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TigerBDSM -> When did rude become acceptable? (9/18/2015 8:00:33 PM)

Been on CS/CM almost from the beginning. For those who have been on for awhile, when did rude replies become acceptable? !
I view myself as very cordial, yes a dominant man with decades of experience, but never rude. I see, read and hear very rude remarks from newbies. Is this their BDSM?



seekingOwnertoo -> RE: When did rude become acceptable? (9/18/2015 8:27:46 PM)

Thanks for your post.

My own viewpoint is that the Message Boards on this site became rude right about 2011. Perhaps i should say 2010, because a lot of great Dommes disappeared than. But i think the rest left with the CM/CS change over.

If you use Yahoo search ...you will know what I mean.



TigerBDSM -> RE: When did rude become acceptable? (9/18/2015 8:31:58 PM)

Thanks. My orginal point of view is people in general. Either face to face at gatherings, or in reply to an email.



seekingOwnertoo -> RE: When did rude become acceptable? (9/18/2015 8:38:05 PM)

Same time frame ... check it yourself.



TigerBDSM -> RE: When did rude become acceptable? (9/18/2015 8:39:30 PM)

Again thanks



seekingOwnertoo -> RE: When did rude become acceptable? (9/18/2015 8:40:23 PM)

And right about when FOX News became popular ... if you follow stocks, you know rude and lies are part of the marketing strategy.



TigerBDSM -> RE: When did rude become acceptable? (9/18/2015 8:43:07 PM)

Made my living for over 3 years on the market.



seekingreality -> RE: When did rude become acceptable? (9/18/2015 10:08:10 PM)


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ORIGINAL: TigerBDSM

Been on CS/CM almost from the beginning. For those who have been on for awhile, when did rude replies become acceptable? !
I view myself as very cordial, yes a dominant man with decades of experience, but never rude. I see, read and hear very rude remarks from newbies. Is this their BDSM?


You're talking in vague, sweeping generalizations but ... In terms of personal emails, I find very few people rude ... If you mean in public forums like this, sure, there are lots of rude people ... but there are lots of people who come to the Internet to vent ... I don't think that has anything to do with BDSM... If I am misinterpreting what you mean, feel free to reload, be more specific and try again....



HoneyBears -> RE: When did rude become acceptable? (9/18/2015 10:46:49 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: seekingreality
quote:

ORIGINAL: TigerBDSM

Been on CS/CM almost from the beginning. For those who have been on for awhile, when did rude replies become acceptable? !
I view myself as very cordial, yes a dominant man with decades of experience, but never rude. I see, read and hear very rude remarks from newbies. Is this their BDSM?

You're talking in vague, sweeping generalizations but ... In terms of personal emails, I find very few people rude ... If you mean in public forums like this, sure, there are lots of rude people ... but there are lots of people who come to the Internet to vent ... I don't think that has anything to do with BDSM... If I am misinterpreting what you mean, feel free to reload, be more specific and try again....

We were also wondering the same thing and assumed you meant replies to messages on the profile side. You would have to be more specific about that, too, because we have no idea what's in your contact messages and what you consider to be a rude response.

Many men on this site find no response to be rude, forgetting that their messages are unsolicited and often target women who have made it clear in their profiles that you (generally speaking) don't meet their specs.

On sites where females are outnumbered and frequently receive inappropriate, off-the-wall messages - many of which are mass-mailed to them without any degree of personalization - one can hardly expect to receive individual responses in return.



angelikaJ -> RE: When did rude become acceptable? (9/19/2015 6:48:22 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: TigerBDSM

Been on CS/CM almost from the beginning. For those who have been on for awhile, when did rude replies become acceptable? !
I view myself as very cordial, yes a dominant man with decades of experience, but never rude. I see, read and hear very rude remarks from newbies. Is this their BDSM?


Presuming that they are new, they may not know better.
Or they may know, given your detailed profile, that they have nothing to offer you and are just very efficient in conveying that.



