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RE: effects of long term tantalism and denial - 10/2/2015 3:50:25 PM

sweetieDA

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BTW: Being focused on chastity IS being focused on your dick. Just saying.

Right. Except when you don't have a dick, obviously. Because not everyone into denial is male. Just saying.

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RE: effects of long term tantalism and denial - 10/2/2015 4:04:14 PM

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Like pretty much everything else in life, different people react differently.

BTW: Being focused on chastity IS being focused on your dick. Just saying.

Yes and no. And of course, I'm responding as someone without a dick. But regarding my own tantalism and denial, sure, the arousal keeps me somewhat focused on my sexuality. It's kind of unavoidable - until it's not. Then that's when it comes to an end. But the constant arousal makes me more open, willing, and servile. In all areas of my life, not just my D/s relationship. It goes hand in hand with keeping mindful of the present moment, being a vessel for use and for pleasure. I soften when I'm kept in an aroused state, and that softness affects everything, far beyond anything sexual.

And yes. I also just think it's hot to feel that way.

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RE: effects of long term tantalism and denial - 10/2/2015 7:20:18 PM

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It did nothing but cause a big arguement.
I get really fucking frustrated.

Not my thing.

We never do it now.

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RE: effects of long term tantalism and denial - 10/2/2015 10:15:16 PM

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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

But regarding my own tantalism and denial, sure, the arousal keeps me somewhat focused on my sexuality. It's kind of unavoidable - until it's not. Then that's when it comes to an end. But the constant arousal makes me more open, willing, and servile. In all areas of my life, not just my D/s relationship. It goes hand in hand with keeping mindful of the present moment, being a vessel for use and for pleasure. I soften when I'm kept in an aroused state, and that softness affects everything, far beyond anything sexual.

And yes. I also just think it's hot to feel that way.

I'd like to have you as my secretary. I can't pay you but keeping you in constant arousal should not be very difficult (you get to see me work and sweat after all!) Miss Moneypenny.

< Message edited by DannyIsNotWelcom -- 10/2/2015 10:46:12 PM >

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RE: effects of long term tantalism and denial - 10/3/2015 1:18:14 AM

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Edit: That seems a little bit harsh but consider this: I am my master's slave boy because I am. No contract, no consent, no nothing. It's just a fact. Sometimes it's hot sometimes it's not. But it's real. If I would behave like that as you say in "all areas of my life" I would have ended same in a subway station years ago. I'm not judgmental. I just don't believe that you can live like that without the proverbial money on the bedside table.

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RE: effects of long term tantalism and denial - 10/16/2015 8:14:23 PM

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I've only gone ten days like that and really felt a strong sense of submissiveness, a willingness to serve and please Mistress. My senses were heightened, very vivid, my testicles ached deliciously and I wanted more in some ways, yet hated it at the same time.

Hopefully the right woman will come into my life and take me down an adventurous journey on this. Good luck to all of you who enjoy giving/receiving of such delights!

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RE: effects of long term tantalism and denial - 10/17/2015 1:05:52 AM

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After a few days of tantalism my brain figures out there is no reward, so my libido switches off. You can tease as much as you want, with words or physically, and the result will be nothing.

Now, if after a few days or weeks or months or whatever you want me to become aroused for some 'orgasm allowed' fun, they you're going to have to work a hell of a lot harder than usual because my libido has been switched off and my ability to orgasm has gone into neutral.

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RE: effects of long term tantalism and denial - 10/17/2015 7:05:12 PM

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for the male the sperm are kept in the epididymis for about 72 hrs and if not ejaculated are reabsorbed. as far as the psych area this is going to be different for each is wired differently and had different experiences growing up.