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insignificant - 7/16/2006 4:17:26 PM   
slavegirlalex


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Status: offline 		I am not sure where to ask this, and hope it does not sound like a whine.

Does anyone know of an exercise that would aid me in getting over the feeling of being insignificant?

Silly question maybe?

alex

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RE: insignificant - 7/16/2006 4:39:28 PM   
puella


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Status: offline 		Hello,  alex....

That is a hard question to answer without knowing why you are feeling the way you do.

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RE: insignificant - 7/16/2006 4:54:48 PM   
LadyHugs


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Status: offline 		Dear slavegirlalex,
 
If a lass feels insugnificant it is because there is no purpose, no role to play in life and perhaps a bout of depression.  Summer, heat and daily miseries often give such depressive feelings amplification.
 
Should a lass be in between ownership or belonging to someone; instead of feeling insugnificant, it is a good time to restore yourself, be free to do things you cannot when owned, treat yourself kindly and then be happy to be one of the many lassies that bring pleasure to people by being the unique lass you really are. 
 
You would be surprised how many seeking slaves and submissives feel inadequate and insignificant due to the gap between owners and or a relationship.  To me lass, all individuals are very significant and really matter to those who exist here.
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
 

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RE: insignificant - 7/16/2006 4:57:06 PM   
slavegirlalex


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Status: offline 		Hello puella and thank you for responding.

Acceptance seems to be something lacking in my life right now.  Too much for one lifestyle, not enough for another lifestyle, leaves one feeling a bit on the invisible side. 

I am not really trying to be dramatic, nor do I want to sound bitter or hurt, I just hope to find something that aids in getting me out of this dragginess and into the more important things life has to offer.

ales

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RE: insignificant - 7/16/2006 4:59:35 PM   
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Status: offline 		You have value beyond being owned, find it.

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RE: insignificant - 7/16/2006 5:00:52 PM   
puella


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RE: insignificant - 7/16/2006 6:04:43 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavegirlalex

I am not sure where to ask this, and hope it does not sound like a whine.

Does anyone know of an exercise that would aid me in getting over the feeling of being insignificant?

Silly question maybe?

alex


Read your tag line, alex .. then sit down with a pen and a piece of paper and make a list of all your attributes.

I'll help you get started.

There is only a single one of you in all of existance.. never to be repeated.. you are unique.

You are not afraid to ask questions.

You can read.

You can write.

You can learn.

You can use a computer.

Keep going until you have a list of 100 things. Every day, add one more.

Soon enough, you'll realize not only are you significant.. you're actually pretty damn amazing. ;)

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RE: insignificant - 7/16/2006 7:19:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		Watch the movie "It's a Wonderful Life" (it's an oldie, but extremely popular, especially around Christmas time). I love that film, it's on my top 10 list, even if some might think it's corny. I am sure you can rent it at Blockbuster or some other video store, as well as buy it. It's worth watching, and a good film.

After you watch it, picture what the world might, in fact, be like if you had never been born. Use your imagination and think of your family and firends, and even strangers you have maybe helped. I did this last year - and it can be a real eye-opener. You might realize then, that you do have an impact, even if it might seem insignificant.You may have an impact as well that you are completely unaware of, but that doesn't necessarily make it less significant. 

I am a big one for believing that people's actions can have a "ripple effect" and that they might affect someone, and the person they affected then affects someone else, and on down the line. Truth is (I think),that you actually don't know how significant you are - but you are cetainly not insignificant.

- Susan

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RE: insignificant - 7/16/2006 7:23:49 PM   
TNstepsout


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Status: offline 		I don't know of any magic exercise or ritual, but when I feel that way it always helps if I turn my attention to other people. Spend time listening to a friend who's having a hard time, or an elderly neighbor who's lonely, do some volunteer work etc... just anything that gets me to thinking and concentrating on someone else.

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RE: insignificant - 7/16/2006 7:24:38 PM   
deltadawn


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Status: offline 		hello alex,

By both your post and your profile you have been hurt, or feel you have been hurt.

