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Genuine Domestic Service/Timewasters - 10/4/2015 11:15:29 AM

genuinedomestic

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Dear all, good evening to you, hope you are enjoying your weekend.

I'm what I would like to think of myself as a genuine domestic submissive, someone who cooks, cleans, serves without supervision and comes without a long list of wants, demands and needs.

I see it all the time where dominants (quite rightly in some cases) complain about time wasters, and there are always more than their fair share on websites of this nature, but I often have the same in reverse, as well as some where the conversation starts out well and then sadly drifts onto something more sexual.

In some ways, I understand; I was extremely nervous and apprehensive when I first dipped my toes in these on-line waters, sharing things with people that I couldn't tell my closest family, but it is such a shame at times that people can't make that "Matrix-esque" transition from the world of fantasy into reality.

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RE: Genuine Domestic Service/Timewasters - 10/4/2015 12:07:40 PM

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They can't make the transition from fantasy to real life, most of them haven't had any experience in real life. They come here for what they think is a place to get free sex and then complain of time wasters when they don't get it, because, ya know, real life isn't like that. That's the men anyway, when women complain of time wasters they're generally complaining about not getting free money.

To make the transition from fantasy to reality, you have to be willing to give up the fantasy, they'd rather hold on for dear life and hope that someday, when pigs fly, it'll come true. There's a lot invested in those fantasies, they'd rather hold onto them and hope pussy/money falls into their laps, than figure out how to function in the real world. It's easier to whine and throw tantrums than to work at finding what you want through the traditional channels of hard work and social responsibility.

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RE: Genuine Domestic Service/Timewasters - 10/4/2015 2:17:37 PM

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There's nothing fake about wanting sexual service. It just means you're not compatible.

However, if no one is overseeing you, if you aren't getting paid for this in play of some kind, then what do you get out of this? Couldn't you get the same satisfaction for doing these services for the elderly?

If not, why not? I think it would be helpful if you added that explanation to your profile.

With that said, you're in an area with a lot of munches. You would do better not looking online, but going to these meets and making friends. Allow dominants to meet you and like you. Because nobody smart wants a total stranger to come into their home. How do they know you aren't a thief or rapist, using the other side to troll for victims who probably wouldn't call the cops?

You eliminate that when you make friends with them first.

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RE: Genuine Domestic Service/Timewasters - 10/4/2015 4:35:53 PM

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Personally speaking, I find it fairly rude if someone just jumps into sexual conversation without having the manners or the temerity to brooch the subject first.

It's a fair point about doing services for the elderly etc; in fact, I have registered/volunteered previously but they never take your application seriously from a male; I had a short stint of around two days and then I was asked to walk the streets with a collection can as it would be more "male-orientated" - I actually stayed and did exactly that for a fortnight.

It is also very difficult to try and find a traditional service-based role in real-life; I like serving as a servant - I generally wear what would be perceived to be female-orientated workwear (tabards/overalls and the like) but I have worn jeans and a T shirt before. I do enjoy serving women, and I also like doing ladies maid duties such as setting hair in rollers and giving facials - I like the Servant/Mistress dynamic, and volunteering (although I genuinely like cleaning and housekeeping) can only fulfill part of that.

Thank you for the advice, sincerely appreciated - I will take it on board.

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RE: Genuine Domestic Service/Timewasters - 10/5/2015 11:00:11 AM

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What's the question?

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