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Jnj -> RE: How important is fear? (7/25/2006 2:38:59 PM)
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ORIGINAL: shigglyboom
I'm wondering - among the masters here, how important is fear play to you? (By this I'm referring not to a sub's anticipation or dread of what's coming, but actual fear.) What about it does or doesn't appeal? Do you find the majority of subs you encounter want this, tolerate it, or count it among their hard limits? How does this not erode a foundation of trust?
Hi Shig,
I am not a Master, but I am going to answer anyway :)
Fear is very important to my owner and myself. The majority of our scenes revolve around fear play. I'm defining fear play here as a scene with the purpose of creating apprehension or terror in the bottom.
The appeal for Jim and I comes in several parts. He finds it gives him a level of control that is difficult to accomplish in other forms of scening, he enjoys seeing me terrified, and becomes aroused when I beg, scream, cry, conjole, try to negotiate, etc. Seeing me in fear makes him feel like an alpha dog.
I personally enjoy fear -- real fear, and am able to experience it during scening. It makes my pussy wet, makes me feel both submissive and feral at the same time, and gives me a glimpse into a portion of myself that is less civilized and more reactionary. Fear play allows me to explore nasty emotions in a relatively safe environment.
It is absolutely possible for fear play to erode the level of trust, even between seasoned partners who know each other's reactions well. If you are going to play with fear, you have to accept that, be on the look out for it, and vow to work hard to fear what your partner is doing, and not your partner. During the scene, this is easy. When Jim has a gun in my mouth, I'm not thinking about him, I'm thinking about the gun. The difficulty comes after the scene -- you must reassure yourself that you asked for it, you grew from it, and in the end, you weren't emotionally/physically damaged beyond repair. I enjoy it, so those reassurances are easy to make to myself, but for someone who is doing it to please their Master, I can see that it would be difficult to not equate intense terror to being untrustworthy.
Jerith
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