|
dreamlady -> RE: Bondage (9/26/2015 9:02:43 AM)
|
quote:
ORIGINAL: BitaTruble
Brain-washing or something more along the lines of conditioning ... that's another animal all together and one with which I am overly familiar.
For clarification purposes, your post reminded me that there are some who get into the brainwashing, erotic hypno, subliminal mental Domination aspect of things.
None of that has ever appealed to me. I believe in having a full conscious awareness of one's actions and to venture forward willingly into whatever landscape one chooses of one's own volition.
Otherwise, you can end up with an ethical crisis along the lines of the oft-heard "Mistress Made Me Do It" syndrome.
This isn't to say that there aren't Dominants who prey upon the gullibility of submissives, particularly newbies, or who don't take unfair advantage of them because we hear about far too many of these unfortunate situations.
On the other hand, having the *perfect* excuse to backpedal and to not take personal responsibility for oneself by blaming the Dominant party, is anathema (to my way of thinking).
Besides, I don't have any need to brainwash or hypnotize, to resort to manipulation tactics or to induce a sub by applying pressure or by making unreasonable demands, to get him to do what I want or to behave in the manner I wish for him to behave towards me. [;)] He either goes into our D/s dynamic full force with eyes wide open - based upon our matching priorities, interests and desires - or he isn't welcome to becoming a (significant) part of my life.
DreamLady
|
|
|
|
