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MiaCastle -> RE: diapers ? (6/30/2015 2:08:07 PM)
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How do you have self control pissing your pants?
I'm with icandy and would question the dominance of a diapered dom. Just my preference I guess, my concept and maybe judgement. All's fair in love, relationships, play partners and diapers isn't a go in my play-land. There are people that I wouldn't consider dominant and that is alright. I don't mind being accused of being opinionated and even unfair at times. There are people that can claim anything. Some influence on that alone, a perception with a title can be what amounts to a number of self professed dominants and those that give them worth based on a title and not the person.
What we want in our relationships is what we want. We don't have to accept everything other people do in the name of kink and fairness. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to be with a dominant man in diapers, or in my case, a submissive man in diapers. Babies are dependent, adults in depends present as dependent. Dependent doesn't represent dominant to me, though I know many are, I don't see it as a strength, but a weakness. I doubt I am alone in this. We are human beings and will have our weakness, but a dominant welding a paddle, while in a diaper and I might laugh to the point of tears picturing it.
We become who we are and put value to certain things. I wouldn't value a dominant in diapers, though they have every right to wear them and good for them, but it wouldn't be someone I considered dominant.
As a dominant female, I have seen many men that were closer to submissive than dominant, but claimed to be dominant because that was more acceptable to them. They have a difficult time admitting they were submissive because they saw it as faulty. Lots of men think they have to be what a 'real' man is and downgrade submissive men because of it. Acceptance in many ways is challenging to people. Our concepts are what they are. Right, wrong or neither, we can go for acceptance of all things and still wouldn't necessarily be right, fair, accepting or correct.
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