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Balancing kink and life? - 8/25/2015 10:14:09 PM

suchasoftersin

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I am about to be a mother of two. I have been in the lifestyle since I was about 17 (21 now). Sometimes I feel weird and guilty over not ever having time to do what everyone else does (like Skype, etc) because I usually have no dedicated time to do such things.

Is there anyone else with common struggles, and how do you handle it?

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RE: Balancing kink and life? - 8/27/2015 4:40:56 PM

Chrisp7135

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You are describing something that all of us face (D or s).

It seems like people are doing a wide range of activities all the time, because we see them on Facebook, Twitter, and message boards enjoying all kinds of things: the beach, hiking, traveling, dining out, etc.

What it is, is many different people doing different things, and we conflate that in our mind to other people having tons of fun that we are missing out on. In reality, those pictures at the beach on Facebook is Bob's only vacation in 3 years, Margaret's picture at the fancy restaurant is the first time they've been out together since the baby, etc, etc.

It looks like people are doing all kinds of things. Actually, they are stuck at work and home with responsibilities just like we are.

With children, you have time for work, home life, and maybe (maybe!) getting out once a week for a drink with friends or family. That's how life is, and it's what you make of it that counts.
You will have to plan in advance for alone time or couples time, and it is very important that you do. If all you do is work and family you will begin to resent both without some play time (and whatever you define play to be).

You're not alone in this. You're just like the rest of us.

Chris.

P.S. I'd write more, but I have to fly to Paris for the new installation at the Louvre. I need to be back in time for that party in the Hamptons this weekend.

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RE: Balancing kink and life? - 8/27/2015 6:13:30 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: suchasoftersin

Sometimes I feel weird and guilty over not ever having time to do what everyone else does (like Skype, etc) because I usually have no dedicated time to do such things.

Is there anyone else with common struggles, and how do you handle it?

I don't raise kids (Wow! If your dominant is any good he will appreciate what you're doing!) but I really trust him with my life, so I do what he wants me to do and when he says that it's fine it's fine.
Which means in particular that I don't get to feel "weird and guilty". I know what that feels like but I'm trained to skip that!

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RE: Balancing kink and life? - 8/27/2015 6:20:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: Chrisp7135
P.S. I'd write more, but I have to fly to Paris for the new installation at the Louvre. I need to be back in time for that party in the Hamptons this weekend.

I bet you still have a Learjet, you lamer.

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