MatureSpaiosexul
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Not myself personally. I got started at 6 when an older woman molested (?) me. She was 8 and required I tie her up, whip her and then took my tiny weenie in her mouth and looked at me with adoration.
I have had a good deal of experience with couples who were in vanilla marriages with one or the other carrying around a very closeted kink. Most of these because of my place in the community were husbands usually drunk and confessing, at times I wondered if I was not like a bdsm priest!
When I met the wives, I often encountered a very vanilla woman who had some of her own fantasies.
Oddly most of the husbands who had fantasies of finding a submissive "fuck slut" they could dominate, in the end turned out to be submissive cuckolds happy to watch their wives with others more Alpha than they.
In the case of the kinky wife, who usually came to me through knowing my subs, the conversion of the husbands were more problematic. I think this is due to them not having a dominant personality and discovering they were not satisfying their wife's needs. We men have rather fragile egos and being informed you are inadequate can be a bit unsettling to say the least.
When the wife in that case could make them feel safe and emotionally secure, they worked things out. In every case, the husband was an active participant. He talked to the men and was present nearly all the time when she was with these dominant men. She constantly expressed her love for her husband and often broke off relationships with men who attempted to get her to leave her husband.
I have only been involved with two couples where the wife was Domme. One was the husband wanted to be Dommed and the wife was a major Christian, but was also pissed and angry woman, truly a domme waiting to be let out of her box.
She and I talked over a number of weeks and finally she got the paradox that for her to "Obey and Follow her husband" she was going to have to both whip and cuckold him. She'd had a number of close calls with other men she found extremely sexually attractive and once she and her husband worked out the logistics, nothing in public, no divorce, and she realized how much he loved her for whipping his ass and his joy at seeing her with her lovers, things settled down.
Eventually they moved in two "associates", one from her company and one from his, one a divorced man and the other never married. The cover was their were looking for places to stay, but remained for years.
The other couple was the oddest I ever encountered. The wife was quite masculine and clearly a Domme. Again she came to me through my a sub and wanted some advice. Her husband was a very mousy looking accountant and at first glance you thought "piece of cake this guy is a sub." Turns out he was just mousy looking.
As I got to know him better, I found one of those mousy looking men of steel. One day his wife just impulsively grabbed his arm and told him that he made her feel safe.
He was at my office the next day for advice on bodybuilding, which honestly I know little about. I do however have a bit of experience as an Olympic skier, professional tennis player and dancer, so he and I set up a program and mouse became the Arnold of the accounting world.
He and his wife ended up being a Dom-Domme couple with slaves of both sexes. When I first met him after meeting her, this was the last thing I imagined happening.
I think we so often think our partner wants something else and I find the delivery is so very important.
My funniest couple were in North Carolina, both from wealthy old planation money who both drunk about 3 weeks apart confessed (Yes, do please call me Father) fantasies of the wife being gang raped by big black buck n!ggers (<actual quote of both) and were convinced if the other knew they were THINKING this they would divorce them.
Being a facilitator, I knew my job. and my god was she hot once that got sorted.
So my advice to anyone who finds themselves in this position that marriage is based on communication. And the most important part is making sure your partner feels SAFE and SECURE.
And having expectations this is going to be easy is not the best idea. I have seen some of these start out looking like divorce, even lawyers sharpening knives and pens to end in marriages made in heaven.
Anyone who wants to PM with specific questions are welcomed to do so.
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