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RE: Truefullness in the lifestyle. - 7/17/2006 8:31:36 AM

MsKatHouston

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I think it is quite obvious from the tone of your post that you are neither a busy body or trying to make decisions for other people. You clearly state you are just trying to learn and I commend you on that. I also commend you on your decorum in posting in a polite manner even if some other responses were not quite as pleasant.

I will echo the sentiments of those who said to leave it alone. You do not know the people and do not know the whole story and interference from you might not be well received. I might have a different thought if you were close friends with the girl but I think it is important for those getting into a relationship to take responsibility to ensure they are using common sense. If there is something that is not right, she will learn about it eventually and possibly learn how to avoid it in the future. People are aware of all the problems that are possible with relationships and should be on guard. You will also be able to take from this experience some knowledge on how to avoid yourself some of these pitfalls.

Good luck in your learning process and with finding what you want.

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RE: Truefullness in the lifestyle. - 7/17/2006 9:00:25 AM

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Thank all of you who took the time and energy to give me an honest heatfelt responce. I learn something from everyone whether I like there responces or not from them knowing more then I do about the lifestyle and the behaviors within the lifestyle. Thank you all.

Now how do your turn this darn thing off and make it go away? Or does it have to die a ugly painful death all on its own?

Barbara

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RE: Truefullness in the lifestyle. - 7/17/2006 9:02:07 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: gardenia100

. Something in the vanilla world I would have had no problems jumping right in and shooting off my opinion ....

snip...

What a liar and a cheat. Do I say something to her? Being new, I do not know what to do? Do I walk away and let her find out on her own? From you experienced and more knowledgeable then me, HELP.

Barbara

Who appointed you Chief Bylaw Enforcement Officer Relationships & Bondage?

Are you sure the "crime" you are investigating
is even on the books in their jurisdiction?

Your set of bylaws isn't universal, you know.

DD

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RE: Truefullness in the lifestyle. - 7/17/2006 9:20:08 AM

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How about as she stated she is new and wants to learn how and what is acceptable in this world. If one never asks they never get an answer. Teaching proper behavior prior to misbehavior is the best way in many things and i think this is one of those times.

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RE: Truefullness in the lifestyle. - 7/17/2006 9:23:02 AM

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Hello gardenia,

This will likely sound terribly harsh and uncaring....but really....who cares?

Neither of them are friends of yours...so why assume any degree of responsibility toward either of them or what they do?

You'll likely witness an amount of this if you are around *sites* for any length of time.

You'll maybe find a few things.......

1) You'll NOT be thanked for bursting someone's bubble.

2) Better to *let the children play*

3) Often, nothing is as it seems.

4) No matter how many people you *save*,there'll be just one more around the corner.

4) Tending your own garden makes more sense.

Regards, agirl

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RE: Truefullness in the lifestyle. - 7/17/2006 9:25:52 AM

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It sounds like internet games to me and velcro collars. File it under "Stupid Internet Shit"...

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RE: Truefullness in the lifestyle. - 7/17/2006 9:27:56 AM

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quote:

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Now how do your turn this darn thing off and make it go away? Or does it have to die a ugly painful death all on its own?

Barbara

Didnt you hear the ominous, evil laugh sound bite when you initially hit the "OK" button, thus submitting the OP?
"It" has a life of its own now. It may die slowly and painfully or suddenly. The only choice you have now is whether or not you want to watch.

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RE: Truefullness in the lifestyle. - 7/17/2006 9:45:47 AM

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I agree Heather.. it's here to stay...and to haunt you the rest of your life on the boards....

I think I should be an expert on that by now...

~Andrea

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RE: Truefullness in the lifestyle. - 7/17/2006 10:55:57 AM

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quote:

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What a liar and a cheat. Do I say something to her? Being new, I do not know what to do? Do I walk away and let her find out on her own? From you experienced and more knowledgeable then me, HELP.

Barbara, it kinda goes like this... would you have benefitted by receiving a message from sub X prior to your further involvement with Dom Y?

Would it really have helped you at that time to read sub X's form letter which includes Dom Y's form letter and screen names of his recent proud collaree's... ???

If you feel that it would have benefitted you, then you know what to do... if you feel it would not have benefitted you at that time, then you know what not to do.

It appears you have made contact with one or several of those who use CM and other lifestyle sites for their fantasy recreation.

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RE: Truefullness in the lifestyle. - 7/17/2006 11:19:16 AM

gardenia100

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From the quote you quoted

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Do I say something to her? Being new, I do not know what to do? Do I walk away and let her find out on her own? From you experienced and more knowledgeable then me, HELP

Where did I ever once say anything about being

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Chief Bylaw Enforcement Officer Relationships & Bondage

Nothing like taking things out of context and putting any spin you want on them.

I am not offical on anything, nor am I police or judge and jury. Just wanted to know how as a group things like this were handled. Trying to learn, and some of you are just to busy to condem then to help educate which is what I though all this was about.

But I have to comment after reading a number of your posts DoctorDubious you seem to have put yourself into the position of Judge and Jury to condemn even when you take thing out of context and put any twist you wish into them.

As for the rest of you, thank you for your constructive advise.

Barbara

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