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definition - 7/14/2015 12:05:28 PM

dilimiti

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what is a daddy dom (to the ladies)?

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RE: definition - 7/14/2015 2:22:09 PM

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Depends on the lady you ask.

I'm a lady, and a Daddy Dom. To me, that means a nurturing, protective relationship, in which I also challenge him to learn and grow, guide him into new things to push him to be greater. I am kind, gentle when I need to be, affectionate, loving, and also harsh when I should be, using pain, discipline, and challenging goals to build him up.

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RE: definition - 7/14/2015 3:08:21 PM

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what is a daddy dom (to the ladies)?

A dude who has no frame of reference for a female submitting to a male authority figure other than the parent/child authority relationship, and who thus, when reaching adulthood and finding himself desiring to be a male authority towards a female calls that relationship the only word he has for it: "daddy/little girl".

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RE: definition - 7/14/2015 4:03:45 PM

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I probably means something different to most, but I think it just means an older Man and a younger woman who submits to him.

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RE: definition - 7/14/2015 5:46:18 PM

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A dude who has no frame of reference for a female submitting to a male authority figure other than the parent/child authority relationship, and who thus, when reaching adulthood and finding himself desiring to be a male authority towards a female calls that relationship the only word he has for it: "daddy/little girl".

That's a wee bit judgmental. Either you don't know many Daddy doms, or you know the wrong ones.

My first, and longest BDSM relationship wasn't dd/lg at all. I learned a lot from that relationship about the kink and myself. I'm still friends with the lady who brought me into all this and think highly of her. But we never did dd/lg once, it squicked her.

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RE: definition - 7/14/2015 6:57:00 PM

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A dude who has no frame of reference for a female submitting to a male authority figure other than the parent/child authority relationship, and who thus, when reaching adulthood and finding himself desiring to be a male authority towards a female calls that relationship the only word he has for it: "daddy/little girl".

That's a wee bit judgmental. Either you don't know many Daddy doms, or you know the wrong ones.

My first, and longest BDSM relationship wasn't dd/lg at all. I learned a lot from that relationship about the kink and myself. I'm still friends with the lady who brought me into all this and think highly of her. But we never did dd/lg once, it squicked her.

Of course it's judgemental. It's my opinion, which is by definition a judgement of how I see the world.

I don't see how it implies a negative judgement though. It's my perception of those who choose the "Daddy" label, instead of the "Dom" or "Master" label, that they do so because that's how their frame of reference fits with their desired relationship. Just like those who pick the "Dom" or "Master" label fits their frame of reference. Don't see how how that's negative thing.

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RE: definition - 7/14/2015 7:06:08 PM

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But they could just as easily pick this label because it resonates with them. I view it as someone who is more nurturing than strict, who also enjoys molding the sub. I think of it as having a fair bit of white knight in it. He gets to help someone who is somewhat dependent on him.

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RE: definition - 7/14/2015 7:11:17 PM

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I don't see how it implies a negative judgement though.

It does come across as negative though, a little like "that's what they identify with because they don't know any better".

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RE: definition - 7/14/2015 7:19:25 PM

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But they could just as easily pick this label because it resonates with them. I view it as someone who is more nurturing than strict, who also enjoys molding the sub. I think of it as having a fair bit of white knight in it. He gets to help someone who is somewhat dependent on him.

And, indeed, he may not himself pick this label. The sub could identify him as being paternal.

Damn it, this was supposed to be an edit, not a quote.

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RE: definition - 7/15/2015 1:50:37 PM

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what is a daddy dom (to the ladies)?

A dude who has no frame of reference for a female submitting to a male authority figure other than the parent/child authority relationship, and who thus, when reaching adulthood and finding himself desiring to be a male authority towards a female calls that relationship the only word he has for it: "daddy/little girl".

Ease up, young lady :-)

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RE: definition - 7/15/2015 6:16:43 PM

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A daddy dom is generally not as about structure. Where as a normal dom might set up a schedule and micromanage the way you serve, punishing when you fail, or just for fun. A daddy dom tends to be more about letting you be you, his love isnt conditional on your behavior. They seek to guide and nurture instead of change. A dom is about changing the slave to suit them where a daddy dom tends to like them how they are and wants to help them be them.

Ive gone both ways and my current daddy far surpasses any dom I've had.

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RE: definition - 7/16/2015 2:24:31 PM

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ORIGINAL: dilimiti

what is a daddy dom (to the ladies)?

A dude who has no frame of reference for a female submitting to a male authority figure other than the parent/child authority relationship, and who thus, when reaching adulthood and finding himself desiring to be a male authority towards a female calls that relationship the only word he has for it: "daddy/little girl".

Ease up, young lady :-)

Fine, fine, I admit it... I've been grumpy lately.
Not even sex.

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RE: definition - 7/17/2015 1:15:09 AM

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I'm leather, so "Daddy" probably means something different to me than it does you.

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