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I gotta say, this is my dynamic as well. I used to come home from work everyday, craving to be objectified by my x-dom, looking forward with excitement. Just happy to have quiet time and not say anything and let him do whatever. It brought me alot of peace. I have a very dominant and alpha personality, I reluctantly take control or take up leadership roles at work. But I don't feel that is the real me. Only because when others don't step up, I step up. Otherwise, nothing gets done. When someone else step up, I am so happy to play supporting role and not be the decision maker.
So it's super duper nice to come home and not think at all. And just trust someone else to do what he knows is best for me and just follow and go with it. And just relax and enjoy. Relaxing is what it seriously is. My happiest place is second in command, at work and at home.
I get what you're saying and you are describing a rather typical submissive mindset. I don't know if that automatically requires objectification, in that this would depend upon the D/s relationship dynamic and how it gets defined between partners.
Somebody mentioned to me in personal correspondence that we all get objectified. Well, of course we do. On the job, at school, doing team sports, scouting, as a member of anything and everything, the position you hold that you are representative of. You may be a mother, father, sister, brother, daughter, son, and become part of a collective; but you are the mother of a particular child, not everyone's mom ordinarily -- and if you are the type with open arms for others, it doesn't feel like objectification.
This is perhaps why I feel possessive of those whom I care about, a part of them (consensually) belongs to me. With my lover, my mate, my family, my pets, I feel a strong sense of ownership and loyalty. Less so with a friend. Much, much less with others. A doctor of mine will also belong to other patients, but he is still my doctor, or so-and-so was my teacher, my boss, or my employee.
The point being, that we usually accept in-group objectification. We may not like it, but to one extent or another we've accepted inescapable objectification. We can take pride in our ethnic heritage and feel a sense of clan loyalty. Or not. Our religious affiliations, and so forth. On the other hand, many of us bristle at being painted with so wide a brush.
There is safety in numbers and in having a collective identity, a certain belongingness. Some of us can safely own our behavior and beliefs, find words which mirror it, or even justify it. Women are like this (from Venus), men are like that (from Mars).
Those of us who identify with a personality type or zodiac sign, can say they are this way because they are [insert typology here]. Heck, I objectify myself each time I emphasize the characteristics of being a Scorpio, each and every time I refer to myself as a woman.
We all objectify ourselves and one another each and every day in terms of function. The server, the cashier, the gas attendant, the workman. People perform functions which lie outside of our inner circle where we don't see them as individuals.
Within our inner circles, though, when the scales fall off of our eyes and we do behold one another as individuals, this is what I don't understand: Why would someone purposefully seek out further objectification or extreme forms of objectification?
There must be several answers to this. One that comes to mind out of assorted possibilities is that personal objectification removes the stigma of rejection.
An object has purpose in that it serves a function. It only gets rejected for that purpose when it ceases to serve its intended function.
No doubt, I'm overthinking this.
Back to you Greta. Dominants, Masters, Mistresses, we get objectified by our subs & slaves nearly as much as you get objectified by us.
DreamLady
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