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Are Doms Similar to Domme? - 10/7/2015 8:38:26 AM

ilovestarbucks

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It seems like every Domme I meet is a real bitch. They are rude, demanding and it's all "give me, give me, give me." A lot seem to have difficult personalities. They should take a lesson on, "How to be a decent human being." I then met a Domme at a group setting and she was the nicest person I've met. She doesn't require a title and is every easy to talk to. I blinked in disbelief.

I was wondering if female submissives find this to be the same for male Doms?

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RE: Are Doms Similar to Domme? - 10/7/2015 8:50:55 AM

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ORIGINAL: ilovestarbucks

It seems like every Domme I meet is a real bitch. They are rude, demanding and it's all "give me, give me, give me." A lot seem to have difficult personalities. They should take a lesson on, "How to be a decent human being." I then met a Domme at a group setting and she was the nicest person I've met. She doesn't require a title and is every easy to talk to. I blinked in disbelief.

I was wondering if female submissives find this to be the same for male Doms?

There men that think labeling themselves as Dominant entitles them to be assholes. There are some that think by labeling themselves Dominant that it's an easy way to get sex. There are some wonderful amazing men out there.

There are also a bunch of "Do Kinky things to me" submissives, pillow princesses and Cinderella Submissives.

Here's the reality: It's not relegated to one orientation, nor is it relegated to one sex. If you're an asshole outside of D/s BDSM, then you're an asshole when you're in D/s BDSM.

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RE: Are Doms Similar to Domme? - 10/7/2015 9:18:40 AM

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Not quite as bad but yeah. Mostly the ones who write you cold don't view you as a human being. Just an object for them to enact their fantasies on.

However you already know the solution: go to munches and workshops and meet real people.

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RE: Are Doms Similar to Domme? - 10/7/2015 9:21:14 AM

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ORIGINAL: ilovestarbucks

It seems like every Domme I meet is a real bitch. They are rude, demanding and it's all "give me, give me, give me." A lot seem to have difficult personalities. They should take a lesson on, "How to be a decent human being." I then met a Domme at a group setting and she was the nicest person I've met. She doesn't require a title and is every easy to talk to. I blinked in disbelief.

I was wondering if female submissives find this to be the same for male Doms?

There men that think labeling themselves as Dominant entitles them to be assholes. There are some that think by labeling themselves Dominant that it's an easy way to get sex. There are some wonderful amazing men out there.

There are also a bunch of "Do Kinky things to me" submissives, pillow princesses and Cinderella Submissives.

Here's the reality: It's not relegated to one orientation, nor is it relegated to one sex. If you're an asshole outside of D/s BDSM, then you're an asshole when you're in D/s BDSM.

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RE: Are Doms Similar to Domme? - 10/9/2015 6:09:20 PM

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ORIGINAL: ilovestarbucks

It seems like every Domme I meet is a real bitch. They are rude, demanding and it's all "give me, give me, give me." A lot seem to have difficult personalities. They should take a lesson on, "How to be a decent human being." I then met a Domme at a group setting and she was the nicest person I've met. She doesn't require a title and is every easy to talk to. I blinked in disbelief.

I was wondering if female submissives find this to be the same for male Doms?

Definitely different I find my blood flows when Mistress's blood is flowing.... were as a male Dom is less likely to wreck you for the week. I have found some of the so called Dommes here to be rather petulant and nasty when you have a differing opinion from them as well...lol

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RE: Are Doms Similar to Domme? - 10/12/2015 4:35:33 PM

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Ther is good md bad in all. I meanmy Master is amazing. I stiil sometimes get mail you are my bitch , kneel before me or some such nonsensce. You just have to steer cler of them. I am sure ther are many nice Dommes and well as Doms out there. Just steer clear of the bad ones and wannabes and look for the good ones.

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RE: Are Doms Similar to Domme? - 10/27/2015 2:11:01 PM

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ORIGINAL: ilovestarbucks

It seems like every Domme I meet is a real bitch. They are rude, demanding and it's all "give me, give me, give me." A lot seem to have difficult personalities. They should take a lesson on, "How to be a decent human being." I then met a Domme at a group setting and she was the nicest person I've met. She doesn't require a title and is every easy to talk to. I blinked in disbelief.

I was wondering if female submissives find this to be the same for male Doms?

Can't understand why you think submissive females are never owned by Dommes and
submissive men are not owned by Doms?

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RE: Are Doms Similar to Domme? - 10/28/2015 5:29:09 AM

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Yes. A great many Doms are complete wankers and not worth communicating with in any way. I think it's what they say about power corrupts people.

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RE: Are Doms Similar to Domme? - 10/28/2015 6:16:52 PM

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On Line vs. Real Time

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ORIGINAL: ilovestarbucks
It seems like every Domme I meet is a real bitch. They are rude, demanding and it's all "give me, give me, give me." A lot seem to have difficult personalities. They should take a lesson on, "How to be a decent human being." I then met a Domme at a group setting and she was the nicest person I've met. She doesn't require a title and is every easy to talk to. I blinked in disbelief.

I was wondering if female submissives find this to be the same for male Doms?

A lot of people are not who and what they they are, and on-line interactions amplify this by a hundredfold, a thousandfold.

You don't even know for sure that these were women, much less Dominant women. Anyone can act like a raging banshee.

You finally meet a Domme in person and she turns out to be a nice lady.
In fact, every Domme I have met in real life has made a favorable impression on me, and hopefully I did on them. At the first FemDom event I attended, I was expecting some cattiness and perhaps braggadocio, but there hasn't been any of that witnessed so far.

As for (unattached) maleDoms, I can't really say. Most men I run into are not nearly as verbal as I am or as sociable as I can be when I feel like it.
In general, I'm careful about interacting with men, any man, beyond fleeting pleasantries. Those Doms who do strike up a conversation with me tend to be more of the Dom-leaning switch variety, so I don't know if that counts for the purposes of this discussion.

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ORIGINAL: sweetieDA
Yes. A great many Doms are complete wankers and not worth communicating with in any way. I think it's what they say about power corrupts people.

I do think that a sizeable crew of kinky folk, on whichever side of the kneel, do tend to treat submissives less cordially than they should, or forget that they should mind their manners with everybody regardless of D/s-BDSM/gender orientation, etc.
It costs nothing to be polite to others.

Your statement could apply just as aptly by swapping out the word "Doms" with "bosses," or those who find themselves in any kind of leadership position with decision-making abilities that goes to their heads.

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