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Pearls of wisdom... - 7/17/2006 11:17:25 PM

talibahh

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Being still fairly *new* in the lifestyle, and knowing i still have so much to experience, learn and (hopfully) grow in, i was wondering, if some of the more experienced ones would mind/like to share some of their experiences they had, in their early days? Valuable lessons learned?

Maybe to clarify a little...

i am a slave, i am not doubting this... i am not here looking for validation or because i am *unsure* of who or what i am... rather, i seek to ask other slaves/subs if they have any little pearls of wisdom or funny little stories (in hindsight, perhaps ) of things they may have done or not done, or learnt in their early days, in serving, that may help those of us who are still fairly new in our journey...

and no... i don't mean the obvious stuff like *know yourself*, *be SSC*... i mean in practical terms, in serving... as i know and understand, that for everyone, lessons aren't always easily learned, or transitions as smooth as they might be (and no, for the cynics... i am NOT experiencing a hard time... i am just curious by nature, i think alot), and thought this might be fun and maybe even valuable to others learning, and maybe even show some of the realities to those who don't see the *life* in the style, for the *fantasy*...

And for Masters/Mistresses/Dom/mes, do You have any funny little stories, or hints on what definately NOT to do, or little pearls of wisdom on what is a good idea or not in being served by Your slave/sub?

And yes... i understand that it is still *life* which goes on each day, and i know everyone is different and each situation is unique... i am just after general stuff which may be enligthening for those of us who have not yet travelled as much of our journey as others may have...

i look forward to reading your responses, and thank you for them,

gratefully,
tali

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RE: Pearls of wisdom... - 7/18/2006 4:46:34 AM

nephandi

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i am new at this myself, however one thing i have leard it is tat there dont seam to be any magickal words of wisdom that wll make all more easy, be yourself and dont give up unthil you find what you are looking for is as close as you get i think.

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RE: Pearls of wisdom... - 7/18/2006 5:30:07 AM

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Hmmm...pearls of wisdom...

1. Murphy is ALWAYS waiting to kick your ass, so prepare accordingly
2. Purell has many uses (oh...and it sanitizes too)
3. Administering an intense flogging while receiving a blowjob from the flogee is not always a grand idea.
4 If you can tie it.... someone can wiggle out of it.
5 Wax can be very invasive.
6 Ginger... it's not just for cooking anymore
7 Kittens LOVE floggers
8 Kittens LOVE singletails... at first.
9 Never = about 6 months
10 What is good for the goose is NOT always what's good for the Gander.

~Thorns

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RE: Pearls of wisdom... - 7/18/2006 5:54:46 AM

Lordandmaster

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Well, how about this one...

If you can't tell your partner what you really need because you're afraid of your partner's response, he ain't the right partner for you.

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RE: Pearls of wisdom... - 7/18/2006 7:42:52 AM

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Too much chocolate sauce will give you a tummy ache and you will have to rent a steam cleaner for the rug.

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RE: Pearls of wisdom... - 7/18/2006 7:59:55 AM

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Reality is a pain in the arse, we all have to deal with it, it does get in the way but DON'T blaim yourself when it does.

A decent Dom/Master will just get on and deal with events as they happen (He may even have contingency plans for just such acts of wayward reality and sod's law), what he doesn't need to have to deal with a girl blaiming herself and panicing over things she could have had no control over, doing so is just making it more difficult to handle effectivly, not less.

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RE: Pearls of wisdom... - 7/18/2006 8:00:44 AM

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When you think you know it all-youv'e just begun.

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RE: Pearls of wisdom... - 7/18/2006 8:14:34 AM

akisha

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The more you learn the less you know

If someone can think of it there is probably someone willing to try it.

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RE: Pearls of wisdom... - 7/18/2006 8:45:01 AM

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Don't strive to be someone's everything ... it feeds failure and self-defeat.

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RE: Pearls of wisdom... - 7/18/2006 11:09:08 AM

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Dominants are imperfect beings just like you, we have fears, concerns, issues, needs, desires, and insecurities. Allow your dominant to be human and he/she will better fulfil your fantasies.

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RE: Pearls of wisdom... - 7/18/2006 11:16:24 AM

nstyslave

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( i am probably going to catch flack for this one, but here goes anyway).

Pearls of Wisdom:
Rule #1 - Master is always right.
Rule #2 - If Master is wrong, refer back to rule #1.
(However funny this may be, in actuality it is true...but shhhh i didn't tell.)

~nsty

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RE: Pearls of wisdom... - 7/18/2006 9:41:16 PM

cloudboy

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Courage is the first of human qualities because it is a quality which guarantees the others.

--Winston Churchill

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RE: Pearls of wisdom... - 7/18/2006 10:35:25 PM

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Two things i learned the hard way--don't go outside your marriage without first discussing it with your spouse, and don't allow anyone to take explicit pictures of you unless you know where they will end up.