Feeling insignificant, invisible..etc is something only you can change.  I agree (and could never have said it as well) with Celeste.  Take time to find what makes you significant.  I bet the list is huge.  Reach out to friends and talk openly.  Do not worry if people view you as whiny go ahead and whine, just find the right people to vent to. 

If you ever want to talk just email me here.

dawn

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RE: insignificant - 7/16/2006 7:55:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		At birth, everyone in the universe is issued one (1) "Significance" point. No matter what we do, we cannot gain or lose that point. No one can take it, we can't give it away; can't buy it, sell it, steal one or have it stolen. We can't lose it, misplace it, or break it.

When the need arises, I just remind myself that the person I am looking at or worrying about is carrying the same number of points as me. It might sound silly but it works for me. I didn't come up with this on my own; someone told it to me.

Bob

ps: A more complex discussion of this concept is presented in The Mind Parasites by Colin Wilson.

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RE: insignificant - 7/16/2006 8:16:07 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: TNstepsout

I don't know of any magic exercise or ritual, but when I feel that way it always helps if I turn my attention to other people. Spend time listening to a friend who's having a hard time, or an elderly neighbor who's lonely, do some volunteer work etc... just anything that gets me to thinking and concentrating on someone else.
I agree here with TN...I have always, when down ,concentrated on someone else less focus on the "Me"..it tends to give you a better reality check, and you are not constantly having your mind going in circles about your situation.Eventually resolution will be obtained within you....Tempting

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RE: insignificant - 7/16/2006 8:29:22 PM   
Padriag


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Status: offline 		Pick up a book by Nathaniel Brandon entitled "Honoring the Self".  He wrote it for people just like you.  It'll answer your question far better than I possibly could here.

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RE: insignificant - 7/16/2006 8:49:10 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavegirlalex

I am not sure where to ask this, and hope it does not sound like a whine.

Does anyone know of an exercise that would aid me in getting over the feeling of being insignificant?

Silly question maybe?

alex


We are tiny mortal bipeds on a world within a solar system which is but a fleck on the arm of the galaxy, and that galaxy in turn is but one of billions in the Universe. We are all of us insignificant.

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RE: insignificant - 7/17/2006 4:04:24 AM   
slavegirlalex


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Status: offline 		Thank you all for your words of encouragement and your acts of kindness.

Yesterday was a bad day and seems I vented a bit more than I should have. I will work on being more upbeat in any future postings.

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RE: insignificant - 7/17/2006 4:39:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		I didn't conside that whining; venting is okay, I think. There are times everyone needs to vent. There is a difference between venting and being a consistent whiner.

- Susan 

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RE: insignificant - 7/17/2006 4:46:10 AM   
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Status: offline 		Do what Celeste and the others have said.  You'll feel significant in no time.

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RE: insignificant - 7/17/2006 6:01:04 AM   
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RE: insignificant - 7/17/2006 8:17:48 AM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		Venting is good for the body, mind and soul. It can clear out your mind enough that you can think clearly and see beyond what troubles your having now.

Good luck,

~Lashra

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RE: insignificant - 7/17/2006 9:30:03 AM   
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Does anyone know of an exercise that would aid me in getting over the feeling of being insignificant?


Not a whine, a question all of us deal with in our lives.  Many of us find significance in our work, in our beloveds, in our children.

Volunteer your time, alex.  Be it in a soup kitchen, a day-care program or (my favorite) an animal shelter, nothing will make you feel better, and indeed "significant", than giving your time to another.

I recommend washing dogs.  Give a sweet "Benji" type a bath, groom him or her up and help him/her find a good family.  Very little makes you feel quite as fine.

Best wishes, miss.

(edited to explain that a "Benji" type is a DOG, not the clever CM board regular!  I'm sure the CM Benji would love you to bathe and groom him, but that was NOT my purpose in posting.  And Benj, sorry buddy, you are gonna have to find your own bath attendants!)
--E, who realized that this post could have been once again ENTIRELY misunderstood. 

E.

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