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Profile in Question - 9/5/2015 10:10:05 PM   
IcarusBurning


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i hope everybody is having fun over the extended labor day weekend. does not apply to my country though.

I have a query about a profile. this is a profile for a female dominant under the name PLAQWR2020 (Egypt). i do not know if any of you have communicated with her.

why do i ask?

you might remember i had posted about a sub who suddenly disappeared a few months ago. it appears she made this account to be able to talk to me. i found her messages today sitting in my bulk folder. she was last online on 23rd Aug, and she is no longer active on skype. i am seeking help because she might have given up and not coming online any more. so if anyone can help me connect it would be very helpful.

i am supremely mad at her. but she wants to explain herself quite badly, and i think its only fair that i at least hear her out. if nothing, it will allow me to achieve closure.

apologies again for this weird stalker-like request. i hope you understand, and any help will be appreciated.

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RE: Profile in Question - 9/5/2015 10:51:55 PM   
crumpets


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quote:

ORIGINAL: IcarusBurning
i am supremely mad at her. but she wants to explain herself quite badly, and i think its only fair that i at least hear her out. if nothing, it will allow me to achieve closure.

I doubt it's apropos to name profiles in the forums, but the mods will make that determination.
Otherwise, my advice to you is that no reply is a reply (which I just read in another thread and which I agree with).
I also think you're a bit too full of yourself - but - that's just my take on the way you wrote your "question" as I didn't even bother to look at your profile to see if that indeed is the case.

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RE: Profile in Question - 9/5/2015 10:55:35 PM   
IcarusBurning


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Status: offline 		thank you for your help and advice, much appreciated.

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RE: Profile in Question - 9/5/2015 10:59:45 PM   
crumpets


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Status: offline 		OK. I read the profile. What's "Indian" about your profile is my first bit of wonderment.

But, what got me was your journal which lamented that you received two mails from two different profiles using the same picture.

Um. Maybe I shouldn't be the one to break this little secret to you, but, if you reverse search profile photos you'll find out that, in certain demographic areas (e.g., an 18-year-old babe is a common one), they're all easily found with a reverse photo search, and, the same profile photo (since it was taken from the web) is to be found in multiple profiles (usually created by people, I presume mostly men, looking to make money off the fools who respond).

I don't know if collarmefakes is still in service, but, there were many hundreds of pictures associated with profiles that people bothered to list, which indicates that there are thousands (not surprisingly, for a free site).

So, my advice to you is that you're not actually God's gift to women, so, don't get mad if they all ignore you after the guy with the beard behind the sexy profile decides you're not gonna send the tribute he asked for you to send him, um, I mean her.

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RE: Profile in Question - 9/5/2015 11:15:59 PM   
DaddySatyr


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ORIGINAL: crumpets

OK. I read the profile. What's "Indian" about your profile is my first bit of wonderment.



I'm wondering about your use of the word "Indian". I understand that even you put it in quotation marks, but I'd like to understand in what context you're associating that with a "bad" profile?



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RE: Profile in Question - 9/5/2015 11:23:13 PM   
IcarusBurning


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Status: offline 		I respect your opinions but I dont see why you are getting mad or upset over something entirely unrelated. Never have I claimed anywhere close to being special. As far as this particular thread goes, I respect that you dont know the background of this request, and of course that is expected since I have not explained so myself. If you disagree with the question itself, I am open to hearing it upfront. Being who I am, I am used to being judged.

Anyways. This post was not meant to be a battle ground. You are much older than me, and I mean you no disrespect. Thank you again for your time, your advice and opinions. They mean a lot.

< Message edited by IcarusBurning -- 9/5/2015 11:26:08 PM >

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RE: Profile in Question - 9/6/2015 5:30:47 PM   
crumpets


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ORIGINAL: DaddySatyr
I'm wondering about your use of the word "Indian".


Um,mm... nothing fancy. The guy's profile said he's from India. Nothing in the profile or photos indicated the slightest nuance of India. Nothing more than that.

