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DemonPriscilla -> RE: FinDom and Bed Rep. (9/14/2015 10:16:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GoddessSinn But, keep in mind: I am educated, in college, have a job, and am mentally, physically and financially stable. quote: juvinile Juvenile quote: bed reputation Bad reputation I just found that a bit ironic. I personally don't care if some dommes here drain people, the people are obviously getting what they want or they'd not keep coming back. On the flip side, the guys seeking domination can be irritating since they mainly are obsessive role players and no interest in real life.

TNDommeK -> RE: FinDom and Bed Rep. (9/14/2015 11:30:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: crumpets quote: ORIGINAL: TNDommeK But his control was handed over the moment we are on the same page. I have to wrap my head around this concept since it is foreign to me. Do I have this right yet? The guy pays, roughly around $400/hour, to a female Domme, who then tells HIM what she will do with him? If this is correct, what say does HE have in the matter? (EDIT: Other than in the two of you agreeing, beforehand, on LIMITS & SAFEWORDS and other necessary minutia, such as nudity, touching, length of time, etc.). In my case, the things done in my sessions are discussed prior to any bookings or exchanges. I have a wide variety of things I enjoy, I do however allow suggestions. I am more of a pain Domme, and a humiliation Domme, so they kinda know what to expect. Now, if there is something that would be a hard limit for them, thats something I respect and stay away from. As far as what he has in the matter, I would say a great session; a cut and dry exchange, no headaches and bullshit. Someone who is professinal and know about aftercare, safety, etc. He has a great time and re-books. I get to enjoy my session, I get paid, I meet someone knew and learn about them, possibly have a deeper relationship. There are a lot of things that could possibly blossom from that.

crumpets -> RE: FinDom and Bed Rep. (9/15/2015 5:58:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TNDommeK I do however allow suggestions. I am more of a pain Domme, and a humiliation Domme, so they kinda know what to expect. Now, if there is something that would be a hard limit for them, thats something I respect and stay away from. Thanks for the explanation. I'll drop the query at this point, because, well, truth be told, I think we're both saying the same thing, only in far different, seemingly contradictory ways.

TNDommeK -> RE: FinDom and Bed Rep. (9/15/2015 9:56:41 AM)
I hope I didn't come off as pissy or anything. I was just trying to explain how I do things so that there's a better understanding. :)

Greta75 -> RE: FinDom and Bed Rep. (9/15/2015 10:04:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: crumpets The guy pays, roughly around $400/hour, to a female Domme, who then tells HIM what she will do with him? If this is correct, what say does HE have in the matter? I don't understand this question. If being a sub is about giving up control, why does he want control? Giving up his money and not having things his way IS giving up control. That's what he have. Submission. It's also strange to hear you call submissive males who pay their domme, "sheeps". Because, in a giving up control situation, I don't think it's about you anymore. Technically, unless you are the bratty sort of sub that likes to rebel at every turn, which is kinda like what I enjoy being, being difficult, you are suppose to be a sheep and just follow.

thompsonx -> RE: FinDom and Bed Rep. (9/15/2015 1:28:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: crumpets If I understand you, the poor sap hands over both his hard-earned money and all control at the same time. Yikes! You sound like the GOVERNMENT. When one engages professional services one typically has choices among providers. Not so much with the government.

thompsonx -> RE: FinDom and Bed Rep. (9/15/2015 1:33:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TNDommeK Well he isn't poor, as I've stated in previous threads, I prefer to conquer champions. ;) But his control was handed over the moment we are on the same page. I think I'll add that to my sig line: the Government lol "Conqueror in search of a champion"...doesn't seem to capture the image??? "champion in need of a conqueror apply within"???

thompsonx -> RE: FinDom and Bed Rep. (9/15/2015 2:22:02 PM)
quote: I sound incredibly jaded but, I know there are some gentlemen who engage in findom. These men want to be afforded the opportunity to connect. That's why they pay first. Anything worth doing is worth doing for money.

Spiritedsub2 -> RE: FinDom and Bed Rep. (9/15/2015 2:31:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: thompsonx quote: ORIGINAL: crumpets If I understand you, the poor sap hands over both his hard-earned money and all control at the same time. Yikes! You sound like the GOVERNMENT. When one engages professional services one typically has choices among providers. Not so much with the government. And typically one doesn't regard any of these remunerative connections as "relationships".

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