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Marc2b -> RE: wannabes (9/23/2006 11:21:21 PM)
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Since I describe myself in my profile as a wannabe, I think I’ll toss in my too cents.
Despite years of reading, researching, and thinking (read: whacking off to some really elaborate fantasies) about BDSM but never having actually participated in it, I felt it was important to be up-front and honest about my total lack of experience in the lifestyle. I didn’t want to use the word "newbie" because in my mind a newbie was someone who was just starting out (attending their first munch, having their first play date, etc.) Wannabe seemed more appropriate.
Even my profile name reflects my lack of experience. My mid-life crises was short but intense and I am now working on re-ordering my life so I can become what I want to become, taking it in a step by step process (attending my first much would be like... number seven, but I’m still working on number two). I have in my mind a vison of what a Master should be and hence what I should aim for. I always thought Marcus was a cool name so I have labeled this fantasy Master I want to be as Marcus. Hence my profile name is short for "Marcus to be."
Anyway, I knew that some use the term "wannabe" in a derogatory manner but I thought it would be akin to battle experienced soldiers calling the new, fresh out of basic training, replacement "green stick." I figured if your new you’ve got to take some jibes (and I am a firm believer that if you can’t laugh at yourself, then you have no business laughing at anyone else).
Seeing how some people use it as a serious insult (ascribing to a wannabe things that simply don’t apply to me), however, I am wondering if I shouldn’t change the word wannabe on my profile to something else. I don’t want people jumping to false conclusions about me (who does?). Newbie still doesn’t seem appropriate and "curious" doesn’t seem right either (I moved beyond "curious" and into "mental self indulgence" years ago). I am open to suggestions.
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