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RE: I don't understand the pain thing. - 1/18/2016 11:02:26 AM

SocialEnigma

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For me, it's about proving that I can endure. It's also an adrenaline rush. It's bonding and a million other things combined. It's about making him happy and showing that I can put a smile on his face. It's difficult to explain but a wonderful feeling.

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RE: I don't understand the pain thing. - 2/4/2016 2:49:29 AM

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Pain is a sensation our body feels and our brain processes.
Sensation is on a spectrum.
There is no linear relationship between sensation and perception.

What Mary perceives as pleasure Bob perceives as pain. Both of them are feeling the exact same sensation, inflicted through the exact same stimuli, at the exact same frequency and intensity. They just perceive it differently. Physiologically the body processes the stimuli the same way, Mary is just rewarded while Bob is punished -positive and negative reactions.

When I broke my foot it hurt. My injury was painful. I needed to take analgesics in order to function.

That's not the same pain as I perceive as pleasure. The pain inflicted by him is sensual, erotic, intimate and triggers my sexual response cycle so I orgasm. Take me out of the bedroom and I'm going to cry just kicking my toe!

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RE: I don't understand the pain thing. - 2/12/2016 7:36:21 AM

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The first time a guy took me up the bum, it really hurt - in fact I pulled away and ran off. it took me days to recover

But I still fantasise about it several years later - it was soooo arousing

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RE: I don't understand the pain thing. - 2/12/2016 11:58:12 AM

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Greetings. I rarely write but this is a subject near and dear to me.

But first about myself. I am a slave. An earlier SM submissive and now Gorean slave. I enjoy pain given in love and I live in a Gorean house as first girl. Yes, Goreans are passionate men, as a whole.

This is not so complex a subject. Pain is a stimulant raising our pleasure to heights never experienced before meeting Him.

While is it pain it is still His touch. It is simply physically and passionately stronger and the difference is it is not given in anger but quite the opposite, it is give by He who is master of our bodies and we respond with pleasure no matter how He touches us.

So, the reason pain is pleasure is how we think of Him and how and why he provides this touch, this pain. We admire our marks of passion in the mirror after we wake up and see our red stripes received that night are now a beautiful green and blue.

You cannot understand because there is no one to touch you as He does us. But someday maybe, I think.

I wish you well.

a girl of Avalon

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RE: I don't understand the pain thing. - 2/16/2016 1:32:31 PM

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If you can move past the physical and understa
the whole thing as energy... it changes everything.

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RE: I don't understand the pain thing. - 2/22/2016 7:56:54 PM

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I am not at all interested in extremes of pain.

That said, discomfort, pain applied in the right places, at the right time roots me deeply in my body. Being rooted deeply in my body allows me to get out of my head. Over thinking, over analyzing, obsessing about things in real life, about my own insecurities, etc are all things that keep me distant from my feelings and my body in an unhealthy way. Pain as well as pleasure are ways to rig the wiring - at least for me. They tear down my need to be anything other than feeling and in the exact moment I am in.

Subspace for me, is that. It is a strange absolute clarity, while at the same time a wizbanger of a euphoric rush. Everyone's threshold is different and there is nothing wrong with not "being into pain." There are tons of ways for anyone to reach that state that don't include it, it is up to you and your Dom/me to figure out what those are for you.

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RE: I don't understand the pain thing. - 3/3/2016 10:42:06 PM

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I do not like pain. I am no kind of masochist, but it's strange, I sometimes crave for HIS pain. To me its a very strong show of my submission to him. It's like I am saying "please hurt me so I can prove how much I will take for you".
None of this is a sexy game to me. It's genuine and very real. Yes, our sex life is incredibly exciting and the most incredible I have ever experienced, because of the element of his power and control over me partly, but thats only a small part of it.

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RE: I don't understand the pain thing. - 3/12/2016 6:18:39 AM

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the subject of pain is a bit complex.

on it's basis pain is a way for the body to tell us that you need to focus on something. it's similar to an alarm. to deal with pain the body releases several chemicals that, among other things, make you faster, stronger, more sensitive and rise the pain tolerance. in addition to those improvements the body also releases chemicals that will, after a while, revert the changes to normal (because your body can't stay at full power for too long)

a skillful sadist can control the pain he causes so the masochist increases the amount of those chemicals on her body and then "artificially" remove the first ones so all that's left are the ones that calm the body. the most known being endorphin which can be seen, more or less, a pleasure drug.

my former slave was by no means masochist. the idea of enjoying pain was something that scared her yet... I found one day while we were having sex that I was biting her clitoris as hard as I dared and it didn't register as painful. she saw it as gentle caressing her skin. no matter what I did or where. she was so "drugged" that she just felt caressed. when I finished playing with her she got the best nap ever.

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RE: I don't understand the pain thing. - 3/14/2016 1:06:48 PM

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I also think that the stereotypical whips and chains and ropes and things are corny as hell. I'm not a huge fan of pain, unless it's a consequence of a sexual service. I don't get things like bruising for the sake of bruising. But oh well, whatever,

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I do not like pain. I am no kind of masochist, but it's strange, I sometimes crave for HIS pain. To me its a very strong show of my submission to him. It's like I am saying "please hurt me so I can prove how much I will take for you".

Yes, that's what I like about it too. But pain for the sake of pain, to me it's a waste of energy.

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