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Hi - 10/27/2015 12:31:29 PM   
smallgirl34


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Status: offline 		I have met a wonderful guy online and only known him for 4 days and we click and now I want to know if its to soon to move in or meet him or should I wait a few months and get to know him more there is a guy on here that is just a little worried for me thinking im going to fast
Thank you if you can help me that would be great.
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RE: Hi - 10/27/2015 12:41:47 PM   
peppermint


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Status: offline 		No, it's not too soon to arrange a meeting in a neutral and safe place such as a coffee shop or perhaps at your local munch if you are both local to each other. Yes, it's way too soon to be under consideration unless he is also under consideration.

Over the years I've talked with many people online. Some you click with quickly. That doesn't mean you'll click when you meet. Take your time.

I think you should do a search on the term "sub frenzy." It is usually used when talking about a newbie submissive who is in such a hurry to do everything NOW and be owned and collared NOW that she loses her common sense.

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RE: Hi - 10/27/2015 12:42:34 PM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		yep. You are going too fast.
Why would you even consider moving in with someone after 4 days?


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RE: Hi - 10/27/2015 12:44:49 PM   
stef


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Status: offline 		You've known him for 4 days, haven't even met him in the flesh yet, and want to know if it's too soon to move in with him? Sweet merciful Jeebus, please tell me you're sterile.

< Message edited by stef -- 10/27/2015 12:45:15 PM >

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RE: Hi - 10/27/2015 12:48:46 PM   
smallgirl34


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Status: offline 		Thank you guys I am glad I posted here he is into puppy play a lot and i want to be a little girl more but I'm scared of i tell him that he might freak out or something

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RE: Hi - 10/27/2015 1:00:02 PM   
Lucylastic


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Status: offline 		Honestly if you are scared he will freak out, ...especially after a short time online? omgawd yes run...
If you are this....quick to ask a question after a week(less) you need to look at wether you are really ready for your own self interest.
And this is from a woman(me) who indeed did move in the following day I met my (now)husband. I certainly dont suggest it if you are worried about your needs being met, and scared ....even more so, especially before meeting skin to skin. In fact, it isnt a good idea period.




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RE: Hi - 10/27/2015 1:03:13 PM   
smallgirl34


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Status: offline 		Thank you hun I will talk it with him of he goes wild then he is not for me if he understand then I met a guy who is kind and fun

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RE: Hi - 10/27/2015 1:16:09 PM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: smallgirl34

I have met a wonderful guy online and only known him for 4 days


I've read the posts above me and realize that you've gotten some good advice, but I want to put this in perspective for you.

If you've been talking online....you haven't met him and you don't know if he's wonderful. You have no idea who he is and you have no idea how he behaves. You're essentially strangers until you meet face to face to determine if that person you're meeting is the person that was presented to you online.

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RE: Hi - 10/27/2015 1:32:06 PM   
smallgirl34


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Status: offline 		Does talking to him on the phone do anything

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RE: Hi - 10/27/2015 1:34:31 PM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: smallgirl34

Does talking to him on the phone do anything

If you're talking to him on the phone can you see him? Can you see how he presents himself? Can you see his mannerisms? Can you see how he treats those that he perceives beneath him?




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RE: Hi - 10/27/2015 1:48:02 PM   
smallgirl34


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Status: offline 		Well no I can't but as we talk more he sounds more and more wonderful

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RE: Hi - 10/27/2015 1:56:49 PM   
freedomdwarf1


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ORIGINAL: smallgirl34

Well no I can't but as we talk more he sounds more and more wonderful

You can't really know someone until you can observe them first-hand when you speak.
The eyes and body language can tell you an awful lot that you can't glean from text or a phone call.

Oside gave you some good advice in post#8.

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RE: Hi - 10/27/2015 1:56:59 PM   
UllrsIshtar


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Status: offline 		Meeting somebody after 4 days is fine. Declaring "under consideration" or moving in with him seems a little soon.

I went rather quickly with my current husband, we met after a week, then met 3-4 days a week for 3 months, and then moved in. We were married in under 6 months after we first met, but primarily for immigration reasons.

I wouldn't move in with somebody until I've spent several nights at their place, so that I can have a good sense what it would be like living with them before actually moving in.

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RE: Hi - 10/27/2015 2:22:03 PM   
OsideGirl


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The eyes and body language can tell you an awful lot that you can't glean from text or a phone call.



I have always maintained that you can always tell a lot about a person by how they treat waiters, waitresses and servers.


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RE: Hi - 10/27/2015 3:48:36 PM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		And I maintain that you cannot ever discern true chemistry of any kind until you've spent quality time in person.

Please stop with the sub frenzy.

I just never understood the rush people are in.

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RE: Hi - 10/27/2015 4:15:48 PM   
OsideGirl


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I just never understood the rush people are in.


I believe that Dom/sub frenzy is the primary reason why the vast majority of D/s BDSM relationships rarely make it past the 3 month mark.


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RE: Hi - 10/27/2015 5:45:02 PM   
smallgirl34


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Status: offline 		I have a different question I left a dom because of the women she was very crazy wants me back but while I was there he had me lie to the other woman that we weren't fucking and now he tells me she is gone has a job and wants me back but how do I know he's not lying again what do I tell him

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RE: Hi - 10/27/2015 6:20:19 PM   
Greta75


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ORIGINAL: smallgirl34

I have a different question I left a dom because of the women she was very crazy wants me back but while I was there he had me lie to the other woman that we weren't fucking and now he tells me she is gone has a job and wants me back but how do I know he's not lying again what do I tell him


You know the answer to this in your heart. You left him. Clearly you did in the first place because something was unacceptable.

Move on. If he lied once, he will lie again.

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RE: Hi - 10/27/2015 6:22:39 PM   
Greta75


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ORIGINAL: smallgirl34
I have met a wonderful guy online and only known him for 4 days and we click and now I want to know if its to soon to move in or meet him or should I wait a few months and get to know him more there is a guy on here that is just a little worried for me thinking im going to fast
Thank you if you can help me that would be great.

Meet him, gauge him, you must feel 100% comfortable with him before you move in with him.

You know trust your sixth sense, if you feel uncertain about him, slow it down until you feel certain.

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RE: Hi - 10/28/2015 3:08:32 AM   
spellslave


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ORIGINAL: peppermint

No, it's not too soon to arrange a meeting in a neutral and safe place such as a coffee shop or perhaps at your local munch if you are both local to each other. Yes, it's way too soon to be under consideration unless he is also under consideration.

Over the years I've talked with many people online. Some you click with quickly. That doesn't mean you'll click when you meet. Take your time.

I think you should do a search on the term "sub frenzy." It is usually used when talking about a newbie submissive who is in such a hurry to do everything NOW and be owned and collared NOW that she loses her common sense.


This. Treat it like a vanilla relationship; one step at a time, multiple dates if necessary.

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