How important is spark and chemistry in a Mistress/sub relationship

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freedancer -> How important is spark and chemistry in a Mistress/sub relationship (11/29/2004 3:18:46 PM)
i am new to this lifestyle and am looking for a Domme on a p/t basis ... what importance, if any, should be placed on spark and chemistry ... or should i concentrate more on compatibility of whether or not i could serve Mistress, regardless of chemistry ... any advice is appreciated ...

wyngedbyste -> RE: How important is spark and chemistry in a Mistress/sub relationship (11/30/2004 10:52:47 AM)
I've tried it several ways--accepting service from someone with whom I was compatible but had no chemistry; accepting service from someone with whom I had chemistry and compatibility; and accepting service from someone with whom I had chemistry but no compatibility. The only successful relationships have involved service from someone with both chemistry and compatibility. Going with the other two options have been spectacular failures. But that's me. Byste

MistressFire70 -> RE: How important is spark and chemistry in a Mistress/sub relationship (11/30/2004 12:21:23 PM)
We need both to survive, so you'll have to have a source for both in your life. If you're poly (and so is your Dominant), they you might be able to serve one person and have chemistry with another. It will depend on if your Dominant allows you to find that outside the relationship. However, if you're mono, I'd go for both in the same person. Fire

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: How important is spark and chemistry in a Mistress/sub relationship (12/1/2004 8:53:40 PM)
I agree with Wynged, that both are needed (compatibility, and chemistry), but it really depends on you, your needs, and type of person you are. If you are not very emotionally attuned, and don't care if the other person is, than go for compatibility; but if you care, and want him to, than you need both (just chemistry won't work for long). Ms M

MissP -> RE: How important is spark and chemistry in a Mistress/sub relationship (12/2/2004 1:40:44 AM)
Compatibility and chemistry are equally important. Although "the spark" is the exciting part [:)] It depends on the type of relationship you're actually looking for. If you want to be boyfriend/girlfriend as we as M/s, the requirements are different to a straight M/s pairing.

BeachMystress -> RE: How important is spark and chemistry in a Mistress/sub relationship (12/2/2004 2:30:35 AM)
Chemistry is very important in my eyes. I'll not take on a sub if I don't feel that special spark. I'll do one time play at a dungeon or party without that chemistry but nothing further

MsHoney2you -> RE: How important is spark and chemistry in a Mistress/sub relationship (12/2/2004 9:39:23 PM)
Ever have Pie without the A'lamode? Chocolate without the peanut butter? Same thing applies here. Spark in many cases is same as chemistry... but, I have played with subs that had NO Spark but gave me fabulous power exchange scenes that truly fed My soul! Sometimes you just need to test the 'water/sub' and see what develops if there is any small inkling of possible pleasure on both sides. If there is More than nothing, ie; you really don't like something about that person, then no, do NOT play, thank them, tell them you just don't feel a kindred chemistry and are willing to move forward. No harm, no foul, simple fact. GOOD LUCK! Play nice and the least we can do is to try to be true to ourselves first, Ms Honey

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