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RE: Pearls of wisdom... - 7/19/2006 3:12:49 PM

LotusSong

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"It's all fun and games until someone puts a heart out".-my modification of an oldie for the lifestyle

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RE: Pearls of wisdom... - 7/19/2006 4:20:08 PM

ravn

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1- never jump into something head first- especially when there's a lot of rope involved- it helps to go into it the way you're supposed to
2- the one that looks like it will probably hurt the least is probably the most sinister
3- never let your safeword be 'Please fuck me in the ass instead, Sir'
(mega props on that one LordandMaster, btw)

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RE: Pearls of wisdom... - 7/19/2006 5:23:41 PM

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quote:

'Please fuck me in the ass instead, Sir'

Bwwaahahhahahaha. That is going to be my new proposed safeword. The fact I seldom use safewords is immaterial.

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RE: Pearls of wisdom... - 7/19/2006 7:30:09 PM

talibahh

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hello all... i am sorry it looked like i abandoned my own thread... but life happened, and i couldn't be here for a couple of days

i would very much like to thank you for your responses though, i have enjoyed them...

nephandi: i appreciate your words, however i wasn't looking for any *magical words to make it easier*... i am a believer that things worth doing are often not easy, and the struggle we might sometimes have accomplishing something we desire, makes the rewards and satisfaction of reaching them oh so much sweeter

MrThorns: thank You... You have me VERY curious about ginger now i loved your post!

LordandMaster: so very true... and i guess i am one of the lucky ones... my Master is the one person i can be so totally open and honest with and not be afraid to show Him all of me. i know i can, and i do ask Him (no matter how *dumb* i think it is) ANYTHING, or tell Him anything, and He always answers me and NEVER has made me feel stupid for asking... on the contrary... He encourages me to ask

CT: But i LOVE chocolate!!! lol

RavenMuse: Thank You... You seem to have a way with Your words and posts that always leave me pondering... knowing there is often more to them than 1st meets the eye... i really love that!

Caretakr: i know that i still know so very little, but i do look forward to learning so much more... thanks

akisha: so true! (haven't seen you in awhile... where have you been?)

enthralled: *Don't strive to be someone's everything... it feeds to failure and self defeat*... i love this... but i will and do strive to be the best slave i can be, in every way, for my Master, under His guidance and teaching

CrappyDom: It is so nice to hear a Dom admit that He too is human. i am not one generally, to put Doms on pedalstools. i am learning, however, that it is harder NOT to do this with my Master, as the more i learn about Him, the more i trust Him and adore Him... the more wonderful i know He is... but i haven't lost sight of the fact that He is human too (and really hope i don't)... so thanks.
                    i would also like to say, if i may, and i don't mean this as either an insult or to be condescending... i have been reading the boards a lot longer than i have been posting (and than my join date suggests)... and i feel, that lately, with Your posts, You are showing a deeper, more understanding side... i have noticed growth in You through Your posts... i am beginning to admire and respect You more, for Your words of wisdom and insight... and i thank You for this... i hope You take this as a compliment, as it is meant to be one

nsty slave: so true! i love this!

cloudboy: deep! thank You!

proudsub:  omg!   about the pics! what a thing to learn the hard way... thank you for sharing...

LotusSong: i have had my heart hurt (very much) in my early days... but i have never resented this... i hurt and i cried, but i used it as a positive thing - i learnt from it. i used it to self reflect and grow. i looked for the good stuff i had with Him - focused on what He taught me. And now, i am actually very grateful for the experience... He taught me much and helped me to reach the place i am at now... one that i am much happier and more secure in.
                   i think, it all depends on how we choose to view things. On how we choose to use life's *downers*, as to how a negative thing can be used and become a positive one, if we allow it. Thanks for sharing

ravn: i admire you and your posts as a fellow slave. i can see you have lived, learned and experienced so much. i value what you share... thank you!

sensualips: haven't seen you for ages... where you been?

thanks everyone for your responses... i truly appreciate them,
tali

< Message edited by talibahh -- 7/19/2006 7:39:38 PM >

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in giving You my freedom, i gain the freedom to be me ...
~ tali ~

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RE: Pearls of wisdom... - 7/19/2006 7:55:24 PM

LTRsubNW

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Pearls:

1) Never count your chickens...before they rip your lips off.

2) A penny saved...is a cent.

3) You can lead a horse to water, but if you think you can get him to mow your lawn, then I want that 50 bucks I loaned you written down and signed in front of a witness.

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RE: Pearls of wisdom... - 12/7/2007 7:32:38 AM

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My safeword: ouch!

Some Albanian proverbs

If you want to confuse an Englishman, simply ask him why an off-licence is called an off-licence.

The only safe place to grow cannabis is in a policeman's garden.

No two people can ever be lifelong friends unless they both die at the same moment.

When a man and a dog are joined together by a dog lead, it is the man who thinks he is leading but the dog who goes first.

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RE: Pearls of wisdom... - 12/7/2007 10:30:11 AM

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To crouchingtigress's chocolate comment I would add unless you want to be mistaken for a rabid dog, NEVER eat a peppermint life saver and drink diet coke at the same time!

Seriously, advice I would give is don't take advice unless it fits for you; be yourself and find someone that complements you rather than trying to be something else for them and roles do not mean that you have to give up that which is you or can't negotiate that which allows you to be safe and secure.

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