Realize there are plenty of fake profiles.
There are plenty of fake profile pics.
There are plenty of scams.
The people writing those profiles are trying to indicate that they are X, and, well, they might be X or they might be Y or Z.
I don't know.

All I know is what I see in the profile.
So, it looked suspiciously NOT Indian to me.

Liken it to a woman looking for an unmarried guy.
She looks at his profile, and it clearly says he's single.
But, it also says all over it that he can't host, or that he can only "play" from 9 to 5 weekdays only.
It might even say that he can only visit when he's on business (or whatever ... you should be getting the point by now).

So, she takes in these little hints and can start to assume that the guy may very well not be single because, maybe, just maybe, he's not what he portrays himself to be.

Does she know for sure?
Nope.
But, does she click the skip button and move on to the next profile?
Probably.

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RE: Profile in Question - 9/6/2015 5:32:18 PM   
crumpets


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ORIGINAL: IcarusBurning
Anyways.


Anyways is not a word. At least it's not a word an educated person would use in the (Am) English language (unless they were speaking in urban vernacular, or, if they wanted to sound illiterate for some reason).

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RE: Profile in Question - 9/6/2015 5:49:37 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Anyways is common vernacular. Many people post in a style more similar to how they speak than in formal language.

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RE: Profile in Question - 9/6/2015 5:55:21 PM   
dcnovice


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Anyways is not a word.

Fwiw, it dates back to the 13th century.

http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/anyways


quote:

At least it's not a word an educated person would use in the (Am) English language (unless they were speaking in urban vernacular, or, if they wanted to sound illiterate for some reason).

Your credibility as a language cop might rise if your pronouns agreed in number with their antecedent.


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RE: Profile in Question - 9/6/2015 5:58:11 PM   
smartsub10


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quote:

ORIGINAL: crumpets


quote:

ORIGINAL: IcarusBurning
i am supremely mad at her. but she wants to explain herself quite badly, and i think its only fair that i at least hear her out. if nothing, it will allow me to achieve closure.

I doubt it's apropos to name profiles in the forums, but the mods will make that determination.
Otherwise, my advice to you is that no reply is a reply (which I just read in another thread and which I agree with).
I also think you're a bit too full of yourself - but - that's just my take on the way you wrote your "question" as I didn't even bother to look at your profile to see if that indeed is the case.


Haven't seen too much mod action recently so naming names in the forum probably isn't an issue at this point.


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RE: Profile in Question - 9/6/2015 6:11:12 PM   
Kirata


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quote:

ORIGINAL: dcnovice

quote:

At least it's not a word an educated person would use in the (Am) English language (unless they were speaking in urban vernacular, or, if they wanted to sound illiterate for some reason).

Your credibility as a language cop might rise if your pronouns agreed in number with their antecedent.

Also, the comma after "or" is superfluous.

K.


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RE: Profile in Question - 9/7/2015 11:49:15 AM   
crumpets


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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Anyways is common vernacular. Many people post in a style more similar to how they speak than in formal language.


Have you ever read, say, Mark Twain's (Clemens') work about the deep south?
He uses common vernacular.
Do you know why?

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RE: Profile in Question - 9/7/2015 11:51:03 AM   
crumpets


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ORIGINAL: dcnovice
Your credibility as a language cop might rise if your pronouns agreed in number with their antecedent.

Good point.
I acknowledge your criticism..
And, I agree with your observation.

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RE: Profile in Question - 9/7/2015 11:54:50 AM   
crumpets


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ORIGINAL: dcnovice
Fwiw, it dates back to the 13th century.
http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/anyways


Did you even read the reference you provided?
If you had read it, you might have noticed the very first word, indicating it's considered an "archaic" form of "anywise".
Worse yet, the second definition starts with "chiefly dialect", which should give you a hint about the use of the word.

Since you apparently missed both hints, I'll explain the situation to you:
It means only illiterate people use the word, unless they're actually smart but want to appear ignorant.
Either way, we are what we write.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Kirata
the comma after "or" is superfluous.


