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Need advice; neither can host. How to meet? - 10/30/2015 10:01:26 AM   
Onimod


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I'm in the Southern California area, near SD. I've found someone on CM and we've met publicly several times now. We have both been searching for a kink partner for many years, and are very excited to finally have something with so much potential. We're both ready to get more intimate, but there's a problem, neither of us can host. I have roommates, and thus unreliable privacy in my apartment, and they live with their family; so it's just not an option for either of us. On top of that, maintaining our anonymity in public is very important to us which is the major stumbling block here. We can't do the obvious thing, get a hotel room, because of course that would require providing ID.

While my forum search didn't yield anything relevant, I imagine this must be a common problem. So that's why I'm asking my fellow kinksters for advice, experience, or solutions they might have. For example, is there a technique to getting a clean hotel room with cash only that can bypass the need for ID? Are there sex/kink friendly facilities in the SD or s. LA area (something along the lines of... maybe, a spa)? What sort of hidden public areas can I look for were we'd be unlikely to be stumbled upon?

I would greatly appreciate any constructive feedback. Thanks everyone, for your time.
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RE: Need advice; neither can host. How to meet? - 10/30/2015 10:07:14 AM   
servantforuse


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Status: offline 		What is the problem with showing an ID at a hotel ? The hotel staff couldn't care less as to why you booked a room.

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RE: Need advice; neither can host. How to meet? - 10/30/2015 10:11:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		That or book a dungeon room for a while, they won't require ID but maybe a deposit

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RE: Need advice; neither can host. How to meet? - 10/30/2015 10:14:43 AM   
Onimod


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What is the problem with showing an ID at a hotel ? The hotel staff couldn't care less as to why you booked a room.


Hi, serv. I don't travel frequently, so I have limited experience with hotels. The problem lies in the room being registered to your name, at least that's how I understand it works.

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RE: Need advice; neither can host. How to meet? - 10/30/2015 10:18:01 AM   
servantforuse


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Status: offline 		The hotel isn't going to tell anyone you stayed there. It won't be in the next days paper. It really isn't a big deal.

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RE: Need advice; neither can host. How to meet? - 10/30/2015 10:18:12 AM   
ServeMistrix


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Status: offline 		All i am hearing between the lines here is underage... that, or, credit card is provided/monitored by mom/dad

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RE: Need advice; neither can host. How to meet? - 10/30/2015 10:34:56 AM   
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Status: offline 		Find a non chain motel, independently owned. Stop in and tell the clerk you'll be in need of a place in a week or two. Ask their rules. Then probably will write down your card number but they won't charge it, so it won't show up on a bill. Then pay them in cash.

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RE: Need advice; neither can host. How to meet? - 10/30/2015 10:45:03 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Onimod

We can't do the obvious thing, get a hotel room, because of course that would require providing ID.


quote:

What sort of hidden public areas can I look for were we'd be unlikely to be stumbled upon?



I find it interesting that you're concerned about giving your ID to a hotel, but yet you're willing to risk being labeled a sex offender for the rest of your life for having sex in a public place.

The hotel isn't going to give a shit as long as you don't disturb the other guests.


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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

That or book a dungeon room for a while, they won't require ID but maybe a deposit



The Playroom (formally Dungeon V) is available to rent at $60 per hour (I don't even know if they're still open)

But - a lot facilities in SoCal have the caveat that sex is not allowed because it changes the status of the club from a social club to a swingers club.


< Message edited by OsideGirl -- 10/30/2015 10:47:12 AM >

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RE: Need advice; neither can host. How to meet? - 10/30/2015 10:51:23 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Buy a tent, find a campground. Go midweek when the place will be mainly empty, and be quiet.

Many campgrounds rent out cabins also.

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RE: Need advice; neither can host. How to meet? - 10/30/2015 10:56:21 AM   
LadyConstanze


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Status: offline 		The Den Of Iniquity LA rents rooms to private couples, however they will make them sign that no sex is allowed and all that, but I think they then give them privacy. Especially if they are a private couple and it's not rented for a session where there is monetary exchange...

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RE: Need advice; neither can host. How to meet? - 10/30/2015 11:00:17 AM   
LuminousFire


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Status: offline 		I hear attached as the ability for you to tell room mates to partake their leave of hovel, get the fk out etc for an hour or 5 as you will be in the company of malady in bespoke corset panting for a spanking. But I may be wrong it happens sometimes. Like that time I predicted that shoes would grow on trees by the year 2010.

