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RogueCell -> RE: Getting a slave/sub (7/19/2015 5:12:44 AM)
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I can't speak for other (submissive) women, but I do know that my hackles are up and claws bared every time I read about people (usually men) seeking a sub/slave in absolutely the same manner they might use in the process of engaging domestic staff. And I am someone who LOVES to do things for the person I care about.
- "The role entails..." (followed by a long list of prerequisites/demands). Well actually, in BDSM the role is negotiable - otherwise you are talking about a job. You are not going to get many applicants for a demanding job that offers no recompense.
- Failure to treat potential responders as people first and foremost. However submissive they might be, almost no one enjoys having their humanity overlooked. Those who do and will snap to it with a stranger...well, I'd wager money you are going to regret getting involved with them.
- I have and continue to work bloody hard to have built a life for myself I am proud of. This is tiring, emotionally demanding stuff. My interest in people who don't respect this is zero, as is my interest in working ten hours, then driving another one, to pick up someone's dirty socks who was too lazy to do it himself. Where is the fulfilment for a professional woman in this? Failure to have insight into this is not exactly an inspiring quality in a master. That is not a relationship, it is domestic servitude. If that's what you want, say so, anything else is attempting (in my view) to manipulate those of a submissive mindset into being your unpaid skivvy. Seriously not cool.
- All of the above goes double/treble when there is an established couple involved, because you just upped the (potential) neglect stakes to include emotional.
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