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Just saying hi - 8/24/2015 12:27:40 AM   
MatchaSensei


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I had an old profile that I worked with on Collarme for a few years actually, but this is my first step into the forums and the community at large. I gotta admit, it isn't quite comfortable yet. But the gang here seems very supportive so I have strong hopes it will all work out.

So, about me but not in the profile. Hrm.

I identify here as Dom, though how accurate that is I have no idea. The reality is, when I was dating, those in the lifestyle pretty much assumed that I was and acted accordingly. It seemed to work out for me so I went with it. Over the last 15 or so years, I did some study, worked with some amaizing people who were willing to hold my hand a bit, and I grew into the role more and more. I find it immensely satisfying at times, and at others a chore. But mostly, it is what it has allowed me to do, how it has allowed me to free trapped hearts and spirits from artificial, self imposed restrictions that has been the real gift and has often given me a sense of meaning and purpose in the work, a form of sexual healing if you like, though a bit sideways form things I have read on that subject.

In any event, we have two cats, so my house is never really clean. That should reveal my Virgo and Cancer tendencies. If you buy into such things, then I got a lot of that. My wife does readings and teaches classes on astrology, so I kind of need to know a bit so that we can have conversations with her friends and students. She gets paid for the classes, so I don't share a lot of my opinions about it with paying customers. I also get to play with archetypes a lot in those conversations and that can be a lot of fun.

I manage teams on two continents and work with some of the smartest people in the world. I am usually considered a pretty smart cookie by my friends, but at my work, I got nothing on that crew. Fortunately, my talents lie more in empathy and relationships, and that has served me pretty well. Doesn't hurt that I love what I do.

So now, why am I here ... I have spent the last 15 years doing it on my own. I study, I play, I practice, I experiment, I fail, I pay the price, I try again. It has been a very uphill battle, and honestly I am tired of doing it alone. I want the support that a network like these forums can provide, so that is why I am here.

I am not really comfortable with the sharing, but I share anyway, because I understand this fear, and it will not serve me in this case to listen to it. So I choose to stand here and get things started. It isn't easy, and I appreciate any support you fine folk are able to provide. I am just tired of being in the shadows on this. I hope it helps.

So I look forward to talking with everybody. I hope not to offend, and hope even more that I am able to listen well enough to learn. Thanks.
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RE: Just saying hi - 8/24/2015 6:16:35 AM   
DarkSteven


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Welcome. Before anyone asks or makes assumptions, I'd like to repeat from your profile that you're poly and currently have two women in your life and will not begin anything without their knowledge and consent.

I'm on the other side from you. I'm very competent technically, but not so much on the people side. So I envy you.

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

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