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Maintenance Beatings - 5/31/2015 9:23:36 AM

ownedslavejulia

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So, I was having a conversation the other day with a good friend about the subject of maintenance beatings and I thought I'd ask the audience (the phone a friend option really didn't seem appropriate!).

Anyway, as someone who is a total wimp with pain i have only ever experienced beatings as a form of punishment and I do wonder if a maintenance beating would be a good thing or just go into places I don't want to go but I admit that every now and then I do find myself almost craving that release even though I hate pain.

So, Maintenance beatings. Good or Bad? Do you incorporate them as part of your service?

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RE: Maintenance Beatings - 5/31/2015 12:10:31 PM

MiaCastle

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Extreme play as maintenance for punishment sounds counter productive to me. I don't really use punishment as a dynamic and extreme play isn't part of my interests. So I would say it's bad in my relationships, but to each their own. If it works for you, it works. If you have wondered about it or think it might be a good release, then for you it might be good.

Just the word beat conjurers up a cringe from me. I picture abuse when someone uses the word, but that is mine to deal with. I did do maintenance spankings with one of my submissives. It kept him balanced after a rough day, so we did them more for fun and because it helped him.

Mia

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RE: Maintenance Beatings - 5/31/2015 10:18:48 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ownedslavejulia
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So, Maintenance beatings. Good or Bad? Do you incorporate them as part of your service?

This is the Catch-22 as I perceive it. If you are maso, then how effective is it to keep a slave in line by possibly encouraging lack of obedience because the slave wants to get punished routinely?

Beatings, canings, and other forms of impact play for sadomasochists would be what gets incorporated into funishment in a BDSM scene. I'm sure Mia's sub looked forward to getting his regular spankings.

If you are not maso (you say you hate pain), then why would you want your Master to beat you? Are you certain that you aren't just craving more of his time and attention instead?

Not only is this counterproductive, but having to subjugate your slave by keeping her/him in her/his place with corporal punishment instead of by mental domination or more creative disciplinary methods which would actually teach you a lesson sounds to me like a piss-poor Master who has to resort to brutal degradation in order to assert his dominance. The end result is what counts, and if the end result is to make a slave feel as though she/he is a bad slave rather than one who strives to excel in servitude, then I don't see the point of that.

DreamLady

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RE: Maintenance Beatings - 5/31/2015 11:26:56 PM

sweetieDA

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Yes, I have discipline on Friday, Saturday, Sunday and when we do a 'fast'. We call it a punishment, but it's just to keep me in line, rather than because I did anything wrong.

We do 42 minutes of pain or 42 strokes of whatever implement Master prefers.

The point is that the pain puts me in a submissive headspace, where I am less resistant, more focussed on serving and pleasing Master, it gives an outlet for his sadism, it teaches me to accept discomfort and it leaves me sore. Somehow, the soreness makes me feel more submissive, and it gives Master a slave who squeals delightfully whenever he tweaks her nipple or slaps her ass.

On a positive note, the punishments often lead into further play or sex, so having that regular outlet means we play regularly and have that intimacy and connection with each other as a Dom and sub :-)

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RE: Maintenance Beatings - 6/1/2015 4:10:53 AM

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Two sides. When i used to put up with "maintenance beatings" it was specically because i didnt like them and i used it as a reminder that i also hated the person on the other end of the stick. It was a reminder of the wedge, the boundaries, between how i viewed myself and how others viewed me. My stoic responce to pain was there to make sure i remembered that that is what humans are, and only though focussed solitude was i capable of being anything else.

Now i leave if someone hits me, i leave if they are rude, i leave if they dont like me... i figure its a lot easier to be direct about my solitude and actually be alone than bury myself within my mind.

Its harder to stay focussed this way but i dont have to be outwardly blank to pull it off. And i dont see people too much anymore i dont have to block it out except a couple times a week, making for a much cheerier disposition.

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RE: Maintenance Beatings - 6/1/2015 11:14:51 AM

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I get spakinggs i don't get beat. Unless they are play spankings Masters uses then for punishment. I hate them but it serves as a reminder not to do whatever it is i did to dererve the spanking( have only gotong 3 in the 9+ years we have ben together) I dont need a weekly spanking to put me in a submissive headspace, or to strive to serve him better, i always serve him to the brst of my ability.

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RE: Maintenance Beatings - 6/1/2015 11:26:04 AM

ResidentSadist

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My slave is a sexual masochist so pain is orgasmic and a good thing. Quite often, we start the day with "have you had your spankings yet?" She says it centers her, puts her in her "place" so to speak... and it feels good for both of us.

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RE: Maintenance Beatings - 6/1/2015 4:51:06 PM

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You might want to define maintenance beatings. Are you talking about a few spanks on the ass with your hand or welts with cane or belt, or slaps to the face or tits, Punchings? It all depends on the sub/slave as to whether is is needed or counterproductive. My slave is a maso so she gets her ass reddened with my hand each morning and she says it focuses her and lets her know her place and that she is loved and appreciated.

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RE: Maintenance Beatings - 6/1/2015 6:00:44 PM

dreamlady

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Pballer123

You might want to define maintenance beatings. . . . It all depends on the sub/slave as to whether is is needed or counterproductive.

I wouldn't consider routine spankings to be maintenance beatings, so that isn't how I had originally interpreted OP's question.
She is a slave who has "only ever experienced beatings as a form of punishment."

