselves...


You actually are being judgmental. And that's cool. As I pointed out (which apparently you disregarded, because it does not fit in with your persecution/victim line), I am also being judgmental.

Here's the difference:

You were not asked your opinion.
I (we, everyone in this thread) were. YOU ASKED. See the quote:

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ORIGINAL: Cell
If I told you that the first question I use to dismiss a woman's profile is "is she fat?" Would that make me more trustworthy or less?


So, what upsets people is not that you dismiss profiles because "she is fat," but that you felt a need to state that in a thread completely unrelated to your spewed topic.

Do you now see the point?


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RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You - 5/13/2015 12:50:58 AM   
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RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You - 5/13/2015 7:13:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		So, today a dominate guy wrote me criticizing my profile. I was mostly surprised he read it, but I thought about this thread. I was considering editing/revamp in my profile but maybe all I need to do is get dolled up and strip naked. Oh, and download photoshop.

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RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You - 5/13/2015 7:46:30 PM   
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...maybe all I need to do is get dolled up and strip naked.

Sounds like a plan to me.

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RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You - 5/13/2015 7:49:52 PM   
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...maybe all I need to do is get dolled up and strip naked.

Sounds like a plan to me.


Seconded.

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RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You - 5/13/2015 7:56:56 PM   
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RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You - 5/13/2015 8:38:26 PM   
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You don't need photoshop...

pixlr.com is free.




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RE: Your Profile Picture Affects Whether People Trust You - 5/13/2015 9:19:05 PM   
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In college two guys had me edit okc profile pics- for money.

You don't need photoshop...

pixlr.com is free.





Hey thanks....umm, can I borrow your cleavage? J-Lo's ass needs your cleavage.

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