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daniel1973 -> Taking it up the ass (6/16/2015 4:01:55 AM)
I wanted to let a friend of mine have a go at me as a kind of birthday present. After a few seconds I had to break it off because the pain was absolutely unbearable. Condom and lubrication all in place, I tried to relax as much as I could in the situation. From the videos I'm watching I gather that the pleasure is never on the receiving end ... but I am not a physical coward. Any ideas, please?

InHisHeart -> RE: Taking it up the ass (6/16/2015 4:39:03 AM)
Did you work up to it or did he just go for it slamming it in there and thrusting away? I'm on the receiving end of anal often, it's very pleasurable for me and Master is well endowed. He also has me peg him on occasion and it's very pleasurable to him. Anal sex if done right shouldn't be painful.

daniel1973 -> RE: Taking it up the ass (6/16/2015 5:20:03 AM)
Thanks for your reply! It was the latter, he went right for it. Said he: "they do it all the time in the army". As much as I love that guy, but if a certain amount of subtlety and technique is required I will certainly not try it again with him!

NorthernGent -> RE: Taking it up the ass (6/16/2015 8:15:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: daniel1973 "they do it all the time in the army". All boys together?

ResidentSadist -> RE: Taking it up the ass (6/16/2015 1:38:25 PM)
"I gather that the pleasure is never on the receiving end" There are orgasms for both sexes from anal sex if you do it right. Read up a bit and give it a try again.

Wayward5oul -> RE: Taking it up the ass (6/16/2015 4:26:36 PM)
It definitely has to be worked up to, you can't just go straight in. But when approached properly, it can be very pleasurable. I avoided it for years because of the fear of pain, but now it is in my top 3 list of favorite things to do.

daniel1973 -> RE: Taking it up the ass (6/16/2015 4:50:06 PM)
No, with your favorite bunkmate. Stories abound. But since I wasn't drafted I can't confirm or deny.

LadyPact -> RE: Taking it up the ass (6/16/2015 4:55:38 PM)
My idea? Your friend is a dick. ETA... OK, OK, my not be a jerk side. Every human being walking this planet has the same nerve endings in the anus. All it takes is relaxing them in the right way to make a person receptive. This guy you were 'offering yourself up for' didn't have the right mojo. A little tease and play can fix this. If he doesn't know how to do that, you can take care of it beforehand so you will be a little more... receptive. People have been fucking each other up the ass for centuries.

daniel1973 -> RE: Taking it up the ass (6/16/2015 5:14:23 PM)
Ah so it doesn't work if you're in a hurry to get it done. So much for a guy who is as nervous about it as you are ;-)

LadyPact -> RE: Taking it up the ass (6/16/2015 5:21:56 PM)
Dude, (don't be offended, I call everybody "dude") it absolutely can work if you're 'in a hurry'. Did the guy really want to fuck you? Did you really want to do it or were you just trying to live out some m/m fantasy? I've seen five males on the scroll in the last few minutes that, if I had a mind to, I could tickle their fancy. Maybe your birthday 'gift' wasn't such a gift, after all.

daniel1973 -> RE: Taking it up the ass (6/16/2015 5:35:44 PM)
We feel close to each other for reasons I can only ascribe to a higher existence. But yes, he can be a dick at times! I was convinced that he tried not to be one in that situation, I suppose you just can't turn it off.

daniel1973 -> RE: Taking it up the ass (6/16/2015 5:40:36 PM)
No offense taken. I sucked his dick twice although I got nothing out of it except a very happy wannabe master :-) That's how serious I was.

LadyPact -> RE: Taking it up the ass (6/16/2015 5:48:19 PM)
This is the best I can tell you... Not everybody is sexually suited for everybody else. Even if you are close, connected, or all of that other jazz. Physically? It may just not work. Heck, I know some of the most gorgeous women (inside and out) on the planet and it wouldn't do a thing for me. Contrary to popular opinion, not everybody is at least a little bit bi, not everybody wants to hit it with everyone who walks, and not everybody gets wet or hard just because somebody offers up their tail.

daniel1973 -> RE: Taking it up the ass (6/16/2015 5:50:17 PM)
I can go into more detail if you wish but the general situation was just that he indicated that he wanted it very much and I said OK I'm old enough for that.

LadyPact -> RE: Taking it up the ass (6/16/2015 6:04:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: daniel1973 I can go into more detail if you wish but the general situation was just that he indicated that he wanted it very much and I said OK I'm old enough for that. No need for that. I've seen and heard plenty of guys suck cock before. Some guys are all cool with letting another guy suck them off but have a psychological barrier about doing another guy up the ass. (Cause, ya know, that really makes them gay and all.) Whatever hints he's dropping doesn't mean he actually wants to do you. It just means he wants to keep the option of another blow job possible. By the way, when are we getting to the part where this has anything to do with bondage, discipline, sadism, or masochism?

daniel1973 -> RE: Taking it up the ass (6/16/2015 6:09:48 PM)
You are so right, it has to click. I was pursuing a theory back then of "scratch my by back and then I'll scratch yours" - does not work. But imagine you are willing to give and waiting to receive ... there are so many pitfalls. Going back to the original subject: it just seemed weird to me that so many people can obviously do it and I can't.

daniel1973 -> RE: Taking it up the ass (6/16/2015 6:23:45 PM)
I really joined this forum because you can't ask this kind of question on Facebook. Want to talk shop? Sure! Discipline is the basis of a good relationship. Bondage? I miss those restraints. Master says I don't need them any more but they give you a little space of your own.

LadyPact -> RE: Taking it up the ass (6/16/2015 6:25:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: daniel1973 You are so right, it has to click. I was pursuing a theory back then of "scratch my by back and then I'll scratch yours" - does not work. But imagine you are willing to give and waiting to receive ... there are so many pitfalls. Going back to the original subject: it just seemed weird to me that so many people can obviously do it and I can't. Sucking somebody off doesn't necessarily mean they are going to give you a favor in return. Most males, unless they are multi-orgasmic (or actually give a shit about the partner) are going to cum and be done. (Every female will tell you this.) Some folks are just selfish lovers. That's not even necessarily a D/s thing, It's a douche bag thing.

LadyPact -> RE: Taking it up the ass (6/16/2015 6:44:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: daniel1973 Discipline is the basis of a good relationship. No, it's not. That's a myth. It's something that folks into D/s tell themselves to feel superior to people who don't live their lives that way. More vanilla folks make it to that silver (25 years) or golden (50 years) anniversary than most kink folks do. Those relationships are built on love, loyalty, and fortitude.

daniel1973 -> RE: Taking it up the ass (6/16/2015 7:05:06 PM)
Yep I get that. Male sexuality is selfish by nature. It seems that you have to be actually smart to sign up for something better.

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