You have met several times brill – why not your room mates, or you her family. Obviously don’t start with this is my spanking partner in crime
Or are you after some fondling, canoodle time? Hotel, car, the bushes (avoid gorse bushes)

Get a room (it’s been said above as the simplest solution) it’s not rocket science. If it’s a credit card just draw out cash and loan me a tenner while you are at it for cheap booze as my lands run dry. Or say you are a pauper and have her pay for, it & mind that tenner.

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RE: Need advice; neither can host. How to meet? - 10/30/2015 11:01:00 AM   
freedomdwarf1


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Status: offline 		Not sure why all the cloak-and-dagger stuff is necessary.

As servant said, any out of town hotel/motel won't give two hoots as to who you are, who you're with, or what you're up to in the room. As long as you don't have a really noisy Frat party and wreck the joint, the staff won't give a monkeys what went on.
The chances of someone you know being there at the same time and seeing you is going to be miniscule.

I would have thought that a 27yo male living in an area that's not smack in the middle of the holier-than-thou bible belt would have some idea of what normal living is about even if you've never done it before.


And why would giving your ID to register at a hotel be a problem??
Hotels don't publish who's been there or for how long or what for.
Unless of course it's not your ID, not your credit card or your profile isn't correct.

Your post comes across as very juvenile and as Mistrix said, smacks of underage or not having your own credit card.
It's soo naive that it sounds like a 12yo geek trying to sneak a secret meet with his teen girlfriend behind his parent's back.


And something I say to people who are really paranoid about being found out....
Ask them what THEY were doing there!!!

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RE: Need advice; neither can host. How to meet? - 10/30/2015 12:37:00 PM   
sweetieDA


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ORIGINAL: ServeMistrix

All i am hearing between the lines here is underage... that, or, credit card is provided/monitored by mom/dad


That was my thought too.

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RE: Need advice; neither can host. How to meet? - 10/30/2015 6:03:24 PM   
DesFIP


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Buy a preloaded card and then whoever won't be able to find out.

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RE: Need advice; neither can host. How to meet? - 10/30/2015 8:11:23 PM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		You can't use a pre-loaded card for hotel rentals.
He may be worried about this showing up on his credit card bill. Not to worry. Book the hotel, you will have to use a credit card, but at the end of the stay pay in cash. Your credit card will hold the amount for a week or so, but it will not show up on the bill.
Just use cash. Hotels really don't care what you are doing as long as they get their cash. UNLESS you are planning to dump a damaged or worse body in the room and do not want a paper trail to you. Hopefully that is not the case. Otherwise you are being paranoid.

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RE: Need advice; neither can host. How to meet? - 10/30/2015 8:38:43 PM   
UllrsIshtar


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Status: offline 		How about... don't cheat/have sex with minors and you won't have this issue?

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RE: Need advice; neither can host. How to meet? - 10/30/2015 8:42:14 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Allow me to say unequivocally that if your play date is underage, I hope you get busted.

If not and you don't want to use a hotel, there are play spaces that will rent to you. Yes, the staff will card both of you to make sure you are over the age of consent. You might pay more than you will for a hotel but it might be worth it.

Hotels do not care what you are doing as long as you do not disturb other guests. You can avoid that by keeping the noise level in check. Gag for the bottom, of course, and keep the cracking noises (whip, dragon tail) under control. If you are sharing a wall with a vanilla guest, they aren't going to think somebody is swinging leather. They will think something else and it's not going to be in your favor.


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RE: Need advice; neither can host. How to meet? - 10/31/2015 9:53:52 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Onimod


quote:

ORIGINAL: servantforuse

What is the problem with showing an ID at a hotel ? The hotel staff couldn't care less as to why you booked a room.


Hi, serv. I don't travel frequently, so I have limited experience with hotels. The problem lies in the room being registered to your name, at least that's how I understand it works.


What is the specific problem with the hotel being registered in your name?

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RE: Need advice; neither can host. How to meet? - 10/31/2015 10:12:37 AM   
sexyred2


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Status: offline 		Obviously this guy has some problem he doesn't want to reveal or he is too naive to be needing a room in the first place.

It's not that difficult to get a hotel room anywhere.




P.S. This is sexyred1. I am locked out of my existing profile while support deals with it.

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