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How do I ask my Mistress to try a "kinky" fet... - 8/1/2015 5:19:42 AM

Bdemustress94

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Dear Mistress,
I'm a slave to a beautiful mistress that I'm so glad to have, she is absolutely amazing and I'm very happy with her.
my only issue however is that I'm into a certain kind of a fetish, which is so exciting to me, but is viewed by many as gross

and it is scat. I never tried it but I've always fantasized about it and to be honest I would love to experience being a toilet to my beautiful mistress.
while I have never asked her this before and I really have no Idea weather she's into this or not I have no idea how to bring this topic, if ever, to her....on one hand It's a huge turn on for me but on the other I'm afraid of her reaction.

so Mistresses, should I bring this topic to her? and if so how you like for a slave to ask you of such a thing?

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RE: How do I ask my Mistress to try a "kinky"... - 8/1/2015 7:12:07 AM

Panarea

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I didn't look at your profile, so, I apologize a priori, if I make assumptions that turn out to be false.

The vast majority of wanna-be submissives have a boatload of fantasies that THEY want fulfilled by their so-called Mistress.

Unfortunately for that vast majority of submissives, it just doesn't work that way (unless you're PAYING her, and then it DOES work that way, to some extent).

If you're not paying her to be your Mistress, then, the very fact that she's your Mistress means SHE gets what SHE wants.

Not you. You get the pleasure of doing what SHE wants.

So, the answer, to your question, assuming she doesn't want what you are trying to get her to do, is that you don't get it from her.

Go PAY a Mistress, and pay a lot, mind you, and then maybe, you'll get your fetish delivered to you the way you like it.

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RE: How do I ask my Mistress to try a "kinky"... - 8/1/2015 10:37:15 AM

Bdemustress94

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Hi panarea,
i do appreciate your answer and i agree to some extent, for me its been a financial relationship with my mistress, i pay her with each visit with some exceptions like holidays she makes an exception ;)
So in a way its not just a matter of money, but more how to approach her with such a request that she may be offended and disgusted by and thats my fear i dont want to lose her.
From a mistresses point of view, how would it be appropriate for a slave to appraoch you with such a request? Im pretty sure its more than " heres more money now take a shit in my mouth" :/

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RE: How do I ask my Mistress to try a "kinky"... - 8/1/2015 11:04:21 AM

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so Mistresses, should I bring this topic to her? and if so how you like for a slave to ask you of such a thing?

Shit yes. I would just say bullshit! Any other crap you want to discuss?

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RE: How do I ask my Mistress to try a "kinky"... - 8/1/2015 11:13:10 AM

Bdemustress94

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Just like that! Lol You dont think its weird? I hope my mistress would be chill abt it

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RE: How do I ask my Mistress to try a "kinky"... - 8/1/2015 12:44:54 PM

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My two cents and my two cents, only. I realize not all advice is applicable to all situations.

I suggest that you discuss it outside of a session. Be as level-headed as you can possibly be. Let go all the emotion tied in with your desire. Pushing your agenda to get your fetish met, on a Domina, would be what disgusts me. Mind you, I never put my servants' health at risk; so, coprophagia would be out of the question, for me. When it's appropriate, tell her there's a fetish you would like to discuss, if she is willing to consider adding another aspect to your play. If she says, "No," drop it. If she says, "Not now," wait for her to bring it back up *in her own, good time.* If she says, "Sure, shoot," be prepared. Remember to present it to her without expectation. Since you are in a pay-for-play relationship, you have room for negotiation...unless she says otherwise.

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RE: How do I ask my Mistress to try a "kinky"... - 8/1/2015 1:45:43 PM

Arturas

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ORIGINAL: Bdemustress94

Just like that! Lol You dont think its weird? I hope my mistress would be chill abt it

Just like that.

You know what is weird? Turning down a newly graduated 18 year old virgin woman on Senior Day in 1971 to "protect her honor". I cannot believe I did that.
You know what's weird? Having a 29 year old blonde sitting in your bathtub wearing your fresh strips and waiting for you to piss on her and you cannot piss. I cannot believe I did that.

So, things are tough for us Doms too and you should not think asking her about this is something she is not prepared to handle one way or the other.

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RE: How do I ask my Mistress to try a "kinky"... - 8/1/2015 4:52:07 PM

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Scat is on a lot of hard-limit lists, so, I'd tread lightly with the Mistress, were I to be in the shoes of the op.

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RE: How do I ask my Mistress to try a "kinky"... - 8/5/2015 12:29:31 AM

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Phrase it as an OFFER, not a REQUEST. If she wants it, then she knows she can have it. But the issue is "does she want it?", and not just "is she willing?"

But I would bring it up. I was once in a relationship with a Mistress that was a lot milder than it needed to be. Early on, she had to get onto me for topping from the bottom, so I kept my mouth shut about a lot of stuff thereafter. Later, when it seemed that our relationship was ending, I told her (more so as a friend) about other things done to me by other Dommes. Her reaction was, "Shit! I could've pushed you a lot harder." And then thankfully, things did not end, and so she started that pushing.

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RE: How do I ask my Mistress to try a "kinky"... - 8/5/2015 12:43:34 PM

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It's been said that she gets to do what she wants and to an extent that's true, but a relationship is supposed to be mutually beneficial at its core.

The only way to get what you want, OP, is to ask. Even if it's uncomfortable to ask, just ask about it. If nothing else, you need to ask because it's important to keep communication open in any relationship = that includes trying new things and new needs.

She'll probably say no and be disgusted. Then you have to decide if this particular kink is something you need or are you willing to give it up and be happy? If it's not a need, make that clear with her and make sure she knows it's just something you'd like to try, and no big deal if you can't. If it is a need and she says no? You have a decision to make that we can't help you with.

Good luck.

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