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There was one girl who was very new in a relationship who said that she just didn't realize how "hard" this was going to be. I was kind of surprised because I have seen her around the lifestyle circles for a couple of years now...so I made the incorrect assumption that she had a pretty good understanding of it all. She explained that her "view" of the lifestyle up until recently was getting dressed up in fetish wear on a Friday or Saturday night and heading for the nearest kinky gathering where she became the perfect little submissive, adhered to all of the protocol, spoke the "speak" and tested the play waters. She is now having a hard time making the transition from the "glamour" of the Dog and Pony shows to the reality of having to be submissive in a real life, sometimes trying or mundane relationship. She said the experience was kind of like "culture shock" and was asking advice on how to get through it....and she also wanted to know "is this what it is really like?". She said "I really thought this was going to be lots more fun".

So my question is...have any of you had this same sort of "let down" when you became involved on a live in 24/7 basis....and if so, how did you cope or get through it? Were you surprised when you realized that the "glamour" of the events is not necessarily an accurate portrayal of the inner workings of 24/7 D/s or M/s and is usually not carried over into everyday existence?

I don't know if I'm saying this right but the feeling that I got is that many, even those who have been around for a good amount of time, can still have a "fantasy" vision that far exceeds the reality.

Erin,

This is precisely why I do not attend the pageantry of so-called munches and fetish clubs; it draws the wrong type of attention, in my experience. Of late my only social involvement with the BDSM world was to attend the Fetish Flea Fair when it arrived in Boston, and that was only to examine the wares being sold. I personally could care less about the pretty warm bodies in latex and thigh highs.