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RE: Responding to messages - 12/6/2004 4:38:50 PM

realophelia

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I don't think that people should feel obligated to reply to unsolicited email. If a person has an ad up, saying they are looking for something very specific, I don't think they are obligated to reply to those who obviously don't meet their specifications.

Otherwise, I think it is nice to reply but not always possible. As many others have said email volume (especially on new ads) can be overwhelming and by overwhelming I mean 100 emails in a day sort of overwhelming. Some people have the time to deal with that kind of volume but most don't. I don't think it has anything to do with character.

When I was looking, I didn't just run ads and wait for responses. I wrote to Doms who seemed interesting as well (that's how I met my Master). I would try to send the email out and then forget it completely. If someone didn't answer, I just figured I was not what they were looking for.

Best of luck in your search,
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RE: Responding to messages - 12/23/2004 6:17:58 AM

MasterOfIndy

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I don/t like it any more then any one else but it is a fact of life. Most of the time I just email to find out if they are in my area because they just put a state.

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RE: Responding to messages - 12/23/2004 3:45:26 PM

Goodmix

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I tried the "thank You, but no thank You" approach, but then got more messages back slamming me. Saying things like I wasn't real, or i have no idea what this lifestyle is all about....
i posted a thread asking if this was me. Was i handling this wrong? the responses i got back were that it was not me. I no longer felt obligated to respond if i wasn't interested. it was a relief because i wanted to be considerate, but didn't want to open myself up to ridicule, so i stopped responding if i wasn't interested. Why set myself up to be put down? (i'm insecure enough on my own)
sorry, it's not You, but Your counterparts that are causing You problems

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RE: Responding to messages - 12/23/2004 7:44:08 PM

inadazey

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Well, I have personal experience with both sides of the issue. When I was single, I never sent unsolicited mail, but did receive it, and although I've always had good intentions, it can get kind of overwhelming sending out tons of "thanks, but no thanks" replies. And "notes to self" to reply would get pushed aside by more pressing things, until so much time had passed that it seemed pointless to reply.

Now, I've experienced the other side, when I've sent out e-mails to other female subs as my Master and i have looked aeround for a playmate for me. Sure, it would be nice if everyone you wrote to acknowledged the mail.. but what kind of person would i be if i set others to higher standards than myself? Basically, if someone doesn't reply, it tells me it's not a possible match.. same as if they said so directly.

We all have real lives we need to attend to, and things that take a higher priority... Such is life. I'd just say to try not to take anything personally from an unknown person out there on his/her own computer..... And the only thing that really matters is if someone who also feels there could be a match replies, right?

Good luck with your search. :) ~daisy~

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RE: Responding to messages - 12/25/2004 7:10:00 AM

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RE: Responding to messages - 12/25/2004 6:27:44 PM

RealityFix

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I just move on if there is no reply.

I don't get bent out of shape about someone with no interest-I'm not an emotional masochist.

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RE: Responding to messages - 1/2/2005 7:11:31 AM

liltxsubby

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As a general rule, i try to respond to every e-mail i recieve. There are some though that just get an eye-roll and click. These tend to be from those that obvioulsy have not read my profile, and those that demand i respond. If someone is polite to me, i'll be polite back.

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RE: Responding to messages - 1/2/2005 10:53:49 AM

sarbonn

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sterlingsweet

I have stated very clearly in my profile what I am looking for;
That I am a Lesbian submisive/switch looking for a Lesbian Domme/switch into Monogamy.....

I get a message simply stating; "what a shame"

Now why the hell would I even want to respond to that??? Or even want
to debate in my head How to???

Actually, I got one of those recently. Yes, even submissive guys get contacted by people who aren't appropriate for them. The comment was almost identical. I wrote back, stating: "Yes, it's a shame. But good luck to you in finding what you're seeking anyway."

I personally believe in being polite to people regardless unless they write me to insult me.

Most of my real life friends are lesbian submissives (just seems to be the crowd that likes to hang out with me). We don't have to be interested in playing with each other to hang out and discuss the possibilities of what we're all seeking (because, not surprisingly, we're all seeking the same thing: dominant women).

Fortunately, my lesbian friends don't take an attitude of hating men. They're just not attracted to them. I notice, especially here on these boards, that the attitude is completely the opposite.

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RE: Responding to messages - 1/6/2005 7:29:17 AM

masterQsubbie

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Have you tried personalizing your message to them?

I hate getting the message "hey read my profile"

I mean I read profiles all the time. Take the time and read there whole profile and then send them a personalized email. It helps to show that your not just contacting every woman out there and taking the first that responds.

Also make sure your email settings are set up correctly and the the mail is not going into your bulk mail because unless you look there specifically you will not knoe they are there.

One last thought if you are only responding to the hottest girls out there you have to realize so are half the other men out there some of these girls get in the area of 300+emails a week so of corse they have to weed them out.

Good luck in the future

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