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Dominant Submission or Post Traumatic - 9/24/2015 12:11:55 PM

MS4S

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You are a Dom a self professed Dom you talk the talk and would like to walk the walk
You let friends family know about this and embark on your journey
You make friends in the lifestyle and play partners and such... You are straight or bisexual either or You even go to munches parties c;ubs

A POST Traumatic Ordeal or one which involves pain has you changing your toot

Now you wish to become a bisexual doormat slave

How do you convince others that your not doing this just for kicks or because you gave up or succumb to liking pan

Now if you wear a casual play partner of His or were a relative or friend what is your opinion

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RE: Dominant Submission or Post Traumatic - 9/24/2015 12:45:43 PM

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I don't think you need to try and convince your family or your friends about anything. If they think you're doing this because of PTSD they are probably going to worry a lot more about you and will probably try telling you, you're just not ready for this.

You have to ask yourself, "am I ready for this?" and it may be that you can't yet answer that question.

The dominant/s you choose to invest your time with need to know and understand what brought you to submission because any dominant worth their salt will want/need to know and tread cautiously and carefully around any possible triggers. Taking someone on with PTSD can be a big responsibility. Taking someone on with PTSD without knowing they have it (I've been there) is traumatic and confusing for both the dominant and the submissive.

I think a lot of people in this lifestyle will strongly suggest you seek help. You may already of found that help which is great or you may be in free fall which isn't great.

Like I said in my first sentence, the rest of the crowd can think what they want. Its none of their business and you should stop worrying about what they think.

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RE: Dominant Submission or Post Traumatic - 9/24/2015 2:50:35 PM

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The topic could have been about Me but I'm a Dom who is and will always be a Dom

PTSD withstanding I handled it gracefully and well Thank God which is why I decided to write this thread

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RE: Dominant Submission or Post Traumatic - 9/24/2015 2:56:59 PM

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So If its not what they think then why did I end up in therapy sessions at first with religious Right psychastrits then with nirmail ones in 1997-forth.....

Why should I care because the older folk in My neighborhood WWII to Vietnam, war and the young ones under legal age are comig out in droves during the night hours and evening time to end up peeping what who I am doing lets say and religious right nuts were all atround Me breathing down My neck

Can the religious right....

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RE: Dominant Submission or Post Traumatic - 9/24/2015 3:33:52 PM

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Sorry, but you're not being very coherent. What is your question?

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RE: Dominant Submission or Post Traumatic - 9/24/2015 4:09:26 PM

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I endured an EXORCISM for starters..... How I ended up having to go through this God only knows If I tell you more youd wish Me dead or saying Vaya Con Dios

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RE: Dominant Submission or Post Traumatic - 9/24/2015 4:11:57 PM

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IF SUICIDE IS AN OPTION.... and NO I would NEVER attempt it..... Should PTSD BE related to if someone say hey Commit suicide I know what you been through or Here let Me Help

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RE: Dominant Submission or Post Traumatic - 9/25/2015 6:11:19 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MS4S

You are a Dom a self professed Dom you talk the talk and would like to walk the walk
You let friends family know about this and embark on your journey
You make friends in the lifestyle and play partners and such... You are straight or bisexual either or You even go to munches parties c;ubs

A POST Traumatic Ordeal or one which involves pain has you changing your toot

Now you wish to become a bisexual doormat slave

How do you convince others that your not doing this just for kicks or because you gave up or succumb to liking pan

Now if you wear a casual play partner of His or were a relative or friend what is your opinion

I'm gone for less than 2 days and have to use Rosetta Stone to decipher these posts of yours.
Not only do you sound as if you are suffering a great deal of angst, but that you're having some sort of meltdown, as in nervous breakdown.

Just take a deep breath. Inhale. Exhale.
Get off the computer.
Go take a walk. (Keep to yourself and don't accost strangers.)
Enjoy nature. Be grateful for being alive. Be thankful you are a sentient being who can enjoy Nature.
Listen to some soothing or uplifting music. (Play it to yourself.)
~If you go for a walk with earplugs, watch out for traffic.~

Now, these are my opinions on your OP.

Operate on a NEED TO KNOW BASIS.
Wtf are you doing blabbing to your family and friends about your personal business? None of your family members wants to know about your sex life.
Friends, maybe. I'm sure you've driven them off by now, or why else would you be turning to strangers on the Internet for advice on a score of different subjects?

You considered yourself a (male) Dominant at one time.
You are struggling with your bisexuality, in that you don't want to be labeled or categorized as such.
Regarding your PTSD, I don't need to hear the details.
You say you "wish to become a bisexual doormat slave."
Then go be one.
Who cares whether you're just doing this for kicks? You don't need to justify yourself to anybody else.
First of all, they don't pay your bills. And even if they do, you don't owe them anything other than what you agreed upon on a transactional basis.
You didn't sell your soul, did you? Stop acting like you have become a slave to others who have no vested interest in your (plural) mutual happiness.

You want to be a slave? There's nothing to be ashamed of in wanting to get your needs met.
Discern the difference between your innermost needs and your fantasy imaginings so that you can realistically find a Master or Mistress who is on the same page with you.
What is shameful is to live a life of hypocrisy and to be dishonest with yourself and with those who DO NEED TO KNOW what it is you have to offer.
Figure out the quid pro quo involved in getting these needs met. Stop playing silly-ass games and refuse to play the silly-ass games of others.
Ultimately and eventually, the law of reciprocity will prevail.

No need to keep conducting yourself like a drama queen on these forums.

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