Spiritedsub2 -> RE: When did rude become acceptable? (9/19/2015 6:59:57 AM)

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I have frequently found that being uninterested in a man who messages me is interpreted as rudeness by the man. There is a weird "dynamic" on this site whereby male strangers who label themselves "dominant" then assume they are entitled to a degree of responsiveness from the submissive women they randomly message and call a woman rude when she doesn't provide them that. Very common behavioral pattern here.

I don't know if that is the situation with this OP.



Musicmystery -> RE: When did rude become acceptable? (9/19/2015 7:13:33 AM)

It's a wider trend -- disagreeing with someone generally in our culture has become labelled "rude."

That's self-serving bullshit, of course, but increasingly common.



sexyred1 -> RE: When did rude become acceptable? (9/19/2015 7:22:29 AM)

Being rude online is commonplace.

Why you think this is relegated to BDSM or newbies is puzzling.



ilovestarbucks -> RE: When did rude become acceptable? (9/19/2015 10:48:35 AM)

My grandmother used to be a cashier at Stater Bros. She said that in the 80's & 90's there were plenty of rude people with short fuses. However, after they were rude they often would come back in and apologize. "Hey, I'm sorry I was rude but I've had such a rough day. Sorry." However, around year 2000 it all changed. So many rude people and no one comes in to apologize anymore.



LadyBerry -> RE: When did rude become acceptable? (9/19/2015 11:29:50 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2

Fr

I have frequently found that being uninterested in a man who messages me is interpreted as rudeness by the man. There is a weird "dynamic" on this site whereby male strangers who label themselves "dominant" then assume they are entitled to a degree of responsiveness from the submissive women they randomly message and call a woman rude when she doesn't provide them that. Very common behavioral pattern here.

I don't know if that is the situation with this OP.


I can tell you that the same dynamic is present in a not-insignificant portion of the "submissive" men who message me.



OSGRedux -> RE: When did rude become acceptable? (9/19/2015 12:11:17 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2

Fr

I have frequently found that being uninterested in a man who messages me is interpreted as rudeness by the man. There is a weird "dynamic" on this site whereby male strangers who label themselves "dominant" then assume they are entitled to a degree of responsiveness from the submissive women they randomly message and call a woman rude when she doesn't provide them that. Very common behavioral pattern here.


Very much this.

My profile says "Just here for the forums"

I get an email "Not looking for play? I live in <town next to me>"

I respond, "Just here for the forums" seems pretty self explanatory"

I get called a rude bitch.



DesFIP -> RE: When did rude become acceptable? (9/19/2015 12:46:19 PM)

The fact that your expectation is that every sub will kowtow to you because you chose dominant from a drop down memo is your fault. It doesn't obligate any of us to do so.

If you don't read a profile and listen when it says no one over 30, and you assume that because you're so special, it shouldn't apply to you, again that's your fault.

If you ask for advice here, expect to get that, not hand holding. Mollycoddling people doesn't teach them anything. Blunt cold truths may.

However, feel free to label me rude because you didn't get the answer you were looking for.



TigerBDSM -> RE: When did rude become acceptable? (9/19/2015 2:15:32 PM)

Thanks to everyone.



Killerangel -> RE: When did rude become acceptable? (9/20/2015 1:59:49 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2

Fr

I have frequently found that being uninterested in a man who messages me is interpreted as rudeness by the man. There is a weird "dynamic" on this site whereby male strangers who label themselves "dominant" then assume they are entitled to a degree of responsiveness from the submissive women they randomly message and call a woman rude when she doesn't provide them that. Very common behavioral pattern here.

I don't know if that is the situation with this OP.


This x 1,000.



crumpets -> RE: When did rude become acceptable? (9/21/2015 6:28:53 PM)

I realize the OP is trying extremely hard to be super polite, but, I find the profile picture to be rude, in effect (and probably even against the TOS).



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