Imo, spankings wanted or "needed" by a sub aren't beatings per se, and what the Master's intent is along with the sub or slave's perception, makes a tremendous difference.

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ORIGINAL: littleone35

I dont need a weekly spanking to put me in a submissive headspace, or to strive to serve him better, i always serve him to the brst of my ability.

If not done in the spirit of funishment, and if mutual sadomasochistic gratification or release is not on the table, then my outlook is attuned with Matt's littleone's as to my own personal preference in sub desirability.

OP, what is your Master's opinion of this issue and his preference in this matter?

DreamLady

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RE: Maintenance Beatings - 6/2/2015 6:43:39 PM

DesFIP

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I need a certain amount of play to stay on an even keel. Not beatings because so not a maso. But if we don't play every couple of weeks, I'm more stressed and less calm.

It's easier to schedule this for every Saturday morning for half an hour or Tuesday night before the news than it is to try to see someone's attitude changing and figure out why.

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RE: Maintenance Beatings - 6/2/2015 7:21:49 PM

Arturas

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We keep it special.

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RE: Maintenance Beatings - 6/3/2015 4:27:34 AM

kittenheels1968

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I get a damned good spanking/whipping/whatever comes to hand at least twice a week, lol, and I'm a good girl. but then I'm a bit of a pain slut, so to keep me in line it would be more like, maintenance leaving alones...

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RE: Maintenance Beatings - 6/6/2015 4:45:46 PM

Snitch

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Craving a beating is a form of attention whoring.

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RE: Maintenance Beatings - 6/6/2015 7:28:56 PM

ResidentSadist

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Snitch
Craving a beating is a form of attention whoring.

. . . but taking care of each others' needs is good relationship skills.

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RE: Maintenance Beatings - 6/7/2015 7:46:34 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

quote:

ORIGINAL: Snitch
Craving a beating is a form of attention whoring.

. . . but taking care of each others' needs is good relationship skills.

Seriously. Having needs is attention whoring?

I can see how craving something MIGHT lead to expressing that need in an inappropriate way, but with good relationship skills and attentive care of your partners needs; it needn't be a bad thing.

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RE: Maintenance Beatings - 6/8/2015 6:53:05 PM

LookieNoNookie

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ownedslavejulia

So, I was having a conversation the other day with a good friend about the subject of maintenance beatings and I thought I'd ask the audience (the phone a friend option really didn't seem appropriate!).

Anyway, as someone who is a total wimp with pain i have only ever experienced beatings as a form of punishment and I do wonder if a maintenance beating would be a good thing or just go into places I don't want to go but I admit that every now and then I do find myself almost craving that release even though I hate pain.

So, Maintenance beatings. Good or Bad? Do you incorporate them as part of your service?

I don't but then....I'd be the receiver.

Good or bad?

Good...in all ways. It clears my head.

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RE: Maintenance Beatings - 6/8/2015 6:54:27 PM

LookieNoNookie

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ORIGINAL: MiaCastle

Extreme play as maintenance for punishment sounds counter productive to me. I don't really use punishment as a dynamic and extreme play isn't part of my interests. So I would say it's bad in my relationships, but to each their own. If it works for you, it works. If you have wondered about it or think it might be a good release, then for you it might be good.

Just the word beat conjurers up a cringe from me. I picture abuse when someone uses the word, but that is mine to deal with. I did do maintenance spankings with one of my submissives. It kept him balanced after a rough day, so we did them more for fun and because it helped him.

Mia

Couldn't have said it more plainly.

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RE: Maintenance Beatings - 6/9/2015 10:20:00 AM

Arturas

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ORIGINAL: kittenheels1968

I get a damned good spanking/whipping/whatever comes to hand at least twice a week, lol, and I'm a good girl. but then I'm a bit of a pain slut, so to keep me in line it would be more like, maintenance leaving alones...

I understand fully and I have yet to meet a woman who is not one in the right circumstance. I fear society has suppressed women but glad I can free so many. It is a burden I must carry.

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RE: Maintenance Beatings - 6/9/2015 10:45:17 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Arturas

quote:

ORIGINAL: kittenheels1968

I get a damned good spanking/whipping/whatever comes to hand at least twice a week, lol, and I'm a good girl. but then I'm a bit of a pain slut, so to keep me in line it would be more like, maintenance leaving alones...

I understand fully and I have yet to meet a woman who is not one in the right circumstance. I fear society has suppressed women but glad I can free so many. It is a burden I must carry.

I think I'm the only one on these forums who perceives a big twinkle in your eyes when you say stuff like that

. Always makes me smile.

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RE: Maintenance Beatings - 6/9/2015 12:51:56 PM

Arturas

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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2

quote:

ORIGINAL: Arturas

quote:

ORIGINAL: kittenheels1968

I get a damned good spanking/whipping/whatever comes to hand at least twice a week, lol, and I'm a good girl. but then I'm a bit of a pain slut, so to keep me in line it would be more like, maintenance leaving alones...

I understand fully and I have yet to meet a woman who is not one in the right circumstance. I fear society has suppressed women but glad I can free so many. It is a burden I must carry.

I think I'm the only one on these forums who perceives a big twinkle in your eyes when you say stuff like that . Always makes me smile.

You make me smile too and you're truly and beautifully perceptive.

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