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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

There are lots of people who don't want to be spanked. Not unusual at all. At most spanking parties, you can color code a name badge to show whether you're a top, bottom, switch, or nonparticipant.

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ORIGINAL: anaturalsubmiss

it is always raining men no matter where you go

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ORIGINAL: ShoeDivaManko

OK so it was something I knew would be sort of more about the parties and merriment than play but FFXX (since it happens once a decade), I decided to attend. After attending my first fetish event I can say it was everything I expected, LOL. People were having fun, lots of rubber and play and yea, good times. Had I entered the lifestyle at one of these things though I would have NEVER taken it seriously or made it a part of my life. I probably would have been doing these sort of parties regularly and that would likely become my thing. Being seen, being known, I get the appeal. The atmosphere was very whimsical and light hearted and there was a lot of people treating me like a virgin (I think I'm too sweet, people were issuing warnings to me and asked me the kinkiest thing I have done *which scared at least one*, LOL). I think what did surprise me was that the rules of consent is quite lax there, well...no, I expected that to some degree but it seemed like attendance of this event to many = consent. I had to decline spankings a few times, though I think they meant no harm. Just a lot of partying and playing and people wanting me (who stuck out like a sore thumb) to participate. Maybe I came across as a unicorn (Finally, my first participatory threesome!)
Another thing I liked is WOWZERS, it was raining men there. OK, met one sub who eluded me for a while who I met from cs, he is total virgin (lifestyle wise) and got him to chauffeur me a few places in panties. Met another guy I'm entirely attracted to, when we saw each other we just sort of locked eyes and conversation took off from there. Had a few miscellaneous subs who begged to be my dog/bitch/foot boy. I had to tell them it doesn't work that way for me. I think that confused them entirely as did my reluctance for public play, LOL. I can do it yes but it's something I have never done and it really felt like a very weird space to be in when I've never considered it.
Also that I REALLY didn't want to be spanked. Am I really so odd in this regard? Mind over matter yea, but it is cringeworthy for me, especially in a public setting. In fairness though, every Dom there had been spanked allegedly and I think my mention of "collaring" confused some people. I would elaborate further by stating "ownership". I know fetish factory events are more for the rubber/kink crowd but it made me realize just how so different kinksters can be even in their perception of the lifestyle, experience, D/s and etc. To be frank, none of this I wasn't expecting, except locking eyes with the one individual who's company I enjoyed and I gave my digits. The most startling difference was the men just throwing themselves shamelessly at you vs emailing people back and forth on here. It was nice and fun but not sure if I would do this event again as a single female.

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ORIGINAL: adistantbeacon

Grammar nazi!

:)