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RE: experiences with dommes who require you to join a B... - 5/23/2015 11:38:28 AM

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I couldn't agree more, well said. I find it interesting how most financial dommes look down on sex workers. When in reality, they follow the same business
model.

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RE: experiences with dommes who require you to join a B... - 5/23/2015 11:38:57 AM

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We are not making this about money doms around here. The original post is about a certain scam. If we are going to turn the thread into another form of complaint/commentary on findoms, I will start pulling posts or the thread. There will be no thread drift into the big picture.

When staff pops into a thread, it is wise to pay attention. I do not like repeating myself.

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RE: experiences with dommes who require you to join a B... - 5/23/2015 11:46:59 AM

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begging you to put this in feisty so I can edumacate and advise the last two posters before you??????
pwetty pwease wiv a cherry on da top?

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RE: experiences with dommes who require you to join a B... - 5/23/2015 12:31:41 PM

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begging you to put this in feisty so I can edumacate and advise the last two posters before you??????
pwetty pwease wiv a cherry on da top?

I'm not sure whom you speak about, but looking back, depending on how you count backward, I was the penultimate poster, and I was very clear to answer (in multiple posts) the concerns of the OP, which, I see, you didn't bother to even attempt to add value.

With respect to the OP's question, it's probably in the genre of the top 5 questions asked on Collarspace (namely how to spot a scam).
I find it intellectually interesting that, of the top 5 questions, the answers from the less well informed are always the same, while those who are well informed, in general, have a more open opinion.

I don't know what the best solution to the top 5 questions are, since there is only consensus agreement on the type that the OP asked (i.e., yes, it 'is' a scam, almost certainly anyway if a domme asks you to join a web site as a condition of further contact).

But, to the OP, it would be helpful if you've internalized the answers, to date, and then you write back what you've discerned, after looking more closely at the various communications where you've exchanged information with those specific Dommes (including the infamous Mystress World).

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RE: experiences with dommes who require you to join a B... - 5/23/2015 12:33:35 PM

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Cynical, much?

At your age, I doubt you've earned sufficient battle scars to make such pronouncements.

Depending on how you define "begging" and depending on how you define paying, dudes will fork over money hand over fist to self-gratify, whatever that may entail (video games, electronics, hot wheels, betting/gambling, feeding their addictions).

But. . . as in the case of music downloads, burning discs, and so forth, if dudes think they should be able to pirate goods and get freebie services, then they aren't so willing to shell out the dough or to put themselves out. Women being seen as a commodity can fall under either one of these categories. I would agree that it is rare to find a man who doesn't expect something tangible in exchange for cash outlay.

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ORIGINAL: xrampage101

Let's be honest on here; female domination over a male is really a male fantasy. This also includes
male fetishes as well. Most women aren't sexually stimulated by all this. Instead, they are more motivated by the financial gain and gifts they receive in return.

Here, I will have to disagree on so many levels.

Extricate domination from fetishes, because while they are linked or lumped together, they are two separate things and you can have one without the other.
It isn't just the majority of male fetishes which aren't arousing to many women, it's their compulsively self-absorbed fetishy behavior which can be an even greater turn off.

Indulging a fetish is not an act of domination. Those who do cater to men's fetishes are providing a service, whether this amounts to financial gain or material benefit to them, and she could be a vanilla sex worker, a BDSM provider who is a switch or a sub and not even a Domme.

Acts of domination are what is sexually stimulating to a Dominant woman. If she is a sadistic Top, then it's the sadomasochism which excites her, but not all Dommes are sadistic Tops.

When you paint "most women" with such a wide brush and with myopic tunnel vision, you should be better informed about the subjects of which you speak.

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