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RE: What They Don't Say - 7/27/2015 4:28:03 AM

NorthernGent

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ORIGINAL: Char2015

I'm into anonymous use....

and I am capable of loving stupid people....

You were doing far better when you far more anonymous, i.e. before you began posting.

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RE: What They Don't Say - 7/27/2015 9:22:04 AM

sweetieDA

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I don't really care what hobbies a person has. I've never cared and I don't enjoy discussing my interests. I find it completely tedious and uninteresting to discuss.

I know that comes across quite harsh, but it's true. It took me a long time to realise that I don't enjoy it, because it's always so assumed that people want to talk about their interests, or ask other people about theirs.

The fastest way to bore me out of a conversation is to ask what kind of things I like to do, or to wait for me to ask you. It will never happen. I couldn't give two hoots. Whatever you do, I will find it utterly boring and have no interest in it whatsoever. If you ask me, I'll probably just brush it off or change the subject.

I find it much more interesting to discuss kinks or ideas. If you ask me what I think about something, that is a ripe topic for discussion. If you ask why I think a certain way or what led me to think that, I am happy to explain. If you want to discuss your opinion on something, I'm totally up for it.

I'd always find it a complete conversation killer when I'd be trying to figure out if a Dom was compatible for me, and they'd be trying to discuss hobbies. I couldn't give two f*cks whether you prefer swimming or cycling, but your opinion on kink? That matters a lot.

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RE: What They Don't Say - 7/27/2015 9:34:28 AM

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ORIGINAL: sweetieDA

I don't really care what hobbies a person has. I've never cared and I don't enjoy discussing my interests. I find it completely tedious and uninteresting to discuss.

I know that comes across quite harsh, but it's true. It took me a long time to realise that I don't enjoy it, because it's always so assumed that people want to talk about their interests, or ask other people about theirs.

The fastest way to bore me out of a conversation is to ask what kind of things I like to do, or to wait for me to ask you. It will never happen. I couldn't give two hoots. Whatever you do, I will find it utterly boring and have no interest in it whatsoever. If you ask me, I'll probably just brush it off or change the subject.

I find it much more interesting to discuss kinks or ideas. If you ask me what I think about something, that is a ripe topic for discussion. If you ask why I think a certain way or what led me to think that, I am happy to explain. If you want to discuss your opinion on something, I'm totally up for it.

I'd always find it a complete conversation killer when I'd be trying to figure out if a Dom was compatible for me, and they'd be trying to discuss hobbies. I couldn't give two f*cks whether you prefer swimming or cycling, but your opinion on kink? That matters a lot.

Swimming.

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