I understand what you are pointing out.
This falls not under "right" or "wrong", but, it falls under Strunk & White's elements of style.

For example, had I wanted to sound really stupid, as Mark Twain (Sammy C.) clearly had intended many of the adults to appear in his book about the Adventures of Huckleberry Finn, then I might choose to use the uneducated archaic vernacular of "anyways".

However, comma placement, when both positions are correct, is merely an element of style.

Two different things.

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RE: Profile in Question - 9/7/2015 9:44:52 PM   
Kirata


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quote:

ORIGINAL: crumpets
quote:

ORIGINAL: Kirata

the comma after "or" is superfluous.

I understand what you are pointing out.
This falls not under "right" or "wrong", but, it falls under Strunk & White's elements of style.

Ahhh... well then I think we've found the problem.

Again and again, Strunk and White recommend the stuffy and unidiomatic, and warn against what sounds effective and natural. Even their beliefs about English as it used to be are wrong ~Geoffrey K. Pullum, University of Edinburgh, Professor of General Linguistics and head of Linguistics and English Language

The first 14 pages are still the gospel truth... but much of the grammar and usage advice in the rest of the book is baloney. ~Patricia T. O’Conner, author and co-admin of grammarphobia.com

I have been attacking Strunk and White for many years... I have called it "that mangiest of stuffed owls," "the bible of those who want to sneer at other people’s use of language without bothering to actually learn something about it themselves" and a "malign little compendium of bad advice." ~Stephen Dodson, freelance editor and admin of languagehat.com

Source

K.


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RE: Profile in Question - 9/8/2015 8:43:14 AM   
crumpets


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ORIGINAL: Kirata
Ahhh... well then I think we've found the problem.
... Strunk and White recommend the stuffy and unidiomatic


The good thing about you is that it's easy to understand your point of view, simply because you're intelligent enough to explain it.

I understand what you're clarifying for me, which is my (rather profuse) use of the comma, which I use to indicate a pause in the sentence, is, to you, a bit "stuffy", and, in fact ... to you, it's a non idiomatic use of the (Am) English language.

What you mean, I infer, is that the comma is used not in a form that feels correct and natural to native speakers, but in a stuffy, aristocratic way.

Bear in mind that most native speakers who write here, write puerile trash, and that's the best part of their writing; their spelling, punctuation, and, may I say, um, grammar (if you can refer to it as that), is horrendous.

Add the fact that the vast majority of the unwashed rabble who collect here likely don't even know the difference of styles such as the vagaries of using who and whom, lay and lie, anyway and anyways, further and farther, lend and loan, it and it's, fewer and less, etc., I consider your explanation a compliment.

Fact is, if my writing stands out, even for something as base as its use of a comma, then, well ... I'll consider that a small victory for the (Am) English language.


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RE: Profile in Question - 9/8/2015 12:36:50 PM   
Kirata


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Firstly, thank you very much for your kind words....

quote:

ORIGINAL: crumpets

What you mean, I infer, is that the comma is used not in a form that feels correct and natural to native speakers, but in a stuffy, aristocratic way.

Autocratic, not aristocratic.

quote:

ORIGINAL: crumpets

Fact is, if my writing stands out, even for something as base as its use of a comma, then, well ... I'll consider that a small victory for the (Am) English language.

Well then, I guess congratulations are in order. Because if your purpose in adopting that comma-infested style was to make yourself stand out, it's definitely working.

K.

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RE: Profile in Question - 9/8/2015 3:24:02 PM   
Spiritedsub2


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RE: Profile in Question - 9/8/2015 11:59:02 PM   
Kirata


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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2

He doesn't care what you say about him as long as you're talking about him

Well that's okay, and if you want to adopt some affectation of speech or dress to distinguish yourself, putting things where they don't belong is your perfect right. You can wear your shoes on your hands if you like. I just think it's pushing your luck to claim sartorial guides deem that an acceptable application of footwear for the well-dressed boulevardier.

K.

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