Kana
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I suppose I could also ask this of a master or mistress, but you subs know you best. I'm pretty young, 20, but have been playing with bondage in relationships since I was 16. I'm looking to get more involved, but 99% of subs are looking for either something ultra hardcore and are looking for super experienced people, or something related to experience that is a bit hard to ask people about.
So, my question is, where would a newish dom start, gaining experience in the field etc. etc.
Local groups have The Next Generation groups.
In my area, they are packed. Often more TNG people than oldtimers at play clubs.
Otherwise, fuck. How many profiles out there where hot young things seek someone near the same age, have disclaimers like, "No one 10 years older than me. Eeeeeewwwwwww."
But really, the best advise I would give you is to:
A-Get involved locally
B-Be a worthwhile person. Look around your local groups. The good guys, the doms who have a clue, they ain't single unless they choose to be. They have sluts queued up hoping for a crack at them.
C-Get a local mentor, maybe someone to teach you, ahem, pardon the pun, the ropes.
Cripes. I'd have loved to be twenty and kinky in the internet era.
In my day peeps had to depend on kinky classified and that shit was stupid slow
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...who has now taken to more aggressive stuff.. I will say the thing that usually turns me away from newbies is two things... 1). There is a risk factor for the bottom. I learned early on that the stuff I like to do (which is mild by most standards) is dangerous enough and if the person in control is inexperienced...there is not much even a good bottom could do to save themselves. A lot of stuff sounds fun but, like an inexperienced driver, an inexperienced top can panic and over correct making a minor oops into a major OMG! 2) when you are talking strictly "top & bottom" the bottom is looking to get a certain gratification from the play and, generally, you are going to have a more thrilling ride with someone who has mastered their